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“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle” - Part 3

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle” - Part 3

Because a husband primarily sees through the lens of respect, he knows that he seeks to be respectful and honorable as a man. And, he knows that she falls short of being respectful, at least as respectful as he is as a man.

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 2

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 2

In part 2 we will discuss pink’s “proof” that she is right, and in part 3 we will break down blue’s so-called evidence.

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 1

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 1

Long ago I discovered a disheartening and detrimental pattern that drains a married couple of the positive vitality they experienced earlier in their relationship, and still long to experience now, when they do not apply a specific scripture to their marriage.

Does God Reveal What Our Fellowship In Heaven Will Be Like With Him And Other Believers?

Does God Reveal What Our Fellowship In Heaven Will Be Like With Him And Other Believers?

Our fellowship is with God the Father, Jesus His Son, and the Holy Spirit. Paul launches 1 Corinthians with this: "God is faithful, through whom you were called into fellowship with His Son, Jesus Christ our Lord” (1:9).

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“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle” - Part 3

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 2

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 1

Does God Reveal What Our Fellowship In Heaven Will Be Like With Him And Other Believers?

Christian Life

Is Your Wife Disagreeing with You Because She Rejects Your Spiritual Leadership?

Is Your Wife Disagreeing with You Because She Rejects Your Spiritual Leadership?

Most wives I have met actually do long for their husbands to be the spiritual leader of their family. They are not resisting his leadership; they truly do believe it's biblical. However, they fear that he will not take their opinions into consideration.

Will You Make This Pledge Every Time Your Spouse Pinches Your Air Hose?

Will You Make This Pledge Every Time Your Spouse Pinches Your Air Hose?

Leaders from different countries, such as the United States and France, have disagreements at times and do things that feel uncaring and dishonoring to each other.

What Keeps You Motivated When the Love and Respect Are Not Reciprocal?

What Keeps You Motivated When the Love and Respect Are Not Reciprocal?

This should in no way be surprising to hear, but simply realizing the causes and effects of the Crazy Cycle does not mean you and your spouse will stop taking spins on them. Learning about her pink way of communicating and interpreting the world, as opposed to your blue perspective on life, does not mean you will always like her pink way of going about things or that she will always speak to you in a way that your blue hearing aids correctly interpret as a respectful response. And even if a wife always keeps Ephesians 5:33 at the forefront of her mind and shows unconditional respect, reinforced by the greatest Respect Talk known to man, this does not mean her husband will love her perfectly, all the time, in a way that is music to her pink ears.

Why Is Our Initial Reaction to Our Spouse Hurting Us Usually Defensive?

Why Is Our Initial Reaction to Our Spouse Hurting Us Usually Defensive?

Why do we defensively react to our spouse in times when we do not feel very loved or respected by them? Because if we’re honest with ourselves, we know that we all do so at times. Think about some of those moments. Our spouse is upset with us for forgetting to pick up a package at the post office.

Should a Spouse Aim for Being “Reasonably Happy” in a Marriage?

Should a Spouse Aim for Being “Reasonably Happy” in a Marriage?

By far, one of the most rewarding aspects of being a part of Love and Respect is hearing from others about their relationships. Whether it is in person, at a conference or in an e-mail exchange, it is always a blessing to learn how others are trying to strengthen their marriage and work through tough issues that unfortunately many in this world simply allow to divide them further from their spouse.

Ask a Different Question: How (Bad) Good Is Your Marriage?

Ask a Different Question: How (Bad) Good Is Your Marriage?

How bad is your marriage? What bothers you at this very moment concerning your spouse? Is your husband stonewalling you? Is your wife complaining far too much? Is the reverse true? Do you want your husband to be more romantic? Do you wish your wife would desire to be sexually intimate with you more often than she normally does? Is the reverse true?

Key Truths about a Husband and Wife Needing and Desiring Sex - Part 3 - Mutual Does Not Mean the Same

Key Truths about a Husband and Wife Needing and Desiring Sex - Part 3 - Mutual Does Not Mean the Same

In parts 1 and 2, we discussed a key difference in men and women’s approaches toward sex. Though both desire and need sex, we need to understand a wife’s interpretation of sex through the love lens and the husband’s interpretation of sex through the respect grid. I take this position because God commands the husband to love his wife in Ephesians 5:33 (C.O.U.P.L.E.) and commands a wife to respect her husband in that same verse (C.H.A.I.R.S.). (Please read parts 1 and 2 of this 3-part blog series for a more complete explanation of C.O.U.P.L.E. and C.H.A.I.R.S.) Every married couple that is concerned about their sexual intimacy needs to answer the following with honesty and accuracy.

Key Truths about a Husband and Wife Needing and Desiring Sex - Part 2 - Is It Just About Sex for the Man?

Key Truths about a Husband and Wife Needing and Desiring Sex - Part 2 - Is It Just About Sex for the Man?

In part 1 of this series, we discussed how even Hollywood unwittingly supports God’s design for unconditional love being absolutely vital to a woman in order for her to truly enjoy sex with a man long-term. Because in the end, for her the perennial question will always be, “Do you love me for me—unconditionally?” And when he assures her of his unconditional love toward her by acting out C.O.U.P.L.E.—the six biblical ways God’s Word reveals that a man should love his wife—he will be hitting on all cylinders the premiere aphrodisiac for his wife.