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The Crazy Cycle in the Workplace
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The Secret to Thriving Workplaces
Organizations succeed when their people keep their noses to the grindstone and do their work…right? Maybe in the short-term, but not after the burnout, employee turnover, and plummeting team spirit that inevitably follows. Regardless of the work required, the culture of a job has a profound effect on morale, especially when it comes to the relationship between management and employees. What does it look like for companies to encourage a positive environment for all levels of work? What is the secret?
Transform Your Workplace
In this 2-part series, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs hones in on the transformative power of a workplace marked by two crucial qualities—personal care and respect. Without a healthy dose of both, a Crazy Cycle of disillusion begins. Because work plays a central role in life, it impacts the rest of our experiences. Applicable to employees and leadership alike, Emerson's teaching demonstrates how attentive, caring management garners respect from its people and in return leads to a strengthened outlook for an organization moving forward. Long-term success requires a broader vision, one that makes decisions beneficial to both the product and the people involved in its production.
Join Dr. Eggerichs in this two part video series! Also includes written content to facilitate questions, reflection and discussion.
Hear What Others Are Saying about The Crazy Cycle in the Workplace
Having Emerson deliver a keynote at our global leaders conference was a huge hit and had leaders in tears, inspired, convicted and clear on next steps.
A Male Boss
Your materials recognize that every person involved may improve their approach to strengthen the team and each has the responsibility to do so. Appreciate your encouragement to view ourselves from the exterior perspective that we might be more effective and productive in our work alongside people facing that exterior, no matter our role or profession.
A Female Boss
The Love & Respect message is so practical and meets everybody where they are regardless of age, gender, or marital condition. Having Emerson deliver a keynote at our global leaders conference was a huge hit and had leaders in tears, inspired, convicted and clear on next steps. He covered a ton of ground in 1 session that will make a lasting impact. CEOs left with a bigger vision for God's call upon their marriage as well as a passion for seeing those they lead understand the insights of Blue/Pink, Love/Respect, and cycles of life and joy.
Your materials recognize that every person involved may improve their approach to strengthen the team and each has the responsibility to do so. Appreciate your encouragement to view ourselves from the exterior perspective that we might be more effective and productive in our work alongside people facing that exterior, no matter our role or profession.
Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
About Love & RespectProduct Quotes
A wife has one driving need--to feel loved. When that need is met she is happy. A husband has one driving need--to feel respected. When that need is met he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love and Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily and biblically.
Your spouse has a need that you don’t have. Are you going to say there is something seriously wrong with them or will you say “Viva la Difference”?
Getting married reveals, usually sooner than later, an incontestable fact: your spouse cannot possibly meet all your needs and desires
To not forgive is to shoot yourself in the foot and put extra gas in the Crazy Cycle.
Don’t pressure yourself with perfection. We are going to fail. A righteous man falls 7 times but gets back up.
Our research shows that couples who pray together are more apt to reap all kinds of benefits, including better and more frequent communication, going on “dates” more frequently and having sex more frequently.
To build a lasting legacy, use proven wisdom that you glean from the Lord.
His love blesses regardless of her respect; her respect blesses regardless of his love.
Do not live by the standards of Hollywood; trust what God says in His Holy Word.
When you’re truly Christ-centered, instead of child-centered, you will be a more effective parent in the long run.
I often stress that one of the greatest rewards any persevering spouse can have is being a good example and influence on the children in the family.
Husbands, to energize your wife give her face-to-face time, allowing her to talk and share her feelings.
If husbands and wives are to understand the Love and Respect Connection, they must realize that they communicate in code. And the problem is, they don’t know how to decipher the messages they send to one another.
As a wife, if you can start to understand how important your husband’s work is to him, you will take a giant step toward communicating respect and honor, two things that he values even more than your love.
Focus on the positive in the midst of the negative, and the Energizing Cycle will keep right on humming.
Your husband knows you value his friendship when you tell him you like him and you show it (he knows you love him, but he often wonders if you really like him).
Although the Crazy Cycle is not what God intends for any marriage, all couples get on it at times from one degree to another.
Avoid like the plague trying to punish each other as a means of “motivation.” Christ-followers instinctively know that this destroys any opportunity to act out of reverence for Christ. In all marital issues, love and reverence for Christ must be our primary motivation.
When others do not respond to our communication, we need to look first at our communication style. Is the other person incapable of hearing what we have to say? Or are we abrupt, brusque, and curt?
We have to step back as Christ followers and ask, “Do I have false expectations that my relationship should be romantic 99% of the time?”
The Crazy Cycle is, indeed, “the evil of folly and the foolishness of madness” (Ecclesiastes 7:25).
Since it is easy to focus on the negative, focus on your mate’s good qualities and express thanks with positive words of Love or Respect.
You may believe that the careless, unloving or disrespectful words you speak are because your spouse is causing you to speak this way, but Jesus says that it is coming out of your heart.
Research shows that 70% of the couples who were extremely unhappy in their marriage, but hung in there and worked through the tough time, identified themselves as being very happy five years later.
When a husband feels disrespected, he has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel unloving to his wife. (Perhaps the command to love was given to him precisely for this reason!) When a wife feels unloved, she has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel disrespectful to her husband. (Perhaps the command to respect was given to her precisely for this reason!)
Marriage is a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and your reverence for Jesus Christ.
When we feel crippling discouragement by the sinful choices and outcomes of our kids, we must not let this permanently deter us from parenting God’s way.
Truth will carry its own weight if delivered respectfully and lovingly.
If we subscribe to the belief that because we are equal we are the same, then we’re going to expect our spouse to respond the way we do.
The woman absolutely needs love, and the man absolutely needs respect. It’s as simple- and as difficult- as that.
As a husband, if you can grasp that you don’t always have to solve your wife’s problems, you will take a giant step toward showing her empathy and understanding.
Be quick to listen and understand and you have a much better chance of being understood.
[Husbands] as the church places her burdens on Christ, so a woman needs to place her burdens on her husband. When she shares with you, don’t assume she is asking you to solve the problem. Ask your wife, “Do you want a solution or a listening ear?”
Knowing my spouse will not be able to love or respect me perfectly, I commit to having a forgiving spirit so that I may never speak hatefully or contemptuously.
Often both spouses have goodwill but are not deciphering each other’s code. She criticizes out of love, but he “hears” only disrespect. He distances himself to prevent feelings from escalating, which is the honorable thing to do, but she “sees” only his failure to be loving!
A most significant point of this book is this: If what we think is true, kind, necessary, and clear, we need to have the courage to hit send. This isn’t about refraining from speaking; this is about speaking.
Marital researchers agree that a huge percentage of communication problems between husband and wife are due not to what is said but to how it is said – the attitude and tone of voice.
Words of Love or Respect must uplift your spouse, edifying- never manipulating him or her.
When you look to God and His Word as your ultimate source of significance and security, you don’t demand that your spouse take that role in your life. And as you draw strength from the Lord individually, He draws you closer together as a couple.
God’s commands are not burdensome, but are given to us to spare us from more pain. Why would God command you to do something that doesn’t work?
A marriage relationship will be energized when couples learn how to motivate each other God’s way.
Will we decide how we see God based on our circumstances, or will we see our circumstances in light of how we view God?
When evil comes at you, you’re the one who makes the choice of whether or not it is going to go into you.
We fool ourselves into thinking the other person causes us to be the way we are. They really don’t! But if we lock into that idea, we become helpless, hopeless victims.
Life is too short to fuss and fret over trivial irritations.
Unconditional respect means we confront their wrongdoings respectfully. We do not become uncivil because they are. Who they fail to be does not determine who we will be.
A strong woman of dignity puts on respect out of her love and reverence for Jesus Christ. She trusts that His word not only protects and empowers her, but also rewards her with incomprehensible eternal blessings.
Being friendly to her man is one of the most effective things a woman can do to strengthen her marriage.
Always see your mate as an ally. Feedback is of little use if you see your spouse as an enemy. Giving and receiving constructive feedback is based on feelings of goodwill in both partners. Both of you need to remember that, even if you don’t always agree and even if you become irritated or angry, you are friends, and neither of you means to hurt the other.
Responding to offensive words or actions with your own offensive words and actions is damaging and unproductive.
Accidental sparks (unwise remarks) ignite and fuel a fire, and vroom goes the Crazy Cycle.
Unconditional love or respect is never wasted. Hang onto this promise: “Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary” (Galatians 6:9).
Your spouse deserves the truth from you. Do your best to tell it with love and respect.
The moment we cry to Him for help, He is already pleased. He gives us strength to love our children.
Both Judas and Peter denied Jesus Christ, but there is a huge difference between a Judas and a Peter.
Just because you’re offended doesn’t mean the other person is offensive.
Your marriage is really a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and reverence for your Lord.
Words of wisdom for all husbands and wives are these: We easily see what is done to us before we see what we are doing to our mate.
Marriage is a test of how you unconditionally love and respect your spouse as you obey, honor, and please the Lord.
Each of you must focus on what God is calling you to do toward your spouse. Do not focus on what you think God is calling your spouse to do toward you.
Your position in Christ is what counts, not your less-than-perfect performance.
God rewards your obedience to love and respect, even if your spouse does not respond!
The more we are upset at something, the wiser it is to let twenty-four hours pass before responding.
Words of love from a husband are like good medicine that brings life to the marriage.
We have discovered that as women motivate their man God’s way, men are energized to love them better. It doesn’t matter if your marriage is good or seems like there is no hope. We have seen God move in powerful ways even when things looked hopeless.
When you come home after you have been apart, the first few moments of reconnecting will set the tone for the rest of the evening.
Though the end can be worthy (to be loved and respected), when each uses unholy means (unloving and disrespectful words and actions), it will not achieve those ends. We must treat others as we expect them to treat us. To deny this makes us arrogant or fools, or both.
Do you believe that there is a God who really loves you and wants to help you?
Your marriage is a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and reverence for Jesus Christ. God is using your spouse to bring you an eternal reward.
You both forgive for one simple but profound reason: because you know Christ has forgiven you!
When one of you makes a mistake, control any anger you may feel and trust God completely, no matter what happens.
Mutual submission is the only way to live fairly together with mutual authority.
Do you understand that God feels compassion for you, no matter what you have done or what your circumstances may be?
We get on the Crazy Cycle because without love a wife reacts without respect, and without respect a husband reacts without love.
It’s so easy to dismiss our spouse as childish because we don’t have the same vulnerabilities they do.
This is the Rewarded Cycle: His love blesses regardless of her respect and her respect blesses regardless of his love.
Don’t label each other as bad because you differ on how you solve your troubles.
Recognize your different gifts--how each of you (Pink and Blue) functions according to God’s perfect design.
We can communicate the truth in the best of manners, but the person may be so insecure he or she can only react and attack like a wounded bear.
Stay the course regardless of the child’s respect and obedience. This is the Family Rewarded Cycle: a parents love unto Christ regardless of the child.
Self-interest should never come ahead of your spouse’s interests.
Husbands primarily want to hear ‘respect” talk during conflict. Wives primarily want to hear “love” talk during conflict.
He will feel appreciated when you recognize his problem-solving approach as his male brand of empathy.
No matter how difficult your spouse may be at the moment, your spouse does not have control over your reaction; you do. You may be experiencing disappointment, frustration or anger, but you always have a choice. A wife can choose to be disrespectful or respectful. A husband can choose to be unloving or loving.