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Unlock the secret to a thriving marriage
Introduction
Welcome to the course. Here you will find overview material such as the course Trailer video and information from the workbook.
Session 1 - The Crazy Cycle: Part 1
Love and respect are equally needed, but during conflict men and women have different felt needs.
Session 2 - The Crazy Cycle: Part 2
When a conflict arises and your spouse becomes visibly upset, the root cause of the problem may not be the specific issue at hand. The issue is no longer the issue.
Session 3 - The Energizing Cycle: Wives Part 1
We have been looking at the Crazy Cycle. Now we wish to consider the Energizing Cycle: His love motivates her respect. Her respect motivates his love.
Session 4 - The Energizing Cycle: Wives Part 2
Openness, Understanding, Peacemaking, Loyalty and Esteem are all examined to reveal what it can mean to love and energize a wife.
Session 5 - The Energizing Cycle: Husbands Part 1
A wife can be proactive and meet her husband's need for respect without being fearful that she won't be able to confront unrespectable behavior if it exists.
Session 6 - The Energizing Cycle: Husbands Part 2
Hierarchy, Authority, Insight, Relationship, and Sexuality are all examined to reveal what it can mean to respect and energize a husband.
Session 7 - Sarah’s Practical Application: Part 1
The best way to respect a wife is to love her in ways that are meaningful to her. Sarah goes through the practical application of C.O.U.P.L.E. in this session.
Session 8 - Sarah's Practical Application: Part 2
The best way to love a husband is to respect him in ways that are meaningful to him. Sarah continues the practical application of love and respect with C.H.A.I.R.S.
Session 9 - The Rewarded Cycle: Part 1
When you love or respect unconditionally regardless of the outcome, you are following God and His will for you. Your real desire is to touch the heart of God.
Session 10 - The Rewarded Cycle: Part 2
In the end, husbands and wives should be practicing Love and Respect principles out of a desire to obey Christ and His command in Ephesians 5:33.
Welcome To The Love and Respect Conference Study
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Welcome to the course. Here you will find overview material such as the course Trailer video and information from the workbook, such as the introductory comments, outline of the sessions and information doing as a group, couple or individual, plus the leader's guide.
The Crazy Cycle: Part 1
Decoding the Craziness! Research found that love and respect are the two key ingredients for a successful marriage.Though we all need love and respect equally, the felt need during conflict is as different as female is from male (Matthew 19:4).
The Crazy Cycle - Part 2
When a conflict arises and your spouse becomes visibly upset, the root cause of the problem may not be the specific issue at hand. The issue is no longer the issue, but instead him feeling disrespected and her feeling unloved during conflict.
The Energizing Cycle: Wives Part 1
We have been looking at the Crazy Cycle: Without love, she reacts without respect. Without respect, he reacts without love. Now we wish to consider the Energizing Cycle: His love motivates her respect. Her respect motivates his love. The question is raised: Who moves first? The one who sees himself or herself as the most mature moves first!
The Energizing Cycle: Wives Part 2
Openness, Understanding, Peacemaking, Loyalty and Esteem are all examined to reveal what it can mean to love and energize a wife.
The Energizing Cycle: Husbands Part 1
How does a wife put on respect without respecting unrespectable behavior?! The answer is simple: she respectfully confronts what feels unloving to her. But beyond that she can be proactive. She can actually meet a need in her husband for respect. However, this seems counterintuitive to her. It doesn’t feel natural. Learn about this through the acronym C.H.A.I.R.S. in the next two sessions.
The Energizing Cycle: Husbands Part 2
Hierarchy, Authority, Insight, Relationship, and Sexuality are all examined to reveal what it can mean to respect and energize a husband.
Sarah’s Application: Part 1
The best way to respect a wife is to love her in ways that are meaningful to her. Sarah goes through the practical application of C.O.U.P.L.E., with some ways to positively apply love to your wife.
Sarah's Practical Application Part 2
The best way to love a husband is to respect him in ways that are meaningful to him. In Part 2 Sarah continues the practical application of love and respect with C.H.A.I.R.S.
The Rewarded Cycle: Part 1
When you love or respect unconditionally regardless of the outcome, you are following God and His will for you. You aren’t primarily loving your wife or respecting your husband for what it can do to improve your marriage. Your real desire is to touch the heart of God.
The Rewarded Cycle: Part 2
In the long run, husbands and wives should be practicing Love and Respect principles first and foremost out of a desire to obey Christ and His command in Ephesians 5:33. The believer obeys in order to affect the Lord Jesus and to hear from Him, “Well done, good and faithful servant.”
A Message From Emerson and Sarah
Emerson says, “As a pastor, I wept with wives in my office. Together, we struggled with ways to motivate their husbands to be more loving. I kept coming up with ways that she could be more loving. But, she was loving! And, when she loved him in different ways, it wasn’t having the kind of impact we desired. One day it dawned on me to ask, ‘What does the Bible say about motivating a husband to be more loving?’ And I was a Bible teacher! What you hold in your hands is that discovery. This truth wipes away most of those tears.”
Sarah says, “For more than a decade Emerson and I have been doing marriage conferences around the country. We have been sharing a message to which men are responding. I want to subtitle the Love and Respect Conference: ‘The conference men want to attend!’ Wives are asking their husbands, ‘Is this the way you feel?’ Men are saying, ‘Absolutely.’ And women ask, ‘Why hasn’t anybody told us this?’ One wife said, ‘Your seminar supplied the missing piece that made the information we already had click into place in a practical way.’ We believe there is one key word that could revolutionize your marriage. This is God’s fundamental way to motivate husbands.”
We are thrilled with your interest and commitment to do this Love and Respect study. Tens of thousands of people have gone through this material which is based on two simple ideas found in Ephesians 5:33: Love and Respect. But the way in which these two interface with each other is profound. When a husband and wife gain insight on Love and Respect, it revolutionizes their marriage. The countless testimonies we have received from individuals and the surveys we have taken of couples confirm this. We want you to believe the same can happen in your relationship. God wants you to believe this! He revealed this truth because He is for you!
What’s the Big Idea?
You are about to embark on a wonderful adventure concerning Love and Respect in marriage. As you spend time viewing and discussing the videos, you will be answering three major questions.
- Why do we negatively react to each other in marriage? This will be explained in what is called the Crazy Cycle.
- How do I best motivate my spouse? The Energizing Cycle answers this question.
- What if my spouse does not respond to me? The Rewarded Cycle informs us what to do.
What You Will Learn
The Sessions
About This Study
This is a 10-week session study designed to answer three questions through video, reflection, devotionals and discussion. Each of the 10 sessions include a video to watch and questions to answer both as a group and for personal reflection. Additionally, there is a short devotional for each person to complete between small group sessions. This study can also be done as a couple, as an individual who is married or even someone who is single and dating or not in a relationship.
Testimony, Video, and In-Session
Testimony time: Do not underestimate the power of allowing others to share what they have learned and put to work in the “Testimony Time” at the beginning of each session.
Facilitators: The suggestions for application are quite general, but as the group becomes comfortable, encourage them to be more specific so they can clearly assess their progress.
Watch the Video: Sit back, listen, laugh, and watch!
Facilitators: There are 10 sessions, with one video for each week. Following the completion of the video there will be a prompt to guide you into this week’s discussion questions. This online course is different than the original DVD menu you would see as you follow along in the physical workbook but you can still accomplish all that needs to be done. You can go forward and backwards in the steps as you choose.
In-Session Guide: As you watch the video portion of this study, use this section to take notes and access scripture references. It is recommended that you have a notebook for this online version. There are fill in the blank sections for the physical workbook and we certainly encourage participants, if doing this study in a group, to purchase a physical workbook. If you have paid for this course, a download of the original workbook in pdf form is included. Fill in the blank answers are included in the back of the physical workbook and with this online version as well.
Discuss, Apply, Devote
Discussion: There are no trick questions. Most questions ask for an opinion, so have fun sharing your thoughts.
Facilitators: Because of the varying lengths of time that groups meet (some have twenty minutes for discussion and others sixty minutes), not all the questions can be answered during the group discussion time. Therefore, in each session an * is put by a few questions that Emerson feels everyone should answer.
If you have more time, use your discretion as the facilitator in selecting other questions. Be sure to encourage the group to answer the remaining questions on their own during the week. Most questions correlate with the video segment.
Immediate Application: After each session, write down 1-2 things that come to mind during the session that you can apply or practice in the coming week.
Facilitators: Help the group think in terms of practical application. Be sure to stress the importance of writing down thoughts for this section. Encourage them to be prepared (if they feel comfortable) to share how it went at the beginning of the next session.
Mid-week Devotional: In between sessions, there is a mid-week devotional for everyone to read on their own that is related to the topic of the most recently discussed video. It is NOT intended to be read through quickly as part of last-minute preparations for the next session. Instead, the devotional provides an opportunity for everyone to reinforce an idea from the previous session and to spend time away from the group thinking about and applying the Love and Respect principles.
Facilitators: Please strongly encourage everyone to visit this devotional two or three days after your meeting. If you are doing this in a group and some participants are not members of our site or did not purchase a physical workbook, feel free to cut and paste the devotional from that step to send to participants, from your pdf download of the workbook, or photocopy from the physical workbook if you purchased one.
Alone, As a Couple, or Single
Doing This Study Alone Without Your Spouse
Good for you for wanting to learn, grow and be introspective. This study is an incredible way to dig deeper into a topic and is excellent for an individual, couple or group.
Since there may be no one to join you at this time, try your best to bring up the topics you’re thinking about with people in your life. Of course, be sensitive if your spouse resists talking. Instead focus on applying the message without talking.
Doing This Study as a Couple
Go through the sections and discussion questions together or do them separately and review together. While doing this, trust each other’s goodwill.
If the study becomes challenging to do together - ask questions and seek wisdom from others - perhaps an older, wiser couple who have walked the road in front of you, a pastor, or a Christian counselor.
Doing This Study as a Single/Dating Person
We welcome all singles to the Love and Respect Small Group! We believe this message is as relevant to singles as it is to those who are married. The principles learned in this study will help you understand gender differences and how to apply this insight to all of your relationships. For those of you who will eventually marry, the Love and Respect principles applied to your life now will powerfully influence your process of choosing a future spouse, potentially saving you from years of unnecessary heartache.
In most groups, you will be going through this material with married couples as well as singles. Many of the examples and questions are directed to those who are married, but can be easily adapted to other relationships such as the following:
- Friendships
- Dating relationships
- Future marriage
- Parent and sibling relationships
- Work relationships
We encourage you to look for tangible ways to apply what you learn each week to all of your relationships. During the week reflect, pray, and journal on these principles and come prepared to share your discoveries. The goal is to process your thoughts and insights with others in the group, whether they are married or single. We believe strongly that both groups can learn from one another. Our desire is that sharing together will create mutual growth and accountability.
Leading a Study Part 1
Thank you! We are grateful to those of you who are willing to answer God’s call and lead other couples through this study in order to strengthen their marriages. Our prayer is that your own marriage will be strengthened and blessed in ways beyond your hopes and expectations. We’ve worked hard to make this study easy to follow and easy for you to lead. As you prepare to facilitate this study, here are a few thoughts to keep in mind.
Don’t do it alone. Pray and ask God to help and guide you throughout the entire study. This is a big responsibility, but God doesn’t expect you to do it alone. God promises to equip you for what he has called you to do. He wants you to not only be a blessing to others as you serve, but to also be blessed. Be sure to set aside quiet time with God to allow him to strengthen and encourage you in your own marriage. The foundation of your leadership will come from who you are as a person and your relationship with God.
Be yourself. You don’t need to be an expert! God wants you to use your unique gifts, talents and life experiences. Whether you are an experienced small group leader, or this is your first time, God is pleased with your commitment and will meet you right where you are. Don’t worry if you don’t always have an answer to a question or you make a mistake. Your group will appreciate your honesty and your efforts, and will love you for it.
Check your leadership style. Facilitating a group is a big responsibility, but nothing you can’t handle. Keep in mind the spouses in your group represent marriages in different circumstances and stages, some strong, others weak. As you lead your group, seek to:
- Be relaxed and casual, but organized and able to keep things moving. Let people share, give opinions, and even disagree a bit, but don’t be afraid to sum things up and move to the next question or topic.
- Be caring and sensitive. Some couples in your group might see a lot of humor in certain topics and questions. Others may be hurting and unhappy, not seeing the humor at all. As you go through the study, be aware of those couples who may need a little more guidance and encouragement than others. Some may even want to meet with you in order to talk and pray outside the group. If you feel their issues are beyond your wisdom, don’t hesitate to refer them to your pastor or a Christian counselor. (Also take note: Don’t get distracted in your discussions by someone asking about abuse. It’s assumed that basic goodwill exists among spouses in this group. If someone is in harm’s way, they need to speak privately with someone in leadership and seek help from those in authority.)
- Be accepting and non-threatening. For example, if someone comes up with an opinion that is totally counter to what Emerson sometimes refers to as “typical” or “generally speaking,” do not be defensive or argumentative. Let everyone give opinions, then sum up by saying, “According to Emerson’s extensive experience and research on marital communication, this is what he sees to be the norm or what is typical of men and women, husband and wives. He knows there are exceptions to any ‘general rule,’ but he has also found that regardless of how people think or act, they all need Love and Respect in communication.”
- Be an encourager. Encourage the couples in your group to attend every session, engage fully in the discussion, pray and complete each session in their workbook. Help them to see God working in them and in their marriage relationship throughout the study. As you lead, be sensitive to personality types (i.e. introvert and extrovert). Gently draw out the quieter members by asking non-threatening questions such as, “What do you think about this?” Encourage talkative members to fully share but not dominate the discussion. Never allow unsolicited advice.
Leading A Study Part 2
Prepare for your meeting ahead of time. It is best to review the video session and the study guide for that session ahead of time. This will allow you to be better prepared for leading the discussions and also familiarize you with the exercises at the end of each session.
Depend on God’s leading. Prayer should be an important part of every meeting. Feel free to pray and lead your group with your own prayer or have someone else in the group lead in prayer. It is also important to pray for the couples in your group throughout the study.
Session timing. Do your best to honor the time frame you have planned for each week. People will appreciate being able to depend on your group time starting and ending on time. Emerson spends the majority of the first session talking before any fill in the blanks, so encourage participants to just sit back and listen, and perhaps take some notes. Remind your group that all of the answers are in the back of this book.
Verses in the Session Guide: Because I had the privilege as a pastor-teacher of studying the Bible 30 hours a week for nearly 20 years, I looked at everything in the Bible related to marriage. The concepts that I teach are derived from what the Scriptures reveal. As you go through this content, please read these verses. In the video I will not cover the majority of these. For this reason do not deprive yourself of being blessed by the richness of God’s word on marriage. Please read these and be edified. All verses are from the New American Standard Bible (NASB) unless otherwise specified. Also, you will notice some verses are indented. These Scriptures show the exceptions.
Thank You for allowing God to use you by serving as a small group leader. Your willingness and commitment to dedicate your time, effort, and energy is a priceless gift. You are the ones making a difference in the battle against failed marriages and divorce.
May God bless you and your marriage!
- Dr. Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
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Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships and wrote the best-selling book Love & Respect. Based on over three decades of counseling as well as scientific and biblical research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference and this online study, dynamic and life-changing material that has resulted in the healing and restoration of countless relationships.
How It Has Helped Turn Marriages Around
"The turnaround in our marriage is a miracle and is a profound event in my life…we have had hard discussions since I finished the (Love & Respect) book and since we attended the conference, but not one has turned into an argument. We have had disagreements, but not disconnection. Every hard discussion has resulted in a deeper level of intimacy in our marriage. I never thought this was possible. God is able to do immeasurably more than we ever ask or imagine."
"We watched the videos of your conference...I cry as I write this, because it was almost immediately that our marriage began to be restored…(my husband) said he could not stand to be away from his family any longer and he asked the kids and I to be with him. What makes this a miracle was that we didn’t go back into the same broken marriage, but instead into one that was healed. The way that we treated each other was completely different. The understanding that we had for each other was completely different. I cannot thank you enough for what one book and one video did…We now try to help other relationships around us and even recommend your book to others. We simply spread the same message that you shared with us. We have watched as it has helped others around us. Our hearts are with those relationships that seem impossible to mend…(we want to share) that people can and DO change. We are 100% proof of that… We know that this miracle came from God through your message. Thank you so very much for sharing this message with us. You saved our family."
"I am one of five kids, and since I can remember my parents have constantly been fighting and bitter towards each other…It was finally to the breaking point…We no longer cared what happened, as long as the fighting and the yelling and the hatred and the bitterness stopped. I have spared you the details, but to kids growing up in a home like that, it was hell…About a year ago, after going to countless seminars, numerous marriage counselors, and who knows how many books, they discovered the Love & Respect series. To the rest of us it was just another stab in the dark and the seemingly obvious expectation of a divorce was still there. When my parents did a complete 180-degree turn around, it was very difficult not to be still in denial and hurt and expect it not to last too long. It was definitely something I would call, without any doubt, a miracle. Something that would have been impossible had it not been for God's grace and compassion. When they went from twenty-two years of hating each other, to holding hands, going out on dates and cuddling overnight, I could not believe it. They are now a very happy couple and plan on re-doing their wedding vows for their twenty-fifth anniversary. It saved our family (and) it saved our lives."
"My husband and I attended the Love and Respect Conference. We have been married for 31 years; committed, but not always happy. As we chaotically plunged through our 40's, we created a lot of devastation in our relationship. For some years, my husband did not say "I love you."... He refused to talk about anything of significance. Emotionally, he had shut down and consequently, did not try to connect with me in any way. For a long time, I chafed under this treatment…This is how we were when we came to the conference. I was actually afraid that he would be more annoyed than anything else. BUT...As a wonderful, undeserved gift from the Father who so incredibly bestows good things on his children, God opened my husband's heart… he became a changed man. A man who loves me, adores me, apologizes to me quickly…and talks to me all the time. Praise God from whom all blessings flow. Thank you for being willing to share the message of love and respect across our nation. I am forever grateful."
"After 13 years I can finally say our marriage is truly like a dream. It is unbelievable how tender and fun and honest and caring and loving and joyful and playful and kind and intimate and generous and forgiving and sincere and giving and wonderful our marriage is. It is a MIRACLE. And only with God’s guidance in His Word and from your Love and Respect series has this been possible."
“LOTS to tell you about our journey – really a miracle. But let me give you one short example. Yesterday we were going to meet our son for brunch. We decided what time we would leave (I am a time guy – guess it goes with my job). At one minute before we were supposed to leave, she said, “I will be right there – go on to the car.” 10 minutes (which to me seemed like 10 hours) went by. She came out and got in the car – and let me add it is not unusual for this scenario to happen – and she normally would say, “You are just such a control freak where time is concerned. Don’t even start with me.” Yesterday she got in the car (and I had already decided to be loving – as if Jesus was getting in the car late - which He would never do!). She looked at me and said, “It was horribly disrespectful of me to be late. I am so very sorry. I should have gotten ready and then sorted the laundry. Will you forgive me?” I almost drove off into the grass. So…God is really working – in both of us. Probably no way to ever thank you. Ever. I am telling everyone about the DVD series and trying to get our pastor to show it at church on Sunday mornings.”
"I had been praying for a miracle in my marriage…a big one...but felt all hope was lost. I began to make plans on picking up the pieces alone. Then we attended the Love and Respect conference. (My husband) slept in the car on the way to the meeting and I thought "I wasted $50 we don't have.” (But) something happened when you got up and started speaking. My husband woke up. When we left…he apologized for not being a good husband and wants to make things better. I apologized to him for my attitudes. Things are starting to turn around. Thank you and please keep us in your prayers."
"My husband and I attended your Love and Respect conference...it was AWESOME! (We have) witnessed miracles… (Later) we decided we were at a place where we wanted to help others with the help we had received. Our first and only choice on what topic we should lead was Love and Respect!! It was a no brainer!! This concept had played a pivotal role in changing the tide in our marriage from divorce to reconciliation. We have since led the Love and Respect small group 8 times (around 100 couples)…We have an intense desire to help marriages, and we believe if two stubborn, selfish people like us could let God change our hearts, well anyone can!! Your ministry helped save our marriage! If it was not for your book we would be unhappy, bitter, divorced parents continuing a legacy of divorce and a broken family to our beautiful children. We were so happy we had the opportunity to come to a live conference."
"Well a miracle happened! I read the Love and Respect book entirely last week...As we went thru the (Love and Respect) DVDs I could feel a gentle release of the pain that gripped our marriage for 22 years. Rather than a “light-bulb” moment, it’s been more of a dimmer switch getting brighter with the hope we’ll be OK now that we have some tools for an even better marriage. A softening has occurred…We are already teaching the kids some of the principles and have decided to re-watch the DVDs with the kids. We believe this can help them from many of the pitfalls we fell for and we can all “practice” Love and Respect on each other…I realize these principles were in the Bible all along; however we missed it!... You have a way of delivering the message in such spot on accuracy wrapped in humor, so we can swallow it better. Makes me think you’re the “Mary Poppins of Marriage" with your “spoonful of humor to make the painful truth go down!”"
"We received our Love & Respect DVDs in the mail today and we just wanted to let you know how excited we are to finally be getting our brothers, sisters, cousins and their spouses and fiancés (and some singles) together to watch them. (Our friends) have done several small groups with their set of DVDs over the last three years, and have seen so many miracles as marriages are strengthened and restored!"
"I went to church and prayed and prayed for reconciliation. My ex-husband... confessed about a year ago that he wanted to try again. My heart soared with emotion! Glory to God! Could this be true? I thought it was done and over, but God had other ideas. The “story of us” was far from over. The past few months have been heavenly, and I owe it all to Christ’s message and your delivery of that message…I had attempted to try marriage counseling or retreats with (my husband) before, but they were always under a cloud of problems and heartache. This was different…Instead of moving in two different directions, we were moving as one. After purchasing the book, we attended the conference together and I was over the moon that he wanted to go…and it was life changing for us. We held hands at the “ceremony” at the end of the conference and prayed…These are the miracles that God performs. It is all in God’s timing."
"After I heard the Love and Respect message I bought the CDs and sent it to (my husband)…I asked him if he would listen to this prayerfully and let me know if he thought there was hope for us. I then attended the seminar…Hope and confidence that this was a "God" thing grew in both of us and fears began to dissipate. God began to do miracles in each of our hearts, and we could each see how God had been changing our hearts in various ways while we were apart, and we had no idea we were both experiencing that. We both got a copy of the Love and Respect book and were reading it over the phone and talking through our past difficulties and differences.….we began checking out the DVDs …We were amazed at how God confirmed time and again that it was Him doing it. We experienced open door after open door, and undoubtable miracles along the way confirming His will for us."
"We have been married 14 years & never have we done anything together to serve the Lord's people. My friend basically stuck your DVD series in my face & said, “You've got to watch this!” My husband & I did. In fact, we still are for the 2nd time around. Just yesterday my husband said, "We are supposed to call couples so we can pray together." This is not the "norm" for my husband. To invite people into our home so we can talk & be transparent...Wow! We look forward to God using our miracle in marriage to help other marriages not fail but succeed God's way! Amen!"
"We attended the conference and want to let you know how blessed we were by the truth you spoke. God has used your message to transform us and our marriage. We are amazed at the miracle and work He is doing in us individually and in our marriage. Your message of love & respect gave us a great start, and God has been gracious to help us along in the journey."
"I want to thank you for helping me get my marriage back! The divorce papers were in the car and I'd only promised to go to the conference because our daughter begged me to. I'd tried for months with my spouse; we were separated, tried counseling, prayer, and after 16 years I knew it was over… (During the third session) I could feel my heart being touched by God…(What took place between us) has NEVER happened before and I want to tell you that we are reconciled, I've stopped the divorce…we've spoken to our daughter and shared with her our change of heart and we say thank you. There is no doubt in my life that I'm watching a miracle in action and I say, bless you for your time and effort."
"Love and Respect…is a miracle in my life. My husband and I have been separated for over a year now. In January, my husband began to move back in my direction in an attempt to reconcile our marriage. I felt the Lord telling me to give this marriage a chance again. But, I didn't have the tools to solve any of our past messes. I was blindly obedient to the Lord and just walked and waited for Him to reveal how this would all come together. And the Lord put the Love and Respect book in my path in February. I began reading the book the day I bought it. I was shocked and blown away by the truth that was written page after page. I began to see my half in the mess and better yet, I began to see how to resolve our problems and reconcile our marriage. Then I ordered the Love and Respect Marriage Conference…and I am even more convicted and profoundly impacted. I really, really made huge mistakes. I have read so many marriage self-help books and nothing compares to the knowledge and wisdom that is found in this Love and Respect concept. I am excited and hopeful for my marriage and I can't help but want to shout it from a mountain top. I want everyone to know this truth (that) will save marriages…I walk in faith each day as our marriage is rebuilt…Truly this work and information is a miracle in my life…Everyone needs to know and hear the truth that has set me free! May the Lord richly bless you as you have blessed me!"
"I do not have a 'sudden miracle' story for you currently, but I do believe a miracle is happening gradually in our marriage relationship. My husband and I are going to see a counselor...and he initiated this! Although he said at the conference that he felt we were 'beyond this' in terms of the answers we need, he has noticeably softened since, and I know I have changed my attitude as a result of the heart-changing, mind-renewing message you shared."
"A wonderful change in our relationship began and we both tried to be understanding of each other. Your course just fit in perfectly and filled in the missing pieces…We are to respect our differences. Laughter and peace has come into our home again. Thank you! (My husband) and I had several opportunities to share the principles of Love and Respect with several other Christian couples and of how God was working in our lives and marriage…Already we have had some couples into our home and shared our experience and then we sit and play your CD and end it by praying a prayer of forgiveness and healing for our relationships."
"Love and Respect was nothing short of a miracle in saving my marriage, and I would love the opportunity to make others aware of your Ministry and what it can do for a marriage. I hold a Master’s degree in Counseling, and I am a Christian…Thank you so much, and God Bless you both for saving my marriage."
"One of God's miracles in all of this is (we) made a commitment to go for counseling and the person that gave us the counseling used all his teaching based on Love and Respect. First we had to re-read your book, then we went through your 5 DVDs on Love and Respect…with obedience, faith, patience and with (the) Love and Respect teaching God worked His plans His way...Yes we both have acknowledged that it takes two to tango and we were in all aspects of our lives on the crazy cycle. We are now committed to always work our way through life by putting God first and to stay off of the crazy cycle."
"The changes in my marriage are so drastic that it can only be attributed to a miracle…my life will NEVER be the same. I will, with God's help, ALWAYS seek God and His ways. My marriage has changed and my children will be blessed because of it. This truly does make a difference for generations to come."
"My own experiences along with your advice have resulted in a miracle in my life. I enjoy my husband as I did when we were courting (more, even). Our sex life has improved 100% as I find respecting my husband a turn-on (believe it or not). Today, he gets more than enough respect (and sex) and I get all the love and protection that I could ever want. There is now great joy in my marriage thanks to your help."
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Who is this class for?
We read in 1 Corinthians 7:26 about “the present distress.” The church at Corinth encountered some type of grave adversity. Are you or is someone about whom you have concern experiencing some kind of hardship? Emerson invites us to do two specific things as a couple or in a small group that prepares us to navigate the trouble in front of us.
How much knowledge and experience do I need to take this class
We read in 1 Corinthians 7:26 about “the present distress.” The church at Corinth encountered some type of grave adversity. Are you or is someone about whom you have concern experiencing some kind of hardship? Emerson invites us to do two specific things as a couple or in a small group that prepares us to navigate the trouble in front of us.
Is this class good for children?
We read in 1 Corinthians 7:26 about “the present distress.” The church at Corinth encountered some type of grave adversity. Are you or is someone about whom you have concern experiencing some kind of hardship? Emerson invites us to do two specific things as a couple or in a small group that prepares us to navigate the trouble in front of us.
How exactly does the month-long class work?
We read in 1 Corinthians 7:26 about “the present distress.” The church at Corinth encountered some type of grave adversity. Are you or is someone about whom you have concern experiencing some kind of hardship? Emerson invites us to do two specific things as a couple or in a small group that prepares us to navigate the trouble in front of us.
What is the time commitment and schedule for the class?
We read in 1 Corinthians 7:26 about “the present distress.” The church at Corinth encountered some type of grave adversity. Are you or is someone about whom you have concern experiencing some kind of hardship? Emerson invites us to do two specific things as a couple or in a small group that prepares us to navigate the trouble in front of us.
Because Your Husband Will See...
more clearly your need to feel loved.
Because Your Wife Will See...
more clearly your need for respect.
Because Your Wife Will Realize...
you are not trying to be unloving.
Because Your Husband Will Realize...
you are not trying to be disrespectful.
Because Your Spouse Will...
see your goodwill.
Because You Will Understand Why...
you each negatively react to each other.
Because You Will Motivate...
your spouse in the one way that works best.
Because You Will Learn How...
to deal with an unresponsive spouse.
