Mutual Submission

Is there a secret to resolving conflicts? Could that secret be in two words? Mutual Submission. Is mutual submission powerful instead of weak? Does it advance healthy self-interests instead of suppressing them? Could it be the key to finding win-win solutions? Too often, we hear "mutual submission" as a call to compromise and sacrifice our needs. We fear manipulation and control from our spouse. But in this Collection page, I share the truth: mutual submission unlocks win-win solutions, fosters teamwork and friendship, and pleases God. Let's rewrite the narrative based on Ephesians 5:21, "Submit to one another" (NIV) and discover the power of mutual submission.

Articles

What Am I Worth?

A testimony from Jacki…For many years my husband and I would get caught up in the Crazy Cycle. Of course we didn't realize it at all and both just assumed that this was married life. I mean, marriage is hard right? Happily ever after is only a fairy tale. When it comes to marriage we do the best we can, and try to make the best out of the results.

What Am I Worth?

Marriage

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Powerful Enough to Change Your Life

In last week’s blog, I addressed whether the biblical truth of Love and Respect is too simplistic for marriages that are in serious trouble. This week I share a testimony that beautifully communicates how love and respect, though simple, can powerfully transform a troubled marriage!

Powerful Enough to Change Your Life

Marriage

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Decision-Making in Marriage - A Hot-Button Topic? Part Three

Emerson’s Reply, Part Three - A few days ago I presented a question that came to me in an email, concerning decision-making in marriage. Please read my two previous posts for Parts One and Two. Concerning the suggestion that husbands and wives “Wait for God to change her/him on the matter” when they are at a stalemate, here is another important point.

Decision-Making in Marriage - A Hot-Button Topic? Part Three

Marriage

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Decision Making in Marriage: A Hot Button Topic? Part Two

Emerson’s Reply, Part Two - Please read the previous post which presents the question on Decision-Making, and includes Part One of my reply. Today I’ll address the second suggestion from the wives: “Wait for God to change her/him on the matter.”

Decision Making in Marriage: A Hot Button Topic? Part Two

Marriage

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Decision Making in Marriage: A Hot Button Topic? Part One

Recently I received an email question from a colleague who has a vital ministry in the marriage arena. I found his question most interesting and worthy of careful consideration. I’d like to share his email with you followed by my response, over the next few days. My friend writes: Emerson, I am dealing with a tough topic…

Decision Making in Marriage: A Hot Button Topic? Part One

Marriage

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Submission In Marriage: What About Husbands?

We don’t hear too much about submission anymore. And if we do, it’s usually a command to the wife, to submit to her husband. Still, this is considered a bit archaic in today’s modern culture. But what does the Bible say? Before the section on marriage in Ephesians 5, we read in verse 21, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” Should a husband submit to his wife? Yes. He submits to his wife’s need to feel loved. I take this position by combining God’s command in Ephesians 5:21 to mutually submit, with God’s command in Ephesians 5:25-31 to a husband to love his wife.

Submission In Marriage: What About Husbands?

Marriage

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Podcast

Submission and Mutual Submission - Yikes!

Submission, mutual submission, headship, authority, responsibility, equality, and decision making. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss these very lite topics which stir up very few strong emotions in people :) **Jonathan's audio sounds poor and the issue was a bad cable. Our apologies.

Submission and Mutual Submission - Yikes!

Who Makes the Final Decision When You Are Stalemated?

Have you ever had a difficult time making a decision--either alone or with another person? In this week’s episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss what to do when you and your spouse are in a stalemate or gridlocked on an issue. Drawing upon the Bible as well as the world of business and sports, you will be sure to find something useful in this episode about decision-making inside of marriage.

Marriage

Episode

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Who Makes the Final Decision When You Are Stalemated?