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Seeing Jesus Over The Shoulder of My Spouse

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Seeing Jesus Over The Shoulder of My Spouse

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This episode explores the biblical principles of love and respect in marriage, emphasizing the importance of obedience to Christ over personal feelings. It discusses how shifting focus from a spouse's actions to serving Christ can transform marital dynamics, leading to spiritual satisfaction and personal freedom. Emerson encourages individuals to break the cycle of retaliation and to embrace unconditional love and respect, regardless of their spouse's behavior, ultimately fostering a deeper relationship with God.

Emerson Eggerichs, Ph.D.

Author, Speaker, Pastor

Questions to Consider

How might picturing Jesus beyond your spouse’s shoulder change the way you respond in your next conflict?
What excuses have you made for not loving or respecting your spouse, and how do they hold up against Christ’s call to obedience?
Can you identify a moment when you’ve felt unseen in your marriage—how does knowing Jesus sees you shift that perspective?
What would it look like to say one big yes to doing marriage God’s way, followed by daily little yeses, no matter your spouse’s behavior?

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