Motivating Your Man God’s Way: Applying One Word That Energizes Him to Love
In book one you discovered your husband’s code word. That single truth motivates your husband to serve you and even die for you. In this book, you are ready to apply this discovery.

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What You Will Learn
- Discover your husband's motivating code word and unleash its power.
- Decode and communicate your unique code to inspire your husband.
- Understand the true intentions behind your words and actions for effective motivation.
- Implement practical strategies to energize and strengthen your relationship.
- Explore transformative testimonies and real-life breakthroughs.
- Gain insights on navigating conflicts and fostering understanding.
- Harness the principles for extraordinary results in your marriage.
Motivating Your Man God's Way
Applying One Word That Energizes Him to Love
Unveiling the Motivating Code
In book one, you made a groundbreaking discovery – your husband's code word. This profound revelation serves as a driving force, motivating your husband to serve you and even make sacrifices on your behalf. Now, as you delve into this next book, you are prepared to apply and harness the power of this discovery.
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Empower Your Relationship
Dr. Eggerichs sheds light on the dynamics of communication between husbands and wives. He emphasizes that wives have their unique code, often unbeknownst to them, and they expect their husbands to decipher it. The key to motivating your husband lies in helping him understand the true intentions and messages behind your words and actions, essentially decoding your secret code. By seeking to comprehend your husband's code and implementing the principles outlined in this book, you can inspire him to better understand and respond to your own code. This process, when acted upon, will energize him to decode your messages and bring about extraordinary and amazing results.

Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
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It’s so easy to dismiss our spouse as childish because we don’t have the same vulnerabilities they do.
Self-interest should never come ahead of your spouse’s interests.
When you relinquish an offense, you need to send that offense somewhere. So follow Jesus’ example and release it to your heavenly Father.
Every marriage includes trouble some of the time. Do not let the 20% leaven all the rest.
When you possess a forgiving spirit, words of Love and Respect will flow authentically from your lips- and realize that the Lord Himself is listening to you at moments like these. He knows you are not powerless, but actually full of power that He has granted you.
Your wife feels you are open with her when you discuss financial concerns, possible job changes or ideas for your future.
Life is too short to fuss and fret over trivial irritations.
Unconditional respect, like unconditional love, is all about how one sounds (tone of voice and word choice) and appears (facial expressions and physical actions).
Wives, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your husband not only back to you, but to God. Husbands, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your wife not only back to you, but to God. (1 Corinthians 7:16)
The more we are upset at something, the wiser it is to let twenty-four hours pass before responding.
We have discovered that as women motivate their man God’s way, men are energized to love them better. It doesn’t matter if your marriage is good or seems like there is no hope. We have seen God move in powerful ways even when things looked hopeless.
Your spouse can have a need that you don’t have and that’s okay.
There is a discrepancy between who we want to be and see ourselves to be and how we actually sound in voice and writing. But with self-reflection and honesty, we can turn the corner and improve our communication. We need only evaluate what we are about to communicate.
His love motivates her respect. Her respect motivates his love.
The Crazy Cycle is, indeed, “the evil of folly and the foolishness of madness” (Ecclesiastes 7:25).
Often the apparent issue isn’t the real issue; the real issue is always a matter of love or respect.
Troubles over sex and money do not cause a marriage to go under. The lack of love and respect during conflict cause the marriage to go under.
Will we decide how we see God based on our circumstances, or will we see our circumstances in light of how we view God?
Whether visiting a prison, feeding the hungry, giving the thirsty a drink or speaking a word of love or respect, everything is to be done to and for Christ.
The Crazy Cycle is, indeed “the evil of folly and the foolishness of madness” (Ecclesiastes 7:25)
Our research shows that couples who pray together are more apt to reap all kinds of benefits, including better and more frequent communication, going on “dates” more frequently and having sex more frequently.
Avoid like the plague trying to punish each other as a means of “motivation.” Christ-followers instinctively know that this destroys any opportunity to act out of reverence for Christ. In all marital issues, love and reverence for Christ must be our primary motivation.
Don’t conclude that your spouse is wrong when he/she is seeking to do the right and righteous thing.
God’s commands are not burdensome, but are given to us to spare us from more pain. Why would God command you to do something that doesn’t work?
[Husbands] as the church places her burdens on Christ, so a woman needs to place her burdens on her husband. When she shares with you, don’t assume she is asking you to solve the problem. Ask your wife, “Do you want a solution or a listening ear?”
How we react to a situation reveals more about us than about the other person.
When a husband feels disrespected, it is especially hard to love his wife. When a wife feels unloved, it is especially hard to respect her husband.
God rewards your obedience to love and respect, even if your spouse does not respond!
Words of Love and Respect must include thankfulness spoken to or about your spouse; don’t fixate on weaknesses and faults.
Your spouse may meet many of your needs, but your deepest dependency should be on your Lord.
You speak lovingly or respectfully no matter how your spouse may speak to you in return. Your spouse is not the reason--good or bad--why you speak unconditional words of love or respect. God is the reason, and as you depend on Him, you will become increasingly able to speak lovingly and respectfully to your spouse.
If you are seeking positive change in your marriage, you will need to make a positive change in your attitude and actions.
When you look to God and His Word as your ultimate source of significance and security, you don’t demand that your spouse take that role in your life. And as you draw strength from the Lord individually, He draws you closer together as a couple.
Your husband knows you appreciate his desire to protect and provide when you praise his commitment to provide for you. You empathize when he reveals his male mindset about position, status, or rank at work.
In the ultimate sense, your marriage has nothing to do with your spouse. It has everything to do with your relationship to Jesus Christ.
She’s not wrong for not being male. He is not wrong for not being female. When you put pink and blue together, you get purple, the color of royalty; the color of God. Together, a husband and wife reflect God’s image.
You have to become proactive, rather than just trying to stop the reactive.
I often stress that one of the greatest rewards any persevering spouse can have is being a good example and influence on the children in the family.
When a wife feels unloved, it can be such a shock to her heart that she is oblivious to her disrespectful reactions toward her husband, though any man watching could see it plainly.
Focus on the positive in the midst of the negative, and the Energizing Cycle will keep right on humming.
No matter what your struggle- criticism, constant conflict, sex, money, parenting, harsh words- learning to communicate the Love and Respect way can help you make crucial changes and build the kind of relationship that God blesses.
Knowing my spouse will not be able to love or respect me perfectly, I commit to having a forgiving spirit so that I may never speak hatefully or contemptuously.
Each of you must focus on what God is calling you to do toward your spouse. Do not focus on what you think God is calling your spouse to do toward you.
God’s commands are there to help us, not to hinder us or hold us back as male and female.
We all need love and respect equally. But, during conflict our felt needs are as different as pink is from blue.
Suppressing negative feelings is not loving, respectful or very wise. Speak up tactfully.
When you come home after you have been apart, the first few moments of reconnecting will set the tone for the rest of the evening.
To stay the course in speaking words of Love and Respect, keep your heart in Scripture, trusting in and talking about His promises to help you.
With a better understanding of God’s promises, you will be on your way to a renewed mind and a changed life.
Never give up. If you want to have a strong marriage, you need to accept temporary setbacks as part of the game.
We can all have moments of anger, but this does not mean we have to lose control and sin.
Although the Crazy Cycle is not what God intends for any marriage, all couples get on it at times from one degree to another.
Feeling unloved, a wife gets defensive and acts offensively without respect. Feeling disrespected, a husband gets defensive and acts offensively without love.
“Living happily ever after” means knowing how to deal with the imperfect parts of life.
He will feel appreciated when you disagree with him only in private and honor his authority in front of the kids.
A husband may deserve contempt, but that doesn’t win him any more than harshness and anger wins the heart of a woman.
It’s hard to realize that we would never act around our business associates the way we act around our spouse.
Thank the Lord for all the trouble-free moments in which you and your spouse enjoy Him, each other, your family, your ministry and life as a whole. Ask Him for the strength to accept your measure of trouble, and the wisdom to deal with the annoyances and irritations by loving and respecting each other with new commitment. (You may also want to pray about troubles at work, at church, with the children…) “But those who marry will have trouble in this life” (1 Corinthians 7:28)
God is not trying to trick you or mess with you. Trust that He wants to reveal Himself to you just as much as He wants to reveal Himself to the world.
Marriage is a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and your reverence for Jesus Christ.
To get offended is easy, but to forgive is within your power as you walk in His steps.
[Husbands] do you realize the power of just holding your wife’s hand?
We send each other messages in “code” based on gender, even though we don’t intend to. What I say is not what you hear, and what you think you heard is not what I meant at all.
If you want your husband to express appreciation for your attempts to be respectful, you must speak thankfully when he tries to be loving.
Just because you’re offended doesn’t mean the other person is offensive.
Don’t label each other as bad because you differ on how you solve your troubles.
Words of Love or Respect must uplift your spouse, edifying- never manipulating him or her.
We fool ourselves into thinking the other person causes us to be the way we are. They really don’t! But if we lock into that idea, we become helpless, hopeless victims.
Getting married reveals, usually sooner than later, an incontestable fact: your spouse cannot possibly meet all your needs and desires
We blame people for the bad things we do, but take credit for the good things we do.
Accidental sparks (unwise remarks) ignite and fuel a fire, and vroom goes the Crazy Cycle.
Marital researchers agree that a huge percentage of communication problems between husband and wife are due not to what is said but to how it is said – the attitude and tone of voice.
Research shows that 70% of the couples who were extremely unhappy in their marriage, but hung in there and worked through the tough time, identified themselves as being very happy five years later.
Though the end can be worthy (to be loved and respected), when each uses unholy means (unloving and disrespectful words and actions), it will not achieve those ends. We must treat others as we expect them to treat us. To deny this makes us arrogant or fools, or both.
Thank the Lord that in the very beginning He created them male and female – Blue and Pink. Ask Him for patience and ever-growing understanding of how men and women see and hear differently. “He created them male and female, and He blessed them.” (Genesis 5:2)
Often both spouses have goodwill but are not deciphering each other’s code. She criticizes out of love, but he “hears” only disrespect. He distances himself to prevent feelings from escalating, which is the honorable thing to do, but she “sees” only his failure to be loving!
We get on the Crazy Cycle because without love a wife reacts without respect, and without respect a husband reacts without love.
When others do not respond to our communication, we need to look first at our communication style. Is the other person incapable of hearing what we have to say? Or are we abrupt, brusque, and curt?
Marriage is a test of how you unconditionally love and respect your spouse as you obey, honor, and please the Lord.
It is crucial for a husband and wife to see that neither one is wrong, but both of them are very different--in body function, outlook and perspective.
If husbands and wives are to understand the Love and Respect Connection, they must realize that they communicate in code. And the problem is, they don’t know how to decipher the messages they send to one another.
When one of you makes a mistake, control any anger you may feel and trust God completely, no matter what happens.
Stay the course regardless of the child’s respect and obedience. This is the Family Rewarded Cycle: a parents love unto Christ regardless of the child.
When your wife comes to talk to you, listen to her. Realize she is coming to you because you matter more to her than anyone else. She has certain emotional needs and only you can meet them. Sometimes she may say things that don’t make sense to you and she is apt to misspeak and exaggerate when she is upset, but don’t put her down. Instead, listen to her heart. Give her a chance to express her concerns and, as she does so, don’t try to fix her. Don’t give her your solutions unless she asks for them.
Being a person who communicates what is true frequently demands tact, and at times it can feel like sidestepping land mines. It takes work to be both truthful and tactful.
Since it is easy to focus on the negative, focus on your mate’s good qualities and express thanks with positive words of Love or Respect.
Your marriage is really a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and reverence for your Lord.

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