Love and Respect Husband + Logo Mug
Are you a husband who just can’t reflect without your coffee but needs a new mug? This one is marked for you! Wives…this is a great respectful gift for your husband. They are finally here, mugs from Love and Respect! Whether you are engaging a Love and Respect product, like the 52 week devotional, and need your coffee to reflect; or you are a wife looking for a gift for your husband. Anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, weddings, or just because, this mug will look great both in the cupboard and in his hand.
Love & Respect Coffee Cup
The Husband Mug
Timeless Ceramic Mugs
Experience a hint of nostalgia with our traditional ceramic custom diner mugs, reminiscent of simpler times. These 11 oz. ceramic mugs boast a sturdy build, glossy exterior, slight top and bottom flare, and a thick curved grip for easy handling. They make a perfect addition to your mug collection, adding a touch of charm to your daily coffee or tea enjoyment. Let these timeless mugs transport you to cherished memories as you sip your favorite beverages in comfort and style.
Spark Conversations on Marriage, Family, and Faith!
Immerse yourself in captivating conversations about marriage, family, and faith as you sip from our engaging ceramic diner mugs. These mugs are not just ordinary drinkware; they serve as excellent conversation starters among neighbors and friends. Elevate your small group experience by adding these fun and interactive items to the mix. Let the mugs ignite engaging discussions and create lasting memories as you bond over shared experiences and heartfelt conversations.
Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
About Love & RespectProduct Quotes
Your husband knows you value his friendship when you tell him you like him and you show it (he knows you love him, but he often wonders if you really like him).
Troubles over sex and money do not cause a marriage to go under. The lack of love and respect during conflict cause the marriage to go under.
Truth will carry its own weight if delivered respectfully and lovingly.
Be quick to listen and understand and you have a much better chance of being understood.
Knowing my spouse will not be able to love or respect me perfectly, I commit to having a forgiving spirit so that I may never speak hatefully or contemptuously.
Research and experience prove that men and women see and hear differently. Recognizing these differences and adjusting to them is absolutely necessary for reaching mutual understanding and better communication.
When you relinquish an offense, you need to send that offense somewhere. So follow Jesus’ example and release it to your heavenly Father.
A wife has one driving need: to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need: to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy with conflict.
There is a plan to parent God’s way, even when our children may seek to go their own way at time. The secret is to follow this plan regardless. When you do, I believe you succeed in His eyes.
God is not pink. God is not blue. God is purple. When two become one, they have the potential of displaying God’s attributes and character.
A strong woman of dignity puts on respect out of her love and reverence for Jesus Christ. She trusts that His word not only protects and empowers her, but also rewards her with incomprehensible eternal blessings.
It is so easy to draw wrong conclusions about a spouse’s character and motives due to an occasional flare-up or silly comment.
Parenting is a faith venture. As we parent “unto Christ” we reap God’s reward, “knowing that whatever good anyone does, he will receive the same from the Lord” (Eph. 6:8 NKJV)
Through Jesus and Peter, God set forth His standard for living in the unconditional dimension: choose to be loving even when the other person is not; do what is right regardless of the treatment you receive. I believe this standard applies directly to marriage. A husband who speaks lovingly to his disrespectful wife will be rewarded; and a wife who speaks respectfully to her unloving, not-worthy-of-respect husband will be rewarded. Whether you are husband or wife, the reward is what can keep you going in the midst of the craziness: knowing that God commends you, knowing that you have found his favor for your words and actions.
No matter how difficult your spouse may be at the moment, your spouse does not have control over your reaction; you do. You may be experiencing disappointment, frustration or anger, but you always have a choice. A wife can choose to be disrespectful or respectful. A husband can choose to be unloving or loving.
Will we decide how we see God based on our circumstances, or will we see our circumstances in light of how we view God?
Your wife feels you are open with her when you discuss financial concerns, possible job changes or ideas for your future.
A wife has one driving need--to feel loved. When that need is met she is happy. A husband has one driving need--to feel respected. When that need is met he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love and Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily and biblically.
When Jesus said “turn the other cheek,” He wasn’t saying to be passive wimps. He was teaching that physically people can control you but if you turn and give the other cheek, suddenly you’re in control and you’re making the choices.
This is the Rewarded Cycle: His love blesses regardless of her respect and her respect blesses regardless of his love.
You have to become proactive, rather than just trying to stop the reactive.
When a wife insists that her husband earn her respect, she puts him in a lose-lose situation.
Mutual submission is the only way to live fairly together with mutual authority.
Words of Love or Respect must uplift your spouse, edifying- never manipulating him or her.
Just because you may feel unloved or disrespected does not mean your spouse is sending that message.
I had often asked God to compensate for my mistakes, but in return had I thought He would give me perfect children?
Wives, to energize your husband do an activity with him, shoulder-to-shoulder, without talking.
Don’t conclude that your spouse is wrong when he/she is seeking to do the right and righteous thing.
Money squabbles don’t undermine love and respect; they simply reveal unloving and disrespectful attitudes, which are the real reason why a marriage can start to wobble on the Crazy Cycle.
We can all have moments of anger, but this does not mean we have to lose control and sin.
It’s crucial to communicate with the right tone of voice and the right expression on your face.
You may believe that the careless, unloving or disrespectful words you speak are because your spouse is causing you to speak this way, but Jesus says that it is coming out of your heart.
Thank the Lord for the goodwill each of you has toward the other. Ask Him for strength to give each other the benefit of the doubt during moments when someone’s goodwill seems to be lacking. “He who seeks good finds goodwill, but evil comes to him who searches for it.” (Proverbs 11:27)
There is power and freedom that comes in understanding that no one can cause you to react in a certain way. It is your choice.
“With eyes of faith, envision Jesus standing just beyond the shoulder of your spouse and listening to every word you speak in every conversation, pleasant or tense. When you speak lovingly or respectfully to your spouse, you are speaking to Christ. Your spouse just happens to be there too.” This truth has sanctified the lips of many. Instead of giving their spouse a verbal whipping or choking on the idea of saying anything positive, now some spouses are motivated to speak words of unconditional love or respect.
No matter how difficult your spouse may be at the moment, your spouse does not have control over your reaction; you do. You may be experiencing disappointment, frustration, or anger, but you always have a choice.
If a husband chooses to be a peacemaker--taking the needs and concerns of his wife totally into account during any kind of argument or conflict--his wife will be motivated in turn to respond to his authority during stalemates.
Self-interest should never come ahead of your spouse’s interests.
The Love and Respect message is not about a husband earning his wife’s respect by being more loving any more than it is about a wife earning her husband’s love by being more respectful. Always love or respect is given unconditionally according to God’s commands.
A marriage relationship will be energized when couples learn how to motivate each other God’s way.
Research shows that 70% of the couples who were extremely unhappy in their marriage, but hung in there and worked through the tough time, identified themselves as being very happy five years later.
[Husbands] the most powerful weapons you have are your ears. Just listen to your wife, and she is much more likely to feel understood.
In the ultimate sense you marriage has nothing to do with your spouse. It has everything to do with your relationship with Jesus Christ.
Unconditional love or respect is never wasted. Hang onto this promise: “Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary” (Galatians 6:9).
It’s hard to realize that we would never act around our business associates the way we act around our spouse.
Life is too short to fuss and fret over trivial irritations.
Avoid like the plague trying to punish each other as a means of “motivation.” Christ-followers instinctively know that this destroys any opportunity to act out of reverence for Christ. In all marital issues, love and reverence for Christ must be our primary motivation.
Trusting and obeying God’s Word because we love and reverence God never, ever makes us a hypocrite! When the alarm goes off in the morning, we get up, even when we don’t feel like it getting up. Because we do what we don’t feel like doing, does that make us hypocrites? No, it’s a sign we are responsible people. Showing respectful behavior when we don’t “feel respectful” is evidence of maturity.
We might say that every negative action in the family has an equal and opposite negative reaction.
To get offended is easy, but to forgive is within your power as you walk in His steps.
The heart of my communication means the other person cannot get my heart to be unkind, unloving, or disrespectful. Instead, I have made a decision about who I will be independent of the other person. I won’t blame my unkindness on someone else.
Your spouse has a need that you don’t have. Are you going to say there is something seriously wrong with them or will you say “Viva la Difference”?
God’s commands are not burdensome, but are given to us to spare us from more pain. Why would God command you to do something that doesn’t work?
Our research shows that couples who pray together are more apt to reap all kinds of benefits, including better and more frequent communication, going on “dates” more frequently and having sex more frequently.
When the wife flatly says her husband will have to earn her respect before she gives him any, she leaves the husband in a lose-lose situation. Now he is responsible for both love and respect in the relationship. He must unconditionally love his wife and earn her respect.
Thank God for His forgiveness of your mistakes. In trying to be a loving man or a respectful woman, we blow it. Owning up to mistakes is never easy, but it is always the way to move forward. Take good care not to accuse your spouse of mistakes as you pray. Also, pray about any forgiving to be done in the family, any forgiveness that needs to be asked. Children may need forgiveness (and what about Mom and Dad?). “There is no one on earth who does what is right all the time and never makes a mistake.” (Ecclesiastes 7:20)
Thank the Lord that in the very beginning He created them male and female – Blue and Pink. Ask Him for patience and ever-growing understanding of how men and women see and hear differently. “He created them male and female, and He blessed them.” (Genesis 5:2)
Thank the Lord for all the trouble-free moments in which you and your spouse enjoy Him, each other, your family, your ministry and life as a whole. Ask Him for the strength to accept your measure of trouble, and the wisdom to deal with the annoyances and irritations by loving and respecting each other with new commitment. (You may also want to pray about troubles at work, at church, with the children…) “But those who marry will have trouble in this life” (1 Corinthians 7:28)
His love blesses regardless of her respect; her respect blesses regardless of his love.
We must bring our identity in Christ to our parenting—we must not derive our identity from our children.
When a wife feels unloved, it can be such a shock to her heart that she is oblivious to her disrespectful reactions toward her husband, though any man watching could see it plainly.
It’s true that women have intuition and that men should listen to them. It’s also true that women have blind spots and need the insight of their husbands.
When your wife comes to talk to you, listen to her. Realize she is coming to you because you matter more to her than anyone else. She has certain emotional needs and only you can meet them. Sometimes she may say things that don’t make sense to you and she is apt to misspeak and exaggerate when she is upset, but don’t put her down. Instead, listen to her heart. Give her a chance to express her concerns and, as she does so, don’t try to fix her. Don’t give her your solutions unless she asks for them.
It is crucial for a husband and wife to see that neither one is wrong, but both of them are very different--in body function, outlook and perspective.
Your marriage is really a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and reverence for your Lord.
[Women], your self-love cannot be derived from your husband’s love. It can affect it, but it does not determine it.
As a husband, if you can grasp that you don’t always have to solve your wife’s problems, you will take a giant step toward showing her empathy and understanding.
Thank God for joining you together and for allowing you to trust Him to help you, whatever the issue. God is there for you and expects you to look to Him to keep you together as a team, so ask Him for His help in the smallest of concerns. “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Matthew 19:6)
With a better understanding of God’s promises, you will be on your way to a renewed mind and a changed life.
[Women], as you enter quiet dignity, not preaching at your husband or scolding him as though you were his mother, something happens in his soul as a male.
Just because you’re offended doesn’t mean the other person is offensive.
We send each other messages in “code” based on gender, even though we don’t intend to. What I say is not what you hear, and what you think you heard is not what I meant at all.
Unconditional respect means we confront their wrongdoings respectfully. We do not become uncivil because they are. Who they fail to be does not determine who we will be.
When we speak before we think, we widen the chances the other person(s) will be notably hurt, frustrated, confused, angry, fearful, or offended by something we’ve communicated.
As strong and powerful as marriage bonds can become, our deepest dependency must be on the Lord, not another human being.
When evil comes at you, you’re the one who makes the choice of whether or not it is going to go into you.
To not forgive is to shoot yourself in the foot and put extra gas in the Crazy Cycle.
God is not trying to trick you or mess with you. Trust that He wants to reveal Himself to you just as much as He wants to reveal Himself to the world.
His love motivates her respect. Her respect motivates his love.
A major step toward a happy marriage is accepting differences and working them out with love and respect.
Women give a report to build rapport. Men bond through shoulder-to-shoulder activities without talking.
Words of wisdom for all husbands and wives are these: We easily see what is done to us before we see what we are doing to our mate.
Accidental sparks (unwise remarks) ignite and fuel a fire, and vroom goes the Crazy Cycle.
We get on the Crazy Cycle because without love a wife reacts without respect, and without respect a husband reacts without love.