Can My Spouse Cause Me to be Unloving and Disrespectful?

In relationships, it's common for people to blame their spouse for their negative reactions and behavior. However, according to Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, this is not entirely true. He believes that our response to our spouse is our responsibility, and our spouse reveals our true character rather than causing it. Even though our spouse may be an irritant in our lives, it is up to us to control our reactions and choose our behavior. It may be a difficult truth to accept, but it's important to take responsibility for our own actions in a relationship.

Questions to Consider

What is the principle that Dr. E teaches to counter the idea that a spouse causes disrespect or unloving reactions?
How does Dr. E differentiate between feeling mad and going mad in relationships?
What is the biblical reference that Dr. E uses to support the idea of controlling one's anger?
What is the analogy that Dr. E uses to explain how a spouse reveals the inner properties of an individual in a relationship?

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