How to Propose to Your Spouse to Make Small Adjustments in The Marriage
In this episode Jonathan and Emerson discuss the importance of resolving small problems in a marriage. They emphasize that the accumulation of little issues can lead to bigger problems over time. They suggest proposing small adjustments to your spouse by identifying and empathizing with the issue. They also discuss the importance of creating and applying a practical plan, as well as evaluating and adjusting the plan as needed. By addressing small problems, couples can build a foundation for addressing bigger issues in their relationship. They share examples of couples who found common ground, came up with creative alternatives, and focused on the issue rather than attacking each other.
Questions to Consider
Please consider stepping through these questions with your spouse.
- Can you share some small things that you feel are affecting our relationship negatively?
- What is one small change I can make that would make a significant difference for you?
- What practical, doable steps can we both agree on to solve these small problems?
- How can we ensure that we are both contributing equally to improving our marriage?
- What principles are important to remember as we work on these small changes?
- Do you believe addressing these small issues can help us tackle larger challenges in the future?
- How can we apply the lessons learned from these small successes to larger issues in our marriage?
- How should we celebrate or acknowledge our progress and successes, even if they're small?