What is Love and Respect?

“With his Love and Respect concept, Emerson Eggerichs has discovered what can only be described as the Holy Grail of marital counseling. It is an absolutely extraordinary and revolutionary -and utterly biblical – understanding of marriage, and it was under our noses for two-thousand years, waiting for us to find it. On behalf of married couples the world over, I am thrilled someone finally did.”

“Occasionally I run into somebody whose material, what they’re teaching, and the quality of the person rocks my world. Dr. Emerson Eggerichs spoke at our offices the other day and had our team laughing and crying and punching each other, in a loving way of course. My oldest daughter is getting married and this is one of her favorite marriage books. Thank goodness. That means she's got a shot. She’s going to make it."

“Although we have read numerous books on marriage and attended many seminars, this one was truly unique. In fact, it is probably the most helpful one we have ever experienced.

Gail and I were so impressed with the seminar and the book that we are considering starting a couple’s class this fall in our home. We have ordered the DVDs, because we want people to get the content directly from Emerson. He is a great communicator.”

“My parents died when I was nineteen. No one is ever prepared for that kind of thing, of course, but there has always existed an odd gap in what I understood about my mother and father. For instance, what books were my parent’s favorites. What would they have wanted me to read? To whom would they have insisted I listen? I have no idea, for no one ever told me.

Today, my wife and I have two boys of our own. With every breath we take and every prayer we offer up, Polly and I are preparing for the possibility that our boys might one day need to know what we know. Therefore, a copy of “Love and Respect” is already signed to each of our boys from Mom and Dad. The books are tucked away for now, but the substance inside its pages is already being taught. In “Love and Respect”–the book and the seminar–Dr. Emerson Eggerichs has crafted an understanding of a principle so life changing that it is difficult to overstate its power. Simply put, listen carefully to what this man has to say and read carefully what he has written. This material will transform your relationships, your children, your finances, and your legacy.”

“We were fascinated by the message, by the material. It was totally different to anything we had heard before. And our relationship changed from day one. And it got better. My wife learned to respect me more and I learned to love her more the way she needed to be loved not the way I thought I ought to love her.”

“I have been concerned for many years about a problem that I was a part of. And I have tried to rectify it…There is another half… the Scripture makes it clear… Those of us who speak to families have not gotten around to that side of the story… Now, it’s even more important in this culture…It is a two sided coin and we’ve been pretty short on the second side of it. Dr. Emerson Eggerichs …is … balancing this scale. This is such an important message… one of the best because he is talking about the two sided coin of love and respect. There is a Scriptural foundation for that in the 5th chapter of Ephesians. It is time that the scales were balanced, that we saw the other side of the coin, to mix a metaphor. This is a vitally important message. Anything you invest in your spouse will come back to you. That’s the way the system works. When it is not symbiotic, when it is only one person saying, “You’re not meeting my needs” then the other person is not really motivated to do that frequently. They need to know that you care about them too. When it is a two sided thing, it works far better” (October 29,30, 2003 Focus on the Family radio broadcast).

Apparently the listeners agreed. Dr. Emerson Eggerichs’ two day message on Focus on the Family was the #1 responded to program for 2003. There is an actual audience of 2.6 million people. Dr. Dobson said in letter to Emerson, “Clearly I am not the only one impacted by your message, your program has become our most requested broadcast of the year! Thanks again for this crucial information. I have no doubt there are marriages out there are on the road to recovery thanks to your sage advice."

“As a pediatrician of 30 years, I can say without question, thesingle most important gift any parent can give his child is a healthy marriage. Love and Respect gives every married or engaged person the tools necessary to build a strong marriage., There is no other program or book that offers such clear, sage and workable advice anywhere in the marriage aisles of bookstores. I can tell you that the lessons I learned in the book, helped my marriage.”

“Millions of lives and marriages – and in many ways, our whole culture – are completely different today because of the work of Emerson Eggerichs and Love and Respect ministries. And my life and ministry is at the top of the list! There is absolutely no way my research, our ministry or any of our books – especially For Women Only — would have been the same if Emerson hadn’t shared so generously from his wealth of experience every step of the way. Emerson and I both felt, when our books were published in 2004 (three weeks apart!) that God wanted to change the paradigm in our culture for how everyone viewed the needs of men and women, and especially to understand that men’s primary need is respect. Ten years later, that paradigm has truly been changed, largely through Emerson’s pioneering work and leadership. It is awe-inspiring to look back and watch how God’s hand has moved through the Love and Respect ministry every step of the way.”

“Having Emerson deliver a keynote at our global leaders conference was a huge hit and had leaders in tears, inspired, convicted and clear on next steps. He covered a ton of ground in 1 session that will make a lasting impact.”

“Love and respect in the workplace was always my mission at Auntie Anne’s. When I heard your message on the subject it amazed me at the simplicity of it and the fact that it works in EVERY relationship, including interactions in the workplace. People around the world, in every kind of business need to hear this simple yet life changing message.”

I couldn't recommend Dr. Eggerichs highly enough. I call him the Billy Graham of Marriage. He has a calling to teach the body of Christ about marriage.

“I remain convinced that if Christian couples would truly learn what you teach from Scripture about Love and Respect the divorce rate among Christians would drop precipitously, but the much more important fact is that many more Christian couples would witness by their love for each other what a good marriage is like.  In turn that would cause others to wonder what it was that made them different and open them up to hearing about the love of Christ."

Just incidentally, really not so incidentally, they would experience the joy that can come on this earth only from a truly happy marriage.  Barb has heard me say many times, “There is nothing more joyful and good than a happy marriage, and, I imagine, nothing worse than an unhappy one.” (To the reader: Barbara transitioned to eternal glory on October 11, 2012)

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"Dr. Eggerichs’ deftly instructed principles shed new light on personal and professional relationships. His material is challenging and offers a fresh look at the dynamics of interpersonal engagements that when applied in the workforce can revolutionize communication and create an environment of cooperation and empathy."

"I believe that the message you are sharing is powerful enough to change the world. It is the most important, valuable message I have ever heard and has blessed our marriage in ways that can only be explained as supernatural."