Marriage

Keep Your Finger on the Pulse of Your Marriage

A Husband's Temptations Can Result in the Wife Feeling Like a Failure

A Husband's Temptations Can Result in the Wife Feeling Like a Failure

As one wife said, "Women don’t have a vulnerability when it comes to sexual matters like male nudity, but they do have a concern about the vulnerability that their husbands have in this area with regard to pornography or the sexually seductive female.

Who We Are To God And Who God Is To Us In Marriage?

Who We Are To God And Who God Is To Us In Marriage?

Realizing we are "saints" in God's view regardless of our failures in marriage (Ephesians 1:1-14). As believers, we must understand that in God’s eyes, we are saints, holy and blameless, regardless of any marital struggles we may face.

Keep Your Finger on the Pulse of Your Marriage

Keep Your Finger on the Pulse of Your Marriage

Marriage is a journey filled with highs and lows, moments of joy, and periods of conflict. It's essential to keep your finger on the pulse of your marriage, being aware of your own emotions and those of your spouse. This awareness can help you navigate through challenging times with grace and understanding.

The Vince Lombardi Approach to Marriage: Mastering the Fundamentals

The Vince Lombardi Approach to Marriage: Mastering the Fundamentals

At the beginning of every new football season, Vince Lombardi would lift up the focal object of their game and exclaim, “Gentlemen, this is a football.” The point he was making to his team was simple: start with the basics. If they are to find success on the field, then the fundamentals of their game must be mastered and maintained.

When the Energizing Cycle Doesn’t Work

When the Energizing Cycle Doesn’t Work

When it comes to faithfully and unconditionally applying love and respect in your marriage, what do most people say their worst fear is? For a husband, it’s that he learns to show love in the way that should touch his wife at her core but then she still shows him contempt. In response to his goodwilled attempts to be close, open, understanding, peacemaking, loyal, and esteeming (see C.O.U.P.L.E. from my book Love & Respect), she remains disrespectful.

The Vince Lombardi Approach to Marriage: Mastering the Fundamentals

When the Energizing Cycle Doesn’t Work

A Tale of Two Marriages: His and Hers

A Tale of Two Marriages: His and Hers

Over the years researchers have asked identical questions of a husband and wife about identical issues but received two different replies. Why? Because in essence, there are two different marriages going on in every household: his marriage and her marriage. The husband sees an event through his blue lens, and the wife views that same event through her pink lens. Though they are observing the exact same event, their different lenses cause them to process and evaluate it in completely different ways: his blue way and her pink way.

Are You Seeking to Do the Loving, Honorable Thing but Are Being Misunderstood? [Video]

Are You Seeking to Do the Loving, Honorable Thing but Are Being Misunderstood? [Video]

Love and respect are key ingredients for successful marriages, with gender-specific dynamics influencing conflict resolution. Despite intentions of care and honor, misinterpretations often lead to feelings of being disrespected and unloved, highlighting the importance of understanding differing perspectives in relationships.

To Achieve Win-Win, Find a Third Option That Works for Both

To Achieve Win-Win, Find a Third Option That Works for Both

Genesis 2:24 tells us God’s plan for a husband and wife beginning their marriage together: “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.” “One flesh,” however, does not mean that once married a man and woman somehow mystically have only one opinion, one preference, one mind, one set of needs. Indeed, they will still have different names they like for their future children, contrasting ideas for where they should take their summer vacation, and differing preferences for the type of church they feel most at home in.

Gnats Versus Camels (What Bugs You?)

Gnats Versus Camels (What Bugs You?)

"Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you tithe mint and dill and cumin, and have neglected the weightier provisions of the Law: justice and mercy and faithfulness; but these are the things you should have done without neglecting the others." (Matthew 23:23) When my boys were young, I volunteered to coach their soccer games on Saturday mornings. However, if we lost, I would be discouraged. Why couldn't we do better? I’d go home thinking. Many times, on Saturday afternoon, I even felt a tad depressed over the loss.