Marriage

Who We Are To God And Who God Is To Us In Marriage?

Who Has the Lowest Tolerance Against Personal Offense?

Who Has the Lowest Tolerance Against Personal Offense?

Tolerance against personal offense refers to the willingness and ability to wisely navigate situations when feeling wronged, slighted, or insulted. Though hurt, frustrated, and indignant, one controls an excessive adverse reaction and refuses to harbor resentment.

A Husband's Temptations Can Result in the Wife Feeling Like a Failure

A Husband's Temptations Can Result in the Wife Feeling Like a Failure

As one wife said, "Women don’t have a vulnerability when it comes to sexual matters like male nudity, but they do have a concern about the vulnerability that their husbands have in this area with regard to pornography or the sexually seductive female.

Who We Are To God And Who God Is To Us In Marriage?

Who We Are To God And Who God Is To Us In Marriage?

Realizing we are "saints" in God's view regardless of our failures in marriage (Ephesians 1:1-14). As believers, we must understand that in God’s eyes, we are saints, holy and blameless, regardless of any marital struggles we may face.

Keep Your Finger on the Pulse of Your Marriage

Keep Your Finger on the Pulse of Your Marriage

Marriage is a journey filled with highs and lows, moments of joy, and periods of conflict. It's essential to keep your finger on the pulse of your marriage, being aware of your own emotions and those of your spouse. This awareness can help you navigate through challenging times with grace and understanding.

The Vince Lombardi Approach to Marriage: Mastering the Fundamentals

The Vince Lombardi Approach to Marriage: Mastering the Fundamentals

At the beginning of every new football season, Vince Lombardi would lift up the focal object of their game and exclaim, “Gentlemen, this is a football.” The point he was making to his team was simple: start with the basics. If they are to find success on the field, then the fundamentals of their game must be mastered and maintained.

Keep Your Finger on the Pulse of Your Marriage

The Vince Lombardi Approach to Marriage: Mastering the Fundamentals

Three Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part Two: Finding a Mature Person

Three Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part Two: Finding a Mature Person

In part one, we discussed the importance of your own maturity, if you are to have a successful marriage. But now that you are committed to being a mature person yourself, what does it mean to find a mature person? The Mythical Perfect Person - There is a difference between finding a mature person and finding a perfect person. The latter does not exist and perchance they did, they’d not give us the time of day. Besides, none of us would want to live with a perfect person. We’d feel judged each and every day. Perfect people have a problem with imperfect people! So why do some still hunt for the perfect person?

Three Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part 1: Being a Mature Person

Three Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part 1: Being a Mature Person

On February 20, 2016, I had the unique experience of officiating the marriage of Matt Reed and my daughter, Joy. As part of the ceremony, I gave voice to what I believed about both of them. One, each sought to be a mature person prior to meeting the other. Two, each sought to find a mature person. And, three, each planned on being committed to Christ beyond their relationship, doing marriage motivated by a sense of mission.

How To Keep The Romance Going With A New Baby

How To Keep The Romance Going With A New Baby

With a 6 month-old to care for, time is at a premium around our house. And I worry that he's feeling pushed to the wayside - or that maybe even I will start to feel pushed to the wayside soon. How can I keep the romance going and let him know he's still my perfect match on a regular basis? ANSWER: I deeply appreciate your sensitivity to your husband. You are thinking wisely and pro-actively. For example, you will do fine if you voice this kind of thing on a regular basis: "You mean the world to me and are my perfect match."

We Easily See What is Done To Us Before We See What We Are Doing To Our Mate

We Easily See What is Done To Us Before We See What We Are Doing To Our Mate

The Crazy Cycle says, Without Love She Reacts Without Respect and Without Respect He Reacts Without Love. Almost every time Sarah and I teach our seminar about the Love and Respect Connection, people tell us, “Why, of course, this is so obvious.” And then either the husband or the wife adds, “But why doesn’t my spouse get it?” Whether it’s a husband or a wife who “doesn’t get it,” the answer is the same: we often don’t see the obvious.