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The Biggest Problem In Marriage: Communication

In a survey conducted by Focus on the Family for the Love and Respect Ministries, respondents were asked, “What was (and possibly still is) the biggest problem affecting your marriage?” For men and women the biggest problem by far was lack of good communication.

Why do you think communication problems in marriage surface as such a gigantic problem?

In your opinion, what is the number one thing a couple should do to improve communication?

From the Language of Love and Respect workbook.

Emerson Eggerichs, Ph.D.

Author, Speaker, Pastor

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