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8 Ways To Jump Off The Crazy Cycle

Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss 8 ways to prevent and get off the Crazy Cycle (see Episode 1 for a deeper explanation of the Crazy Cycle. Examples include what to do when you see the spirit of your spouse deflate, accepting some trouble as normal, and trusting in each other's goodwill.

8 Ways To Jump Off The Crazy Cycle

Parenting: Chronic Anger or Chronic Appeasement? Part I

What is the Issue? Children need to honor parents and show this in their respectful attitude and obedient actions. However, many parents do not always feel respected nor obeyed so they seek methods that will motivate the child to be respectful and obedient. How do we deal with this Issue? There are right ways of dealing with this and wrong ways. Join Emerson and Jonathan in Part I this week as they explore this topic.

Parenting: Chronic Anger or Chronic Appeasement? Part I

Parenting: Chronic Anger or Chronic Appeasement? Part II

Emerson and Jonathan continue this important topic in part 2 this week, including adding a third component of apathy. What is the Issue? Children need to honor parents and show this in their respectful attitude and obedient actions. However, many parents do not always feel respected nor obeyed so they seek methods that will motivate the child to be respectful and obedient. How do we deal with this Issue? There are right ways of dealing with this and wrong ways.

Parenting: Chronic Anger or Chronic Appeasement? Part II

Saying "Thanks" Versus Being Grateful - Part I

We can say "thanks" but not be grateful. We can mouth words but our hearts are elsewhere. We are fixated on ourselves. We have probably all seen this in ourselves. The Bible says in 2 Timothy 3:2 that people can be "lovers of self... ungrateful." We can even sing a song of thanks while in a worship service at church but inwardly dwell on the hurt and offense we feel toward someone who wronged us the day before. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week in this two part series which starts with how we can be grateful for the tangible things in our lives.

Saying "Thanks" Versus Being Grateful - Part I

Saying "Thanks" Versus Being Grateful - Part II

We can say "thanks" but not be grateful. We can mouth words but our hearts are elsewhere. We are fixated on ourselves. We have probably all seen this in ourselves. The Bible says in 2 Timothy 3:2 that people can be "lovers of self... ungrateful." We can even sing a song of thanks while in a worship service at church but inwardly dwell on the hurt and offense we feel toward someone who wronged us the day before. Join Emerson and Jonathan in part 2 this week as they continue the conversation about gratefulness, but focusing on the intangible.

Saying "Thanks" Versus Being Grateful - Part II

The Rules of Engagement for a Well-Utilized Time-Out

Emerson and Jonathan explore the concept of "time-outs" in marriage during conflict. Emerson emphasizes the importance of recognizing when a break is needed during a heated argument, just as in sports, a well-timed time-out can change the game's outcome.

The Rules of Engagement for a Well-Utilized Time-Out

An Aphrodisiac for Your Wife: C.O.U.P.L.E.

Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss the essential elements of an aphrodisiac for wives. Drawing on insights from the Love & Respect Book and Workbook, they emphasize the crucial role of emotional closeness in fostering a satisfying sexual relationship.

An Aphrodisiac for Your Wife: C.O.U.P.L.E.

Pink and Blue Differences Related to Six Challenges Every Couple Experiences

Join Emerson and Jonathan this episode as they discuss the aspects of marriage outlined in First Corinthians 7, six challenges faced by every married couple. These challenges encompass differing needs, vulnerabilities, disagreements, disappointments, insecurities, and hardships, symbolized as "his and her" in the realms of pink and blue.

Pink and Blue Differences Related to Six Challenges Every Couple Experiences

Does One Spouse Have the Power to Positively Affect the Marriage?

Emerson and Jonathan challenge couples to reconsider their perspectives on marital issues, looking beyond negative aspects and exploring the front-side strengths of each spouse.

Does One Spouse Have the Power to Positively Affect the Marriage?

Love and Respect Improves Communication

Emerson and Jonathan explore the importance of love and respect in improving communication within marriage. The analogy of love and respect as food and water is used to emphasize their essential role in a healthy relationship.

Love and Respect Improves Communication

How to Propose to Your Spouse to Make Small Adjustments in The Marriage

Jonathan and Emerson discuss the importance of resolving small problems in a marriage. They emphasize that the accumulation of little issues can lead to bigger problems over time.

How to Propose to Your Spouse to Make Small Adjustments in The Marriage

Living in the Shadow: Discovering Identity, Purpose, and Direction

Emerson and Jonathan discuss the topic of identity and living in the shadow of others. They explore the struggles of comparing oneself to more successful individuals and the impact it can have on one's sense of identity.

Living in the Shadow: Discovering Identity, Purpose, and Direction

Embracing Diverse Parenting Styles: The Strengths of Mothers and Fathers - Part 1

Emerson and Jonathan discuss the topic of embracing diverse parenting styles and the strengths of mothers and fathers. They highlight the distinct strengths that mothers and fathers bring to parenting, such as intuition and empathy for mothers and analytical problem-solving for fathers in many cases.

Embracing Diverse Parenting Styles: The Strengths of Mothers and Fathers - Part 1

Embracing Diverse Parenting Styles: The Strengths of Mothers and Fathers - Part 2

In Part 2 Emerson and Jonathan provide a checklist for effective parenting, including openly discussing parenting strengths, acknowledging and appreciating each other's strengths, and working together to find the best approach.

Embracing Diverse Parenting Styles: The Strengths of Mothers and Fathers - Part 2

Jump Start Conversations With These Lead-In Sentences

Emerson and Jonathan discuss the importance of jumpstarting conversations with lead-in sentences to improve communication. They focus on four categories: true communication, kind communication, necessary communication, and clear communication.

Jump Start Conversations With These Lead-In Sentences

When Someone Turns to You For Advice After They Feel They Misread God’s Leading, What Can You Say to Them?

Emerson and Jonathan discuss God’s will. The conversation covers various recommendations, including guarding against misinterpretations, making humble inquiries, accepting normal challenges, and sticking to commitments while maintaining focus on the primary vision.

When Someone Turns to You For Advice After They Feel They Misread God’s Leading, What Can You Say to Them?

Husbands Love Marriage, But It's Not Always Obvious

Emerson and Jonathan discuss the importance of understanding that husband’s love marriage too but recognizing how this might come across differently and some of the reasons husbands might be perceived as not loving the marriage.

Husbands Love Marriage, But It's Not Always Obvious

Guard Against Thinking You Are the Only One Trying to Get Off the Crazy Cycle

Emerson and Jonathan discuss the concept of the 'crazy cycle' in relationships, where a wife's feeling of being unloved leads to disrespectful reactions toward her husband, and vice versa.

Guard Against Thinking You Are the Only One Trying to Get Off the Crazy Cycle

Intimacy in Marriage: I Need You and You Need Me... I Have Your Back and You Have My Back

In this episode the importance of expressing and responding to needs and vulnerabilities in marriage is discussed by Emerson and Jonathan. They emphasize the biblical basis for saying "I need you" and "I have your back" to your spouse.

Intimacy in Marriage: I Need You and You Need Me... I Have Your Back and You Have My Back

Finding Agreement- The Deeper Secret Behind a Sleep Apnea Mask

In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss the importance of finding agreement in a marriage, particularly when it comes to sexual intimacy. They share a story of a couple who went through Emerson's win-win marriage course and how they found agreement on the issue of sleep apnea.

Finding Agreement- The Deeper Secret Behind a Sleep Apnea Mask

Why Do Some Husbands And Wives Resist Learning About A Win-Win Marriage? - Part 1

The conversation first briefly covers six steps to achieving a win-win that Emerson has discussed elsewhere and will unpack with more depth in future courses, but primarily looks at reasons why some resist this approach, and how to overcome common fears and obstacles such as pessimism, the unknown, vulnerability, hurt, manipulation, and stubbornness.

Why Do Some Husbands And Wives Resist Learning About A Win-Win Marriage? - Part 1

Why Do Some Husbands And Wives Resist Learning About A Win-Win Marriage? - Part 2

In Part 2, Jonathan and Emerson continue to discuss the reasons why some husbands and wives resist the idea of a win-win marriage. They cover topics such as selfish control, better than thou attitude, arrogance and lack of humility, lack of positive role models, limited negotiation skills, and disbelief in win-win.

Why Do Some Husbands And Wives Resist Learning About A Win-Win Marriage? - Part 2

Do Intellectuals, Wardens, Social Workers, and Doctors Understand Unconditional Respect?

This episode explores the concept of unconditional respect and its application in various aspects of life, including marriage and interpersonal relationships.

Do Intellectuals, Wardens, Social Workers, and Doctors Understand Unconditional Respect?

The Win-Win Couple Discusses These Six Things When in Disagreement

In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss how couples can find win-win solutions when they are in disagreement. They emphasize the importance of discussing the facts, feelings, negatives, positives, proposals, and plans.

The Win-Win Couple Discusses These Six Things When in Disagreement

Rising Above Ineffective Problem-Solving Strategies - Part 1

In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss the art of rising above ineffective problem-solving strategies.

Rising Above Ineffective Problem-Solving Strategies - Part 1

Rising Above Ineffective Problem-Solving Strategies - Part 2

In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan continue their exploration of effective problem-solving strategies, focusing on acknowledging personal contributions to issues.

Rising Above Ineffective Problem-Solving Strategies - Part 2

Could You Be Overreacting to an Issue That Isn’t Moral?

Emerson and Jonathan discuss how misinterpretations can lead to overreactions in marriage. They explore various examples where spouses misinterpret each other's actions and intentions, causing unnecessary conflict.

Could You Be Overreacting to an Issue That Isn’t Moral?

Parallel Worlds: Virtual Particles and the Mysteries of Jesus

Emerson and Jonathan look at some of the interesting parallels between quantum mechanics and the mysteries of Jesus, including addressing the dismissive attitude of the scientific community towards believers and the burden faced by young people questioning their faith.

Parallel Worlds: Virtual Particles and the Mysteries of Jesus

C.H.A.I.R.S. - The Masculine Mindset

In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan explore the masculine mindset through the acronym CHAIRS, detailing the six key desires men have in relationships: Conquest, Hierarchy, Authority, Insight, Relationship, and Sexuality. They contrast these with the six needs a wife has...

C.H.A.I.R.S. - The Masculine Mindset

Trigger Points- Understanding and Managing Daily Annoyances and Anger

Jonathan and Emerson discuss the topic of annoyances and anger. They explore the different triggers and reactions to life circumstances and the impact it has on relationships.

Trigger Points- Understanding and Managing Daily Annoyances and Anger

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