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The Husband’s Key Within; How Self-awareness Unlocks The Door To Marital Success

In this episode, Emerson Eggerichs discusses the importance of self-awareness in marriage, particularly for husbands.

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The Husband’s Key Within; How Self-awareness Unlocks The Door To Marital Success

In this episode, Emerson Eggerichs discusses the importance of self-awareness in marriage, particularly for husbands.

The Husband’s Key Within; How Self-awareness Unlocks The Door To Marital Success

I Thought I'd Never Close Off My Spirit To My Spouse - Part 4

In the final episode of this podcast series Emerson continues to look at the common struggle of hardening our hearts in marriage when hurt or misunderstood, encouraging viewers to look beyond their pain and find hope for reconciliation.

I Thought I'd Never Close Off My Spirit To My Spouse - Part 4

I Thought I'd Never Close Off My Spirit To My Spouse - Part 3

In marriage, recurring conflicts often lead to emotional shutdowns and hardened hearts, resulting in a “crazy cycle” of unloving and disrespectful reactions. Emerson continues the discussion in part 3, revealing how, despite our natural defensive tendencies, adopting a heart of love and respect—as Jesus taught—can heal these rifts and restore connection.

I Thought I'd Never Close Off My Spirit To My Spouse - Part 3

I Thought I'd Never Close Off My Spirit To My Spouse - Part 2

In episode 2 Emerson continues to explore the painful reality of “hardness of heart” in marriage, a concept rooted in unmet needs, unintentional hurt, and self-protective behaviors that build emotional walls between spouses.

I Thought I'd Never Close Off My Spirit To My Spouse - Part 2

I Thought I'd Never Close Off My Spirit To My Spouse - Part 1

Emerson examines the often unspoken struggles that can erode even the most cherished marriages. Addressing the profound pain and disappointment felt by many spouses, he unpacks the concept of “hardness of heart” as it pertains to marriage, exploring how unresolved conflicts and self-protective walls can replace the intimacy God designed for couples.

I Thought I'd Never Close Off My Spirit To My Spouse - Part 1

Solomon and the Shulammite – His Unheeded Counsel, Transfer of Affection, and Lust

Emerson discusses the life of Solomon, exploring the themes of temptation, wisdom, and the importance of faithfulness in marriage. He highlights how even the wisest individuals can fall prey to their desires and the consequences of unheeded counsel.

Solomon and the Shulammite – His Unheeded Counsel, Transfer of Affection, and Lust

Rachel and Jacob: Her Desires and Unmet Expectations and His Discernment and Honesty - Part 2

In Part 2 Emerson shares how Jacob’s defensive reaction to Rachel’s demand for children reveals the destructive impact of unmet expectations and emotional outbursts in a marriage.

Rachel and Jacob: Her Desires and Unmet Expectations and His Discernment and Honesty - Part 2

Rachel and Jacob: Her Desires and Unmet Expectations and His Discernment and Honesty - Part 1

Explore the timeless story of Rachel and Jacob, a narrative rich with emotional struggles, unmet expectations, and communication missteps in this 2 part podcast.

Rachel and Jacob: Her Desires and Unmet Expectations and His Discernment and Honesty - Part 1

Therapy First, Theology Second?

In this episode, Emerson discusses the importance of prioritizing theology over therapy in understanding marriage and relationships. He shares his journey of studying male and female differences, emphasizing the need for a biblical foundation in counseling.

Therapy First, Theology Second?

Understanding and Sharing Needs: 8 Areas In Marriage - Real Testimonies - Part 2

Join Emerson for Part 2 as he wraps up the discussion of eight key areas of understanding and sharing needs in marriage.

Understanding and Sharing Needs: 8 Areas In Marriage - Real Testimonies - Part 2

Respectful Communication: The Key to Sharing Hard Truths

Emerson discusses the transformative power of respectful communication in sharing hard truths.

Respectful Communication: The Key to Sharing Hard Truths

Dealing with Defensiveness in Marriage: Exploring the 5 Stages of Reactive Behavior

Discover with Emerson how to navigate the challenges of defensiveness in relationships by exploring the delicate balance between overlooking offenses and addressing them with love and respect.

Dealing with Defensiveness in Marriage: Exploring the 5 Stages of Reactive Behavior

Asking God to Help You in The Marriage

In this episode, Emerson emphasizes the importance of asking God for help in marriage. He reminds listeners of the promises in Scripture that God intends to help us and encourages couples to come before the Lord and ask for help in a serious and ongoing way.

Asking God to Help You in The Marriage

Allies, Not Enemies: Refrain From Nuking Each Other

In this episode, Emerson discusses the importance of viewing your spouse as an ally rather than an enemy in marriage.

Allies, Not Enemies: Refrain From Nuking Each Other

Marriage Unto Christ: Inspiring Stories of Visualizing Jesus Beyond Your Spouse's Shoulder

Emerson and Jonathan discuss the concept of marriage unto Christ, where husbands and wives love and respect each other regardless of their spouse's response.

Marriage Unto Christ: Inspiring Stories of Visualizing Jesus Beyond Your Spouse's Shoulder

8 Hurdles To Love And Respect: Part 2

In Part 2, four more hurdles to love and respect in relationships: acting inconsistently, feeling neglected sexually or affectionately, possessing unrealistic expectations, and allowing for unpremeditated but damaging reactions.

8 Hurdles To Love And Respect: Part 2

8 Hurdles To Love And Respect: Part 1

Emerson and Jonathan Eggerichs address common obstacles couples face even after engaging with the Love and Respect framework. They highlight several key hurdles: blame, poor communication, stress, and resisting unconditional love and respect in part 1 by examining the testimonies of those who have written Emerson over the years.

8 Hurdles To Love And Respect: Part 1

A “Miracle” Can Happen In Your Marriage! - Part 2

In Part 2 Emerson and Jonathan continue to discuss the transformative power of the Love and Respect message in marriages. It features testimonies from couples who experienced miracles and reconciliation through applying these principles and seeking God's guidance.

A “Miracle” Can Happen In Your Marriage! - Part 2

A “Miracle” Can Happen In Your Marriage! - Part 1

In "A 'Miracle' Can Happen In Your Marriage! Part 1," Emerson and Jonathan share compelling testimonies from couples who have experienced profound transformations in their marriages through the Love and Respect message.

A “Miracle” Can Happen In Your Marriage! - Part 1

Love and Respect: God’s Blueprint for Resolving Marital Issues - Part 2

In Part 2, Jonathan and Emerson discuss the remedies for a happy marriage based on God's blueprint for love and respect. They emphasize the importance of embracing the biblical blueprint for marriage, understanding the command to love and respect, managing defensive reactions.

Love and Respect: God’s Blueprint for Resolving Marital Issues - Part 2

Love and Respect: God’s Blueprint for Resolving Marital Issues - Part 1

Emerson and Jonathan discuss the reasons for marital issues such as ignorance of God's command, overlooking each other's needs, offensive reactions, Expecting the other to change first, loss of hope and closing off, and fear of forgiveness.

Love and Respect: God’s Blueprint for Resolving Marital Issues - Part 1

Make Communication Easier for Your Spouse

The episode explores the importance of making communication easier for your spouse. Starting with a testimony from a wife, Emerson and Jonathan then provide two case studies to illustrate practical ways to improve communication.

Make Communication Easier for Your Spouse

Partners By Design: Five Gender-Specific Strengths to Celebrate in Your Spouse - Part 3 - Celebrate The Wife's Gender Strengths

Understanding and celebrating the unique qualities of a wife's femininity is crucial. Wives often possess intuitive empathy, relational orientation, nurturing caregiving, a family focus, and the role of cooperative peacemakers.

Partners By Design: Five Gender-Specific Strengths to Celebrate in Your Spouse - Part 3 - Celebrate The Wife's Gender Strengths

Partners By Design: Five Gender-Specific Strengths to Celebrate in Your Spouse - Part 2 - Celebrate The Husband’s Gender Strengths

In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss the gender-specific strengths of husbands. They highlight five main themes: solution-oriented, self-reliant provider, protective guardian, functional communicator, and how they can be work-related in identity.

Partners By Design: Five Gender-Specific Strengths to Celebrate in Your Spouse - Part 2 - Celebrate The Husband’s Gender Strengths

Partners By Design: Five Gender-Specific Strengths to Celebrate in Your Spouse - Part 1

In Part 1 Emerson and Jonathan consider God's design of gender differences in marriage and how misunderstandings about these differences can lead to marital strife.

Partners By Design: Five Gender-Specific Strengths to Celebrate in Your Spouse - Part 1

His Blue, Her Pink: Navigating the Multicolored Aspects of Marriage (The Sexual and Emotional)

Too often, we feel that because we are equal in God's eyes, we must therefore be the same. Yet, Jesus asked the question in Matthew 19:4, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE...?" Join Emerson and Jonathan as they consider four stories about husbands and wives.

His Blue, Her Pink: Navigating the Multicolored Aspects of Marriage (The Sexual and Emotional)

C.H.A.I.R.S. - The Masculine Mindset

In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan explore the masculine mindset through the acronym CHAIRS, detailing the six key desires men have in relationships: Conquest, Hierarchy, Authority, Insight, Relationship, and Sexuality. They contrast these with the six needs a wife has...

C.H.A.I.R.S. - The Masculine Mindset

Could You Be Overreacting to an Issue That Isn’t Moral?

Emerson and Jonathan discuss how misinterpretations can lead to overreactions in marriage. They explore various examples where spouses misinterpret each other's actions and intentions, causing unnecessary conflict.

Could You Be Overreacting to an Issue That Isn’t Moral?

Rising Above Ineffective Problem-Solving Strategies - Part 2

In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan continue their exploration of effective problem-solving strategies, focusing on acknowledging personal contributions to issues.

Rising Above Ineffective Problem-Solving Strategies - Part 2

Rising Above Ineffective Problem-Solving Strategies - Part 1

In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss the art of rising above ineffective problem-solving strategies.

Rising Above Ineffective Problem-Solving Strategies - Part 1

The Win-Win Couple Discusses These Six Things When in Disagreement

In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss how couples can find win-win solutions when they are in disagreement. They emphasize the importance of discussing the facts, feelings, negatives, positives, proposals, and plans.

The Win-Win Couple Discusses These Six Things When in Disagreement

Why Do Some Husbands And Wives Resist Learning About A Win-Win Marriage? - Part 2

In Part 2, Jonathan and Emerson continue to discuss the reasons why some husbands and wives resist the idea of a win-win marriage. They cover topics such as selfish control, better than thou attitude, arrogance and lack of humility, lack of positive role models, limited negotiation skills, and disbelief in win-win.

Why Do Some Husbands And Wives Resist Learning About A Win-Win Marriage? - Part 2

Why Do Some Husbands And Wives Resist Learning About A Win-Win Marriage? - Part 1

The conversation first briefly covers six steps to achieving a win-win that Emerson has discussed elsewhere and will unpack with more depth in future courses, but primarily looks at reasons why some resist this approach, and how to overcome common fears and obstacles such as pessimism, the unknown, vulnerability, hurt, manipulation, and stubbornness.

Why Do Some Husbands And Wives Resist Learning About A Win-Win Marriage? - Part 1

Finding Agreement- The Deeper Secret Behind a Sleep Apnea Mask

In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss the importance of finding agreement in a marriage, particularly when it comes to sexual intimacy. They share a story of a couple who went through Emerson's win-win marriage course and how they found agreement on the issue of sleep apnea.

Finding Agreement- The Deeper Secret Behind a Sleep Apnea Mask

Intimacy in Marriage: I Need You and You Need Me... I Have Your Back and You Have My Back

In this episode the importance of expressing and responding to needs and vulnerabilities in marriage is discussed by Emerson and Jonathan. They emphasize the biblical basis for saying "I need you" and "I have your back" to your spouse.

Intimacy in Marriage: I Need You and You Need Me... I Have Your Back and You Have My Back

Guard Against Thinking You Are the Only One Trying to Get Off the Crazy Cycle

Emerson and Jonathan discuss the concept of the 'crazy cycle' in relationships, where a wife's feeling of being unloved leads to disrespectful reactions toward her husband, and vice versa.

Guard Against Thinking You Are the Only One Trying to Get Off the Crazy Cycle

Husbands Love Marriage, But It's Not Always Obvious

Emerson and Jonathan discuss the importance of understanding that husband’s love marriage too but recognizing how this might come across differently and some of the reasons husbands might be perceived as not loving the marriage.

Husbands Love Marriage, But It's Not Always Obvious

How to Propose to Your Spouse to Make Small Adjustments in The Marriage

Jonathan and Emerson discuss the importance of resolving small problems in a marriage. They emphasize that the accumulation of little issues can lead to bigger problems over time.

How to Propose to Your Spouse to Make Small Adjustments in The Marriage

Love and Respect Improves Communication

Emerson and Jonathan explore the importance of love and respect in improving communication within marriage. The analogy of love and respect as food and water is used to emphasize their essential role in a healthy relationship.

Love and Respect Improves Communication

Does One Spouse Have the Power to Positively Affect the Marriage?

Emerson and Jonathan challenge couples to reconsider their perspectives on marital issues, looking beyond negative aspects and exploring the front-side strengths of each spouse.

Does One Spouse Have the Power to Positively Affect the Marriage?

Pink and Blue Differences Related to Six Challenges Every Couple Experiences

Join Emerson and Jonathan this episode as they discuss the aspects of marriage outlined in First Corinthians 7, six challenges faced by every married couple. These challenges encompass differing needs, vulnerabilities, disagreements, disappointments, insecurities, and hardships, symbolized as "his and her" in the realms of pink and blue.

Pink and Blue Differences Related to Six Challenges Every Couple Experiences

An Aphrodisiac for Your Wife: C.O.U.P.L.E.

Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss the essential elements of an aphrodisiac for wives. Drawing on insights from the Love & Respect Book and Workbook, they emphasize the crucial role of emotional closeness in fostering a satisfying sexual relationship.

An Aphrodisiac for Your Wife: C.O.U.P.L.E.

The Rules of Engagement for a Well-Utilized Time-Out

Emerson and Jonathan explore the concept of "time-outs" in marriage during conflict. Emerson emphasizes the importance of recognizing when a break is needed during a heated argument, just as in sports, a well-timed time-out can change the game's outcome.

The Rules of Engagement for a Well-Utilized Time-Out

8 Ways To Jump Off The Crazy Cycle

Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss 8 ways to prevent and get off the Crazy Cycle (see Episode 1 for a deeper explanation of the Crazy Cycle. Examples include what to do when you see the spirit of your spouse deflate, accepting some trouble as normal, and trusting in each other's goodwill.

8 Ways To Jump Off The Crazy Cycle

The Four Seasons of Marriage - Part III

Join Emerson and Jonathan for Part III of this three part series. Why is marital paradise lost? Why do couples feel they have left Eden and live in a jungle of sorts? Since Scripture indicates couples will have trouble in this life why are husbands and wives unprepared? The answer is simple: they do not anticipate and accept the four seasons. In one way or another all couples will go through the four seasons. Those who go through them without defeat do so because they anticipate and accept the process.

The Four Seasons of Marriage - Part III

The Four Seasons of Marriage - Part II

Join Emerson and Jonathan for Part II of this three part series. Why is marital paradise lost? Why do couples feel they have left Eden and live in a jungle of sorts? Since Scripture indicates couples will have trouble in this life why are husbands and wives unprepared? The answer is simple: they do not anticipate and accept the four seasons. In one way or another all couples will go through the four seasons. Those who go through them without defeat do so because they anticipate and accept the process.

The Four Seasons of Marriage - Part II

The Four Seasons of Marriage - Part I

Why is marital paradise lost? Why do couples feel they have left Eden and live in a jungle of sorts? Since Scripture indicates couples will have trouble in this life why are husbands and wives unprepared? The answer is simple: they do not anticipate and accept the four seasons. In one way or another all couples will go through the four seasons. Those who go through them without defeat do so because they anticipate and accept the process. Join Emerson and Jonathan for Part I of this three part series.

The Four Seasons of Marriage - Part I

Submission and Mutual Submission - Yikes!

Submission, mutual submission, headship, authority, responsibility, equality, and decision making. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss these very lite topics which stir up very few strong emotions in people :) **Jonathan's audio sounds poor and the issue was a bad cable. Our apologies.

Submission and Mutual Submission - Yikes!

Have You Seen These Crazy Cycles Between Managers and Employees?

Men and women need love and respect as human beings in the workplace. Though there are daily demands to fulfill the mission of the organization apart from these emotional attitudes toward each other, that company will perform well when the men and women get off what I call the Crazy Cycle. Without love (care) a woman reacts without respect and without respect a man reacts without love (care). But added to this craziness is the tension between managers and employees. When employees feel unloved (uncared for) they react in ways that feel disrespectful to managers and when managers feel disrespected they react in ways that feel unloving (uncaring) to employees. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this new topic.

Have You Seen These Crazy Cycles Between Managers and Employees?

Do Some Husbands Live By A Double Standard And Is That Ok Because They Can't Help It? - Part II

In Part II this week Emerson and Jonathan continue the discussion about some husbands habitually looking at other women and having a double standard. Knowing this double standard exists, what should a husband and wife now do about his looking at other women? Emerson and Jonathan attempt to answer this question.

Do Some Husbands Live By A Double Standard And Is That Ok Because They Can't Help It? - Part II

Do Some Husbands Live By A Double Standard And Is That Ok Because They Can't Help It? - Part I

Do husbands have a double standard? Emerson and Jonathan invite you to join them this week and consider one that they have observed. Some wives hear from their husbands, “I can look at women because God designed me to look at the female figure, but you must not look at men.” While the subject of pornography is an important issue this episode is not about that. Instead, this episode looks at husbands who habitually look at women around them.

Do Some Husbands Live By A Double Standard And Is That Ok Because They Can't Help It? - Part I

Do Some Wives Live by A Double Standard, And Is That Ok Because They Are Vulnerable Victims? Part II

In part 2 Emerson answers the question, "Where do we go from here?" continuing the discussion of the double standard that confuses some husbands and will definitely confuse young sons who will see men and women as equal but women getting a pass for having attitudes that when manifested in men are condemned as self-centered arrogance. Look at the next couple of episodes for this topic as it relates to men.

Do Some Wives Live by A Double Standard, And Is That Ok Because They Are Vulnerable Victims? Part II

Do Some Wives Live by A Double Standard, And Is That Ok Because They Are Vulnerable Victims? Part I

In this week's episode Emerson and Jonathan highlight a double standard that confuses some husbands and will definitely confuse our young sons who will see men and women as equal but women getting a pass for having attitudes that when manifested in men are condemned as self-centered arrogance. Stay tuned for Part II of this topic and then the same topic as it applies to men in the coming weeks.

Do Some Wives Live by A Double Standard, And Is That Ok Because They Are Vulnerable Victims? Part I

What Are The Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? - Part II - Rick Warren Invites Emerson to Speak

Part II - Rick Warren invited Emerson to speak at Saddleback Church on the topic of relationships. Presented to more than 20,000 people, listen in as Emerson focuses on these three areas: 1. What Are the Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? 2. What Happens When We Innocently Overlook These Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? 3. How Do We Ensure Applying These Two Key Ingredients In Order to Succeed in Relationships?

What Are The Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? - Part II - Rick Warren Invites Emerson to Speak

What Are the Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? Part I - Rick Warren Invites Emerson To Speak

Rick Warren invited Emerson to speak at Saddleback Church on the topic of relationships. Presented to more than 20,000 people, listen in as Emerson focuses on these three areas (this is Part I of II): 1. What Are the Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? 2. What Happens When We Innocently Overlook These Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? 3. How Do We Ensure Applying These Two Key Ingredients In Order to Succeed in Relationships?

What Are the Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? Part I - Rick Warren Invites Emerson To Speak

Does God Want Me To Divorce To Be Happy?

“God wants you to be happy.” Have you heard this platitude before? Has it perhaps been spoken to you? Maybe you’ve even heard it said in the context of someone being encouraged to divorce their spouse, because “God wants you to be happy.” However, some platitudes, though quite memorable, are not based on biblical truth. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this important topic.

Does God Want Me To Divorce To Be Happy?

Can We Manipulate Each Other With The Love And Respect Teaching?

Though God commands the husband to love and a wife to respect, a strange twist might take place. A wife puts on respect for one reason: to get her husband to be loving. A husband puts on love solely to get his wife to respect him. One pastor wrote Emerson and shared his concerns fearing this very thing: that husbands and wives will manipulate each other when applying love and respect based on Ephesians 5:33. Join Emerson and Jonathan this weeks as they discuss this topic.

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Can We Manipulate Each Other With The Love And Respect Teaching?

Do You Feel Judged as Stupid or Wrong, Which Leaves You Feeling Unloved and Disrespected?

We can feel stupid and wrong in our marriage. When we feel stupid and wrong in the marriage, we can draw conclusions about ourselves that are untrue in the eyes of God and react in ways that won’t remedy the pain, such as believing the lie (s) about ourselves or considering divorce. Our spouse will affect us emotionally but negative words cannot determine who God made us to be. We can begin to realize inner wisdom and the rightness about how we are living, even if a spouse refuses to acknowledge it. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this topic.

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Do You Feel Judged as Stupid or Wrong, Which Leaves You Feeling Unloved and Disrespected?

What Did You Do To Come Through Your Marital Crisis?

Are you in or have you come through a marital crisis? You could be the innocent victim with a wounded heart who experienced shock or the remorseful offender with a contrite heart who experienced shame. There could have been any number of reasons for the crisis. Typically, though, a crisis falls under one or more of what Emerson refers to as the six A’s: adultery, abandonment, abuse, addiction, adversity, and apathy. Your situation may involve something outside of those, but join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this topic.

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What Did You Do To Come Through Your Marital Crisis?

What if Love and Respect Do Not Work With My Spouse?

Some people live in fear that as they seek to apply the Love and Respect message their spouse will not respond in like manner, and then when that happens it confirms their fears. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this important topic.

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What if Love and Respect Do Not Work With My Spouse?

Why Do Goodwilled Wives Feel Frustrated?

This week Emerson and Jonathan look at the behavior of a husband who bullies. There are many things that hurt and frustrate wives but there is a type of female who emails Emerson with this complaint: "I must stuff my feelings, keep my mouth shut, and do as he says." While some wives who write this type of email may be overreacting or misrepresenting the facts, despotic husbands exist who roar commands at their good willed wives. Their excessive and unloving decrees leave their wives feeling hurt, frustrated, confused, and worthless. Join Emerson and Jonathan as they discuss this topic.

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Why Do Goodwilled Wives Feel Frustrated?

Why Do Goodwilled Husbands Feel Frustrated?

In this week's episode Emerson and Jonathan look at a specific example of a husband and wife disagreeing on how they should approach their son, where the husband is reporting significant frustration. Taking the position that mothers and wives are never mean-spirited in such situations but that they truly care, Emerson discusses how her fears and care have unintended consequences toward the good willed husband.

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Why Do Goodwilled Husbands Feel Frustrated?

19 Love and Respect Truisms and Principles to Live By

Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss 19 simple, yet sometimes difficult to do, principles from the Love and Respect message. From monitoring your thoughts and feelings in interactions with your spouse, to what to say and do, practicing a few of these can improve your marriage.

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19 Love and Respect Truisms and Principles to Live By

Are Husbands Hyper-Sensitive or Just Highly-Sensitive to Disrespect?

Some husbands are hyper-sensitive to anything that strikes them as disrespectful. They overreact to their good willed wives who do not intend any such disrespect. Sadly, these men read disrespect into her every question, concern, or disagreement. Some husbands are just sensitive to undeserving disrespect. Though they humbly appeal to their wives to halt the rudeness toward them as men, husbands and fathers, these women claim the husbands are overly sensitive. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this important issue. See episode 088 to hear this topic as it pertains to wives.

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Are Husbands Hyper-Sensitive or Just Highly-Sensitive to Disrespect?

Are Wives HyperSensitive or Just Highly Sensitive to A Husband’s Unclear Comments?

Typically speaking, most husbands are assured of their wives love. Women are virtuous and excellent caregivers. Because of a wife’s loving and nurturing nature few men have an undercurrent of curiosity and insecurity about a wife’s love. Women love to love, and men know this. However, with many wives there is an undercurrent of curiosity and insecurity that they possess in their souls that their husbands do not possess: “Does he really love me as much as I love him?” Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this topic. Husbands: If you use this information against your wife, claiming she is hyper-sensitive, and you say it in an unloving way, then you are in the fact the insensitive one.

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Are Wives HyperSensitive or Just Highly Sensitive to A Husband’s Unclear Comments?

3 Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part 3

In Part 3 of this series on dating Emerson looks back briefly at becoming a mature person and looking for a mature person but that for Christians a third component is needed, Doing God's Will As a Couple. When we do not have a purpose beyond ourselves, we end up focusing only on ourselves. When we do not think of something bigger than ourselves, we will only think of ourselves. When nothing is more important than ourselves, than we alone are important. However, when we fight for something bigger than ourselves, we fight with each other less! That may not be the most noble of reasons to follow Christ but it certainly leads to marital satisfaction!

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3 Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part 3

3 Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part 2

Emerson and Jonathan continue this three part series on what leads to a successful marriage. In Part 1 they looked at being a mature person. In Part 2 they look at finding a mature person. This three part series is perfect for anyone who is dating or unmarried, but also for anyone who knows someone that is. Additionally, do you have children or plan on having children? This can help you in your conversations with them about marriage.

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3 Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part 2

3 Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part 1

This three part series is perfect for anyone who is dating or unmarried, but also for anyone who knows someone that is. Additionally, do you have children or plan on having children? This can help you in your conversations with them about marriage. In thinking about his own daughter's upcoming marriage Emerson composed his thoughts on preparing for marriage, which includes being a mature person, looking for a mature person, and being motivated by Christ's mission as a couple.

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3 Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part 1

God Joined you together - What Does This Mean?

Does God intend to direct our steps to one and only one person that He designed from eternity past to be our soul-mate? Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss the topic of a soul-mate. Whether you are a person looking to get married or have been married for many years but think you married the wrong person, this episode will provide insight.

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God Joined you together - What Does This Mean?

What is the Issue When the Issue Isn’t the Issue?

Drawing upon principles of the Crazy Cycle Emerson responds separately to a wife and to a husband about two different issues. He helps them understand that they need to approach their spouse with love and respect, which is an issue, while still addressing the topic at hand. This episode will help listeners discern what really is the issue when an issue is being discussed.

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What is the Issue When the Issue Isn’t the Issue?

Is Your Wife Really Trying To Be Negative and Disrespectful?

A husband wrote, “My wife and I have been married for almost two years. . . . Our disagreements are centered on her emotional outbursts and my lack of emotion. . . . I do love the emotion my wife has and I know God has us together to love and respect each other as we seek to glorify him, but I struggle when my wife justifies some behavior as her uncontrollable emotional reaction. I am not looking for something to condemn her with, instead I would like your viewpoint on how one best handles this type of ongoing disagreement.” Emerson responds in this week's episode.

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Is Your Wife Really Trying To Be Negative and Disrespectful?

After An Affair Is Ongoing Contact With the Other Person Ok?

Over the years Emerson has received hundred of emails regarding affairs, often from the betrayed spouse asking what they should do. Both Emerson and Jonathan have also listened to countless stories of infidelity as they counsel individuals and couples. Join them this week as they explore a response Emerson wrote to a man who wondered if he was handling things correctly following an affair. This message is applicable for husband and wife, both the betrayed and the betrayer.

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After An Affair Is Ongoing Contact With the Other Person Ok?

9 Ways To Fuel Disagreements Into a Feud

Over time, two people can hurt, frustrate, confuse, and anger the other. She feels that her differing opinion and convictions do not matter to him as much as his own ideas matter. Or, he feels that his differing outlook and beliefs have little importance to her compared to how she feels about her views. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss how individuals begin to feel that their ideas do not matter and that they do not matter on the heels of another disagreement, but how they must guard against the 9 Ways to Fuel Disagreements Into a Feud.

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9 Ways To Fuel Disagreements Into a Feud

When We Address a Man’s Needs - Why Do Some Women Hijack the Discussion?

Some feel that when we talk about what is true of most males we are implying this is untrue of women. When some ladies feel this way, they change the focus to the woman. Why? Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss a difficult topic following and expanding upon a recent blog. WARNING: this may be difficult for some to hear and we aren't talking about the volume.

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When We Address a Man’s Needs - Why Do Some Women Hijack the Discussion?

3 Reasons Some Counselors Are Bad At Marriage Counseling

This week Emerson and Jonathan discuss some of the difficulties in finding a good Christian marriage counselor. They discuss how some counselors have a difficult time working with couples because of an individualistic approach, how some counselors have a negative male bias, and how some counselors maintain moral neutrality, plus practical recommendations for dealing with these issues. Whether for you or someone you know, this episode will be helpful for those in or considering marital counseling.

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3 Reasons Some Counselors Are Bad At Marriage Counseling

Why The Deception In Marriage?

In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss six examples of the hurt the innocent party feels when discovering their husband or wife lies to them: three examples from wives and three from husbands. Reasons for the lying occurring and what should have been done are discussed. Listeners are encouraged to come up with their own answers, apply to their own relationships and share with others.

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Why The Deception In Marriage?

Our Marriage Hit Rock Bottom - A Wife’s Story

Listen in this week as Emerson and Jonathan discuss a wife's story about her marriage hitting rock bottom and what she did about it. Here are a few of her words - "We went to counseling, and that did not seem to help. My husband told me he loved me, but wasn’t attracted to me and didn’t feel “in love” with me...I decided to try one of your exercises. I told my husband why I respected him. I remember having to think about it all night."

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29:30

Our Marriage Hit Rock Bottom - A Wife’s Story

Does Your Spouse Dictate Your Worth as a Person? Who Determines Who You Are?

In every marriage each spouse negatively affects the other, at least sometimes. When on the receiving end of the negativity, we feel disappointed, sad, hurt, grieved, frustrated, angry, and even devastated. In some instances, the pain proves nearly unbearable, such as when a spouse serves us divorce papers. We are not mechanical robots without emotions. But can a spouse make us feel worthless in the core of our being, ordaining that our life has no meaning or purpose? Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this topic.

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31:18

Does Your Spouse Dictate Your Worth as a Person? Who Determines Who You Are?

What Did We Know about Marriage as a Six-Year-Old but Forgot as an Adult?

Have we forgotten what we knew about marriage at age six? In response to a recent video that went viral, Emerson and Jonathan discuss the things we knew as children, such as mommy and daddy ought to be friendly with each other because all mommies and daddies ought to be friends. What we knew, why things often change, and then three practical ways friendship can enter a marriage again are discussed.

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32:04

What Did We Know about Marriage as a Six-Year-Old but Forgot as an Adult?

Do You BOTH Take Responsibility for the Lack of Love and Respect?

This week Emerson and Jonathan discuss how good things happen to a couple when both contend they are the one responsible for the lack of love and respect in the marriage. For instance when both say, "My response is my responsibility and I could have been more loving and respectful even when you were having a bad day,” the nature of the marriage changes for the better—much better.

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38:31

Do You BOTH Take Responsibility for the Lack of Love and Respect?

How a Wife Won Her Husband - His Testimony

Through the testimony of a husband who engaged in online affairs, Emerson and Jonathan discuss and respond to his report that his wife facilitated the reconciliation through her words and behavior. He said, "She showed me respect when I did not deserve it."

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33:10

How a Wife Won Her Husband - His Testimony

Respect Talk: A Husband’s Mother-Tongue

In this week's episode Emerson and Jonathan look specifically at the topic of respect as it pertains to a husband. Why respect? When a wife feels unloved, her tendency is to be disrespectful. Her disrespect is her attempt to motivate her husband to change. Her dark look, negative words and unsupportive actions are designed to send him a message: “You are hurting me. Be more loving!” But no husband feels fond feelings of affection toward a woman he thinks despises him (2 Samuel 6:16).

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35:11

Respect Talk: A Husband’s Mother-Tongue

My Wife is Leaving Me

Why does it take a crisis of a spouse leaving to awaken a person to their unloving and disrespectful behavior? Emerson and Jonathan attempt to answer this question by looking at a recent testimony from a husband who confessed and awakened.

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32:41

My Wife is Leaving Me

Dear God, Change My Husband

In this week's episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss the good intentions, but pitfalls of some wives' desire to change their husbands.

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32:52

Dear God, Change My Husband

Why Does My Wife Want To Be So Close To Me?

In this weeks episode Emerson and Jonathan examine the letter C, for Closeness, from the acronym C.O.U.P.L.E., which is how a husband can spell love to a wife. Through testimonies from wives, some commonly understood differences between most men and women, and biblical wisdom, Emerson unpacks this critical component for husbands to better relate to their wives.

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35:35

Why Does My Wife Want To Be So Close To Me?

What Does Winning The Lottery Have To Do With Marriage And Heaven? Part 2

In Part 2 of What Does Winning The Lottery Have To Do With Marriage And Heaven? Emerson and Jonathan continue the discussion about rewarded and unrewarded believers. While difficult concepts are discussed, salient scriptures are examined that pertain to why we do what we do as Christians when it comes to marriage, parenting, and beyond.

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What Does Winning The Lottery Have To Do With Marriage And Heaven? Part 2

What Does Winning The Lottery Have To Do With Marriage And Heaven? Part 1

In this week's episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss specific Scriptures about heaven, future rewards, and why it is that what we do in this life matters more than we may realize. Whether in marriage, parenting, or relationships in general, this message is sure to enrich and empower as one understands that nothing is wasted when we do things unto Christ.

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What Does Winning The Lottery Have To Do With Marriage And Heaven? Part 1

My Love is Behind My Disrespect

This week Emerson and Jonathan discuss a recent inquiry that Emerson received from a wife saying, "My love is behind my disrespect." What she is essentially saying is, because the intent is good, the means are justified, especially since it seems to work with her husband. Emerson and Jonathan respond in this week’s episode.

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31:33

My Love is Behind My Disrespect

What Is The Issue With a Grumpy Husband?

Emerson and Jonathan begin a discussion about grumpiness and husbands. However, looking at the issue from both perspectives, Emerson challenges husbands and wives on an issue that is present in many homes. Renew your hope and be encouraged in that we do not need to stay where we are; we can make changes.

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35:28

What Is The Issue With a Grumpy Husband?

Who Makes the Final Decision When You Are Stalemated?

Have you ever had a difficult time making a decision--either alone or with another person? In this week’s episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss what to do when you and your spouse are in a stalemate or gridlocked on an issue. Drawing upon the Bible as well as the world of business and sports, you will be sure to find something useful in this episode about decision-making inside of marriage.

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35:33

Who Makes the Final Decision When You Are Stalemated?

My Situation Is Complex, Beyond Love & Respect!

Emerson is often told that the Love and Respect principles are too simple for a particularly complex situation, and so therefore they don't apply. In this week’s episode, he responds by discussing various difficult or complex situations and making the case that love and respect are like food and water to any given situation--they are necessary, but specific interventions, resources, etc. must be brought to the uniqueness of each situation.

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My Situation Is Complex, Beyond Love & Respect!

Three Ways To Murder Your Marriage - Part 2

In Part 2 of this 2-part series, Emerson and Jonathan continue their discussion about the motive, means, and opportunities people use to justify killing their marriage, while forgetting the ways by which to resurrect it. While acknowledging there are justified, biblical reasons for divorce, as well as terrible and difficult situations requiring local, direct, and wise counsel, Emerson and Jonathan take a look at what a couple can do to keep from murdering their marriage.

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35:25

Three Ways To Murder Your Marriage - Part 2

Three Ways To Murder Your Marriage Part 1

In Part 1 of this 2-part podcast series, Emerson and Jonathan begin discussing why some people leave their marriage. With motive, means and opportunity, there are many ways to sabotage a marriage and get it to end, but what are the biblical reasons for separation and divorce? Listen in to find out.

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36:05

Three Ways To Murder Your Marriage Part 1

Tuesday Night is Coming Part 2 - A Good Woman's View of Sex

As a sequel to a very popular podcast, Tuesday Night Is Coming, Emerson and Jonathan discuss a powerful and insightful email from a woman who details the way many wives feel about sex in relationship to their husband. Both husbands and wives will appreciate this episode.

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31:48

Tuesday Night is Coming Part 2 - A Good Woman's View of Sex

Is Your Wife Really Finished With Your Marriage? Look Again!

In this week’s episode, Emerson and Jonathan review and discuss a recent email exchange that Emerson had with a deployed soldier who believed his wife was going to divorce him. They explore what spouses can do in a relationship when very serious things are implied or stated. This episode will also help those who are trying to figure out what to say and do in response to relationships they know are not doing well.

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38:13

Is Your Wife Really Finished With Your Marriage? Look Again!

4 Prayers That Will Impact Your Marriage

Can prayer impact your relationship?  Emerson and Jonathan look at four areas where an individual or couple can invite God in. The Presence, Peace, Power, and Purpose of God are examined through four specific prayers and corresponding Bible verses.

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35:43

4 Prayers That Will Impact Your Marriage

Who Do You Feel Is Responsible For the Success of Your Marriage?

Emerson and Jonathan discuss responsibility inside of marriage, including the notion that some of us hold others responsible for our happiness and ultimately the success or failure of our marriage.

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40:44

Who Do You Feel Is Responsible For the Success of Your Marriage?

Male and Female Communication

Emerson and Jonathan respond to an inquiry and talk about why the key to a successful marriage is, in fact, not communication.

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33:59

Male and Female Communication

Tuesday Night is Coming, So Who Decides About Sexual Intimacy?

“But if you should marry…such will have trouble in this life…” (1 Corinthians 7:28). Scripture teaches there will be trouble in marriage. Get ready for it! In this week’s episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss preferences and needs around the issue of sexual intimacy in the context of marriage.

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33:29

Tuesday Night is Coming, So Who Decides About Sexual Intimacy?

Six “Thank You” Statements to Say to Your Spouse

In the book, Love & Respect, “love” is spelled to a wife using the acronym C.O.U.P.L.E. and “respect” to a husband using the acronym C.H.A.I.R.S. This week Emerson and Jonathan ask listeners to consider how they might express thankfulness to their spouse in one of these six areas, asking wives to thank their husband for at least one of the ways he shows love and asking husbands to thank their wife for at least one of the ways she shows respect.

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Six “Thank You” Statements to Say to Your Spouse

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