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Soon Your Marriage Will Turn Happy! [Video]

President Reagan joked, “I won't say their marriage is unhappy but the husband went down to the marriage license bureau to see if the license had expired.” ARE YOU UNHAPPY?

Do you want out of your marriage? Do you want a divorce?

Do not quit!

THE HAPPY NEWS ABOUT BEING UNHAPPY!

Research found that 8 out of 10 who rated their marriages as very unhappy (the most discontented), were happily married to the same person 5 years later!

Can you believe it? Eighty percent of the very unhappy were happy!

"BUT I CAN BE HAPPY IN A NEW MARRIAGE"

Some argue, “But if I divorce and get in another marriage I can be happier sooner.” But only 1 in 5 reported that they were happier in a new marriage.

A WISE PERSON PLAYS THE ODDS

If you had $100,000 to gamble, would you bet on something that had a 20% chance of winning (1 in 5) or an 80% chance of winning (8 in10)?

No brainer, unless you think you’re an exception to probability. Therefore, bet on your marriage. Though you feel very unhappy, you have an 80% chance of being happy in the next five years. If you remarry, only 20%.

TRUSTING THE FACTS, NOT FEELINGS, IS A GOOD THING!

Yes, I know that you may not believe your unhappiness with this person can turn happy. As we say, “the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.” So, logically we conclude: if I am unhappy today, I will be unhappy tomorrow.

But such a conclusion does not hold up against the evidence. The fact is you have an 8 in 10 chance of succeeding!

Trust the facts, not your feelings.

WHAT CAUSED THE VERY UNHAPPY TO BECOME HAPPY?

Why did 80% of these couples go from unhappiness to happiness in five years? I will tell you one major reason. Check out my video. It had nothing to do with the couple resolving their problems or seeking counsel.

YOUR SITUATION IS NOT WORSE THAN OTHERS

Though you do not feel this is possible in light of your unpleasant feelings, the very unhappy faced the following: "alcoholism, infidelity, verbal abuse, emotional neglect, depression, illness, and work reversals” (page 6).

Do you have similar problems? The facts are in your favor. These unhappy people became happy!

Again, you're not an exception, and this should encourage you. There is a ton of hope for you.

THE TRUTH IN YOUR CRISIS

General Douglas MacArthur said:

“Like Abraham Lincoln, I am a firm believer in the people, and, if given the truth, they can be depended upon to meet any national crises. The great point is to bring before them the real facts.”

Will you act based on the real facts? Abe would be a firm believer in you; I know I am.

One more thing.

WILL YOU BELIEVE GOD WANTS YOU HAPPY?

Ecclesiastes 9:9 states, “Live happily with the woman you love…The wife God gives you is your reward for all your earthly toil” (NLT).

As a husband, God wants you to enjoy life with your wife. That's a fact.
As a wife, God wants you to respond to your husband's sincere desire to live happily with you.

Remember, to God your marriage license has not expired. Among other reasons, He knows you will soon be happy!

Emerson

Emerson Eggerichs, Ph.D.

Author, Speaker, Pastor

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