Marriage

Who We Are To God And Who God Is To Us In Marriage?

Who Has the Lowest Tolerance Against Personal Offense?

Who Has the Lowest Tolerance Against Personal Offense?

Tolerance against personal offense refers to the willingness and ability to wisely navigate situations when feeling wronged, slighted, or insulted. Though hurt, frustrated, and indignant, one controls an excessive adverse reaction and refuses to harbor resentment.

A Husband's Temptations Can Result in the Wife Feeling Like a Failure

A Husband's Temptations Can Result in the Wife Feeling Like a Failure

As one wife said, "Women don’t have a vulnerability when it comes to sexual matters like male nudity, but they do have a concern about the vulnerability that their husbands have in this area with regard to pornography or the sexually seductive female.

Who We Are To God And Who God Is To Us In Marriage?

Who We Are To God And Who God Is To Us In Marriage?

Realizing we are "saints" in God's view regardless of our failures in marriage (Ephesians 1:1-14). As believers, we must understand that in God’s eyes, we are saints, holy and blameless, regardless of any marital struggles we may face.

Keep Your Finger on the Pulse of Your Marriage

Keep Your Finger on the Pulse of Your Marriage

Marriage is a journey filled with highs and lows, moments of joy, and periods of conflict. It's essential to keep your finger on the pulse of your marriage, being aware of your own emotions and those of your spouse. This awareness can help you navigate through challenging times with grace and understanding.

The Vince Lombardi Approach to Marriage: Mastering the Fundamentals

The Vince Lombardi Approach to Marriage: Mastering the Fundamentals

At the beginning of every new football season, Vince Lombardi would lift up the focal object of their game and exclaim, “Gentlemen, this is a football.” The point he was making to his team was simple: start with the basics. If they are to find success on the field, then the fundamentals of their game must be mastered and maintained.

Keep Your Finger on the Pulse of Your Marriage

The Vince Lombardi Approach to Marriage: Mastering the Fundamentals

Why Won’t My Husband Change?

Why Won’t My Husband Change?

A wife writes on Facebook about her husband, who is a minister, “You pray and God doesn't change him. You take him to counseling and you change, but he doesn't. You show respect and he doesn't. You accept and live with the promise you made.” As I read her words, I empathized with her hurt and frustration. Many women find themselves bewildered about how to help and heal their marriages. They give, give, and give some more. They yearn to connect with their husbands and enjoy the relationship.

Is Your Wife Really Finished With Your Marriage? Part 2

Is Your Wife Really Finished With Your Marriage? Part 2

Yesterday, I shared with you the first part in a series of emails between a soldier and me. If you haven’t already, please read Part 1 and then continue with the rest of the story below. After the solder wrote to me a second time, in which he shared more details about his marriage and where he thought things were headed, I replied with the following: Thank you for sharing. If your wife is open, I would love hearing from her and her explanation.

Is Your Wife Really Finished With Your Marriage? Part 1

Is Your Wife Really Finished With Your Marriage? Part 1

To every husband who hears his wife say, “I am finished with this marriage,” do not take her words at face value. Even if she expresses herself sincerely at the moment, those sentiments can change rapidly given you understand how to apply the power of love to her heart. The first step is to stop talking. Try to really listen to her heart. The foundational question for a wife is, "Do you really hear me, understand me, accept me and love me?"If you cannot achieve this on your own, invite her into a setting with a pastor or Christian counselor who will help you listen to what she is saying.

Men: Can We Be Conscious of Unconscious Mistakes? (Part 2)

Men: Can We Be Conscious of Unconscious Mistakes? (Part 2)

Many husbands and fathers have written to me saying, in effect: "Many times I have no idea that I am coming across unlovingly to my wife and daughter. As a man, I learned that I have a tendency to be harsh and angry and communicate with "a look" that can kill or have a tone that slices their hearts when I am tired and frustrated. When I do this, it makes sense to me why my wife and daughter get so hurt and dramatic, and then want to talk to me about how they felt so unloved.