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“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle” - Part 3

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle” - Part 3

Because a husband primarily sees through the lens of respect, he knows that he seeks to be respectful and honorable as a man. And, he knows that she falls short of being respectful, at least as respectful as he is as a man.

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 2

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 2

In part 2 we will discuss pink’s “proof” that she is right, and in part 3 we will break down blue’s so-called evidence.

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 1

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 1

Long ago I discovered a disheartening and detrimental pattern that drains a married couple of the positive vitality they experienced earlier in their relationship, and still long to experience now, when they do not apply a specific scripture to their marriage.

Does God Reveal What Our Fellowship In Heaven Will Be Like With Him And Other Believers?

Does God Reveal What Our Fellowship In Heaven Will Be Like With Him And Other Believers?

Our fellowship is with God the Father, Jesus His Son, and the Holy Spirit. Paul launches 1 Corinthians with this: "God is faithful, through whom you were called into fellowship with His Son, Jesus Christ our Lord” (1:9).

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle” - Part 3

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 2

“I’m Right and My Spouse Is Wrong, So It’s Not My Job to Get Us Off the Crazy Cycle!” - Part 1

Does God Reveal What Our Fellowship In Heaven Will Be Like With Him And Other Believers?

A Forgiving Spirit Safeguards Our Well-Being and Influences Others

A Forgiving Spirit Safeguards Our Well-Being and Influences Others

Rarely do we consider forgiveness much of an issue in our life until something happens that leaves us feeling wronged and offended. It is in these times when we discover something about ourselves and our default reactions. We feel hurt, angry, and resentful. We feel the other does not deserve forgiveness.

C.O.U.P.L.E.—The Key to Both Motivating and De-motivating Your Wife in C.H.A.I.R.S.

C.O.U.P.L.E.—The Key to Both Motivating and De-motivating Your Wife in C.H.A.I.R.S.

Is there a connection between C.O.U.P.L.E. and C.H.A.I.R.S.?In my book Love & Respect, I supply the acronym C.O.U.P.L.E. as a way for a husband to spell love to his wife, as well as C.H.A.I.R.S., intended to help a wife spell respect to her husband. Why love for her?

Do Intellectuals, Wardens, Social Workers, and Doctors Understand Unconditional Respect?

Do Intellectuals, Wardens, Social Workers, and Doctors Understand Unconditional Respect?

In Stanford’s educational series, we read, “In the literature of moral and political philosophy, the notion of respect for persons commonly means a kind of respect that all people are owed morally just because they are persons, regardless of social position, individual characteristics or achievements, or moral merit.” Respect regardless! Wait. What? No!

The Kids Are Grown Up and Gone . . . Now What?

The Kids Are Grown Up and Gone . . . Now What?

As any parent will tell you, kids take up so much time. Soccer games, swim practice, piano lessons, back and forth from school, play dates, after-school events... the list goes on. And those are just the things that keep us busy outside the home! When we actually find time to be at home, the air is filled with pleas from our kids: “Mom, I’m hungry.” “Dad, something’s wrong with my bike.” “Where’s my iPad charger?”

Are You Really Seeking Help, or Only Someone to Confirm Your Victimhood?

Are You Really Seeking Help, or Only Someone to Confirm Your Victimhood?

Over the years, people write me out of a deep, authentic concern for their marriage. I always try to reply, especially when requests for help are made. But what I have found is that few people ever write back or say thanks, such as was the case with this wife. Here is part of her original email to me: How do I respond when my husband initiates a conflict with a negative derogatory remark about me? What can I say that responds in love? No matter what he says, do I say, "I love you, even when you say things that hurt me deeply," and then leave the area or what? Please respond to this question if possible.

What Can a Wife Do When Feeling Neglected Sexually on a Regular Basis?

What Can a Wife Do When Feeling Neglected Sexually on a Regular Basis?

Based on God’s summary statement on marriage in Ephesians 5:33, we conclude that above all else, women desire to feel loved unconditionally and that men, above all, desire to be respected for who they are as a man. However, when it comes to marriage, does the emphasis on unconditional love mean wives do not want sex?

Are Men In Your Church Hearing Their Native Tongue Spoken?

Are Men In Your Church Hearing Their Native Tongue Spoken?

Imagine with me a guy who is a lifelong fitness nut. He only eats the best of foods, he can run a 5K at the drop of a hat in less than twenty minutes, and he goes to the gym five days a week. Let’s suppose he is also instrumental in helping his girlfriend and future wife lose weight and get into shape, after a lifetime of struggles for her.

“Help! Forget Respect—What If I Don’t Even Love My Husband?”

“Help! Forget Respect—What If I Don’t Even Love My Husband?”

In Ephesians 5:33, husbands are commanded to love their wives, and wives are commanded to respect their husbands. One obvious question that I often receive concerning this is, “Why aren’t wives commanded to love their husbands?” The answer I always share is that God is not in the business of commanding us to do things that we naturally do on our own. Put simply, women love to love.