Is Selective Hearing A Real Thing?
Emerson discusses selective hearing as a real phenomenon where individuals filter out information they do not wish to hear or acknowledge. This can occur due to preconceived notions, cognitive dissonance, emotional filtering, emotional avoidance, and a hedonistic focus on self. It often happens when individuals refuse to acknowledge their role in the marriage and believe their spouse should always be the one to change. Selective hearing can hinder personal growth and prevent individuals from understanding and addressing their own shortcomings.
Questions to Consider
- How do your existing beliefs affect what you hear and accept in your relationship?
- Do you ever feel uncomfortable when new information challenges your views, and how do you handle it?
- How do strong emotions like anger or fear impact your ability to listen to your spouse?
- Are you more focused on your own needs in your relationship, and how does that affect your communication?