The Energizing Cycle

Is there a set of best practices to energize your spouse? On this Collection Page, I'll share what you can do to motivate your spouse. In fact, your spouse wants to be energized, motivated, and come under this kind of influence. I will also show how love and respect triggers an equal power back to you. Your spouse reciprocates. You can experience a positive cycle I call the Energizing Cycle. Find out how this Cycle works!

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C.O.U.P.L.E.—The Key to Both Motivating and De-motivating Your Wife in C.H.A.I.R.S.

Is there a connection between C.O.U.P.L.E. and C.H.A.I.R.S.?In my book Love & Respect, I supply the acronym C.O.U.P.L.E. as a way for a husband to spell love to his wife, as well as C.H.A.I.R.S., intended to help a wife spell respect to her husband. Why love for her?

C.O.U.P.L.E.—The Key to Both Motivating and De-motivating Your Wife in C.H.A.I.R.S.

Marriage

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What Can a Hallmark Movie Teach Us about Starting Up the Energizing Cycle?

Have you noticed how hugely popular Hallmark movies become during the holiday season at the end of every year? Though it’s not hard to find blogs and others online poking fun at the same basic storyline that seems to be the premise for every one of them—a career woman too busy for love, a handsome bachelor in a small town, spontaneous snowfall, and a dog—nevertheless, watching Hallmark movies seems to have become a holiday tradition up there with peppermint mochas and gingerbread houses.

What Can a Hallmark Movie Teach Us about Starting Up the Energizing Cycle?

Marriage

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Depriving Her of C.O.U.P.L.E.—Six Ways to Disconnect with Your Wife

In Love and Respect, Emerson Eggerichs highlights how to spell love to a wife, using the acronym C.O.U.P.L.E. When a goodwilled wife appears negative and offensive toward her husband, she is simply crying out for: Closeness, Openness, Understanding, Peacemaking, Loyalty, and Esteem. When her husband responds toward her with C.O.U.P.L.E., instead of withdrawing and stonewalling during conflict as is his male nature, it will energize his wife and she will respond with respect.

Depriving Her of C.O.U.P.L.E.—Six Ways to Disconnect with Your Wife

Marriage

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For Your Spouse, “Cleaving” Probably Means Something Different than What It Means to You

We read in Genesis 2:24, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” It is from this verse that we get the well-known saying that a husband “leaves and cleaves.” But for the husband who interprets this scriptural command to “leave and cleave” and become “one flesh” as purely sexual, I have some disappointing news to share with them. For most wives, cleaving does indeed mean a face-to-face closeness, but not in a sexual way. For her, this face-to-face closeness entails talking about the things that matter to her.

For Your Spouse, “Cleaving” Probably Means Something Different than What It Means to You

Marriage

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How Do You Spell Respect To A Husband?

RESPECT = C.H.A.I.R.S. Wives, in the Love and Respect book, I explain Biblically what God’s Word reveals about respecting the husband’s deepest desires as a male. These are the salient concepts from my findings. Do these make sense to you? What doesn’t make sense to you? I would love to hear from you.

How Do You Spell Respect To A Husband?

Marriage

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How Do You Spell Love to a Wife?

Husbands, in the Love and Respect book, I explain Biblically what God’s Word reveals about loving a wife. These are the salient concepts from my findings. Do these make sense to you? What doesn’t make sense to you? I would love to hear from you.

How Do You Spell Love to a Wife?

Marriage

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Her Disrespect Doesn’t Motivate His Love

Turned around from our previous post, how successful is it for a wife to decide, “I am not going to be respectful until he earns my respect. He needs to be more loving like me. Until then, he doesn't deserve my respect. He deserves my disrespect"? A wife cannot be dark-eyed, sour-faced, eye-rolling, finger-scolding, sigh-oriented, and disdain-speaking as ways of arousing her husband's romantic love. She can argue that he ought to respond humbly, with care, and empathetically, but most husbands withdraw and stonewall.

Her Disrespect Doesn’t Motivate His Love

Marriage

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His Unkindness Doesn’t Motivate Her Respect

A Husband's Unloving Reaction Does Not Motivate a Wife's Respect! How effective is it for a husband to resolve, “I will be unloving to teach my wife to show me more respect”? That doesn’t make sense, does it?Bottom line, a husband cannot talk to his wife in harsh, angry, and unloving ways to get her to show him more respect. He will only set off her complaints and criticisms.

His Unkindness Doesn’t Motivate Her Respect

Marriage

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