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“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle” - Part 3

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle” - Part 3

Because a husband primarily sees through the lens of respect, he knows that he seeks to be respectful and honorable as a man. And, he knows that she falls short of being respectful, at least as respectful as he is as a man.

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 2

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 2

In part 2 we will discuss pink’s “proof” that she is right, and in part 3 we will break down blue’s so-called evidence.

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 1

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 1

Long ago I discovered a disheartening and detrimental pattern that drains a married couple of the positive vitality they experienced earlier in their relationship, and still long to experience now, when they do not apply a specific scripture to their marriage.

Does God Reveal What Our Fellowship In Heaven Will Be Like With Him And Other Believers?

Does God Reveal What Our Fellowship In Heaven Will Be Like With Him And Other Believers?

Our fellowship is with God the Father, Jesus His Son, and the Holy Spirit. Paul launches 1 Corinthians with this: "God is faithful, through whom you were called into fellowship with His Son, Jesus Christ our Lord” (1:9).

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle” - Part 3

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 2

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 1

Does God Reveal What Our Fellowship In Heaven Will Be Like With Him And Other Believers?

How Can a Wife Best Tell Her Husband That He Has Emotionally Hurt Her?

How Can a Wife Best Tell Her Husband That He Has Emotionally Hurt Her?

“Please help! My husband hurt me and when I try to tell him, he gets defensive and refuses to apologize. He hurts me even more. ”If there is one dominant theme I hear from women who have been hurt emotionally by their husbands, it is that when a wife tries to express to her husband how she has been hurt by something he did or said, he becomes defensive and hurts her even more.

During This Present Distress: Embrace Christ's Care, Call, and Comfort

During This Present Distress: Embrace Christ's Care, Call, and Comfort

In C. S. Lewis’s classic The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe, we learn that in the land of Narnia it’s “always winter but never Christmas.” Can you, like me, connect with that line in a whole new way, here in the middle of this pandemic and the resulting quarantine? Do you feel as though you are in round-the-clock adversity and anguish, with no end in sight of a happy celebration? Is your new normal starting to feel like Narnia—always winter but never Christmas?

Have You Thanked God Today for Your Vulnerabilities?

Have You Thanked God Today for Your Vulnerabilities?

Consider the following Scripture passages that use bride and groom analogies to describe Jesus’ relationship with the body of Christ: And I saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, made ready as a bride adorned for her husband. (Revelation 21:2) For I am jealous for you with a godly jealousy; for I betrothed you to one husband, so that to Christ I might present you as a pure virgin. (2 Corinthians 11:2) As the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall your God rejoice over you. (Isaiah 62:5)

Are You Letting Your Feelings Determine the Facts?

Are You Letting Your Feelings Determine the Facts?

Over the years I have encountered a specific tendency that repeatedly reveals itself in many of the emails I receive from wives. Instead of allowing the facts in a situation to influence her feelings on the matter, she allows her feelings to determine what she deems to be the facts. However, she is not seeking to be deceptive, which is why she doesn’t discern what she is doing.

Are You Decoding Your Spouse’s Design When It Comes to Their Communication Styles?

Are You Decoding Your Spouse’s Design When It Comes to Their Communication Styles?

In a survey from Focus on the Family, participants were asked, “What was (and possibly still is) the biggest problem affecting your marriage?” For both men and women the most popular answers by far all dealt with communication. These findings match up with what we have learned at Love and Respect Ministries. Having studied thousands of letters and emails from husbands of wives of both long marriages and newer ones, the common thread that runs through almost all of them is that, in one way or another, the major challenge for the common couple is communication.

An Alto Doesn’t Need Another Alto

An Alto Doesn’t Need Another Alto

In music, a vocal quartet is made up of four different parts or singing styles: alto, soprano, tenor, and base. All four must be included in order for the vocal group to be a quartet. The tenor cannot kick out the bass and replace him with another tenor. The soprano cannot find two more soprano friends and get rid of the alto and tenor. All four parts must be present and fulfilling their roles for the harmonies of their music to sound just right. No part is more important than another; neither is any part unnecessary and would be better off being more like another part.

What Does the Lack of Goodwill Look Like in a Man?

What Does the Lack of Goodwill Look Like in a Man?

I always prefer to assume goodwill in my audience. Calling someone goodwilled is not the same as calling them perfect. Clearly all of us are broken, sinful, and capable of mistakes daily. But I believe the vast majority do so with goodwill in their hearts.

Are You Hearing Yourself the Same Way Your Spouse Does?

Are You Hearing Yourself the Same Way Your Spouse Does?

Most people hate the sound of their voice when they hear themselves on a voicemail or on the radio or on some other type of recording. They can’t believe they sound as high as they do, or as whiney, or so robotic, with very little reflection in their voice. Like hearing nails scraping across a chalkboard, they absolutely cringe at the sound of their voice. That can’t be me, they think to themselves. Is my voice really that annoying?