Even though men and women are equal in the eyes of God, Scripture is clear that God has charged men with being the family’s spiritual leader (1 Corinthians 11:3; 1 Peter 3:1; Ephesians 5:22). I have found among most wives who follow Christ that not only do they not resist this biblical mandate but they actually hold a deep desire for their husbands to be the spiritual leader.
Few attack the idea but instead crave it. These women do not complain about a husband being a spiritual leader but complain that theirs is too passive and fails to be the spiritual leader.
So, two things to consider:
Why is it hard for some husbands to lovingly and spiritually lead even when their wife wants this?
Two, do some hesitant husbands fear leading because they fear their wives won’t follow? Is this fear justifiable?