Women Need Respect and Men Need Love

In Ephesians 5:33, God commands husbands to love and wives to respect. The Bible also instructs husbands to respect their wives (1 Peter 3:7) and wives to love their husbands (Titus 2:4). In my book Love and Respect, I dedicate two chapters to this wise instruction. On this Collection Page, we will address her need for respect and his need for love, which can be overlooked. Even when acknowledged, they may miss the mark by giving what they desire rather than what is needed.

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When Your “Love and Respect Meters” Appear Broken

I am often asked about “exceptions” to the Love and Respect message. In short, while both husband and wife need love and respect equally, research reveals that during conflict, the felt need of the majority of women is love while the felt need of the majority of men is respect.

When Your “Love and Respect Meters” Appear Broken

Marriage

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Do Wives Only Need Love and Husbands Only Need Respect?

In my book Love & Respect, I wrote, "I sometimes get the question, ‘You say women need love and men need respect. Isn’t the opposite just as true? Don’t gals need respect and guys need love?’ My answer is, of course, women need respect and guys need love" (page 47).

Do Wives Only Need Love and Husbands Only Need Respect?

Marriage

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What Does It Mean When a Blue Man Is Feeling Pink?

In my conferences on Love and Respect, I like to use the analogy that men and women are as different as pink is from blue. Women look at the world through pink sunglasses, hear through pink hearing aids, and speak through a pink megaphone; while men do it all with blue. Which basically means a man and a woman can hear the exact same sentence and interpret it in completely different ways, or even say the exact same thing but mean completely different things with their words.

What Does It Mean When a Blue Man Is Feeling Pink?

Marriage

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Can How We Were Nurtured Actually Mask Over Our Deep Felt Needs?

In my book Love & Respect, I conclude that wives are made to love, want to love, and expect love. Alternatively, their husbands are made to be respected, want respect, and expect respect. However, I am always quick to point out that, though these conclusions have been based on years of research, studies, and polls with thousands of subjects, we must still view them as on a bell curve—there is certainly room for women to lean less on love and more on respect than other women do, and for men to place more importance on love than they do on respect.

Can How We Were Nurtured Actually Mask Over Our Deep Felt Needs?

Marriage

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How A Wife Can Feel Loved But Disrespected

Years ago, the topic of Love and Respect and all it has led to stemmed from this one question to 7,000 people: When you are in a conflict with your spouse or significant other, do you feel unloved at that moment or disrespected? In response, 83 percent of the men said they feel disrespected and 72 percent of the women said they feel unloved. However, I am always quick to point out two caveats regarding these statistics. One, we are always talking about a bell curve here. Certainly, every man and woman is different and do not necessarily respond to conflict in the exact same ways. Two, both men and women need love and respect equally.

How A Wife Can Feel Loved But Disrespected

Marriage

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When We Address a Man’s Needs, Why Do Some Women Hijack the Discussion? Part 2

In part 1 we talked about the tendency some women have to hijack a conversation about men needing respect and making it all about their needs as women. These women are not mean-spirited but they take over the conversation and completely ignore the male’s need. Some recent Facebook interactions I had provide a great example of this. Last week I posted three articles on Facebook. The first two challenged the husband (reaching together nearly 500,000 people). I titled them Should a Husband Submit to His Wife?, When a Husband Loves His Wife, Will She Respects Him?

When We Address a Man’s Needs, Why Do Some Women Hijack the Discussion? Part 2

Christian Life

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When We Address a Man’s Needs, Why Do Some Women Hijack the Discussion? Part 1

If I say, “Men really like sports,” some women (a small but vocal percentage) retort, “I can’t believe you just said that! Women really like sports, and let me tell you why women like sports. In fact, you need to know about the sports women are playing, why affirmative action supports more women in sports, and why women would have been more interested in sports had this culture been fairer to women years earlier."In hearing these women express their thoughts, we quickly lose sight of the original statement, “Men really like sports."It is no longer about the man. It is about the woman.

When We Address a Man’s Needs, Why Do Some Women Hijack the Discussion? Part 1

Christian Life

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Who Wrote the Famous Song R.E.S.P.E.C.T.? Aretha Franklin? [Video]

As for Aretha Franklin's song R.E.S.P.E.C.T., the truth is Otis Redding wrote that song and he released it in 1965, two years before Aretha adapted it to her female perspective of a confident feminist. Otis's version is of a desperate husband pleading with his wife for respect. He will give her anything she wants and doesn't care if she treats him wrong. Aretha changed it to "I ain't gonna do you wrong." Otis playfully said it is a song "that little girl done stole from me.”

Who Wrote the Famous Song R.E.S.P.E.C.T.? Aretha Franklin? [Video]

Marriage

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Women Need Respect and Men Need Love

Articles

When Your “Love and Respect Meters” Appear Broken

Do Wives Only Need Love and Husbands Only Need Respect?

What Does It Mean When a Blue Man Is Feeling Pink?

Can How We Were Nurtured Actually Mask Over Our Deep Felt Needs?

How A Wife Can Feel Loved But Disrespected

When We Address a Man’s Needs, Why Do Some Women Hijack the Discussion? Part 2

When We Address a Man’s Needs, Why Do Some Women Hijack the Discussion? Part 1

Who Wrote the Famous Song R.E.S.P.E.C.T.? Aretha Franklin? [Video]

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