Marriage

Who We Are To God And Who God Is To Us In Marriage?

Who Has the Lowest Tolerance Against Personal Offense?

Who Has the Lowest Tolerance Against Personal Offense?

Tolerance against personal offense refers to the willingness and ability to wisely navigate situations when feeling wronged, slighted, or insulted. Though hurt, frustrated, and indignant, one controls an excessive adverse reaction and refuses to harbor resentment.

A Husband's Temptations Can Result in the Wife Feeling Like a Failure

A Husband's Temptations Can Result in the Wife Feeling Like a Failure

As one wife said, "Women don’t have a vulnerability when it comes to sexual matters like male nudity, but they do have a concern about the vulnerability that their husbands have in this area with regard to pornography or the sexually seductive female.

Who We Are To God And Who God Is To Us In Marriage?

Who We Are To God And Who God Is To Us In Marriage?

Realizing we are "saints" in God's view regardless of our failures in marriage (Ephesians 1:1-14). As believers, we must understand that in God’s eyes, we are saints, holy and blameless, regardless of any marital struggles we may face.

Keep Your Finger on the Pulse of Your Marriage

Keep Your Finger on the Pulse of Your Marriage

Marriage is a journey filled with highs and lows, moments of joy, and periods of conflict. It's essential to keep your finger on the pulse of your marriage, being aware of your own emotions and those of your spouse. This awareness can help you navigate through challenging times with grace and understanding.

The Vince Lombardi Approach to Marriage: Mastering the Fundamentals

The Vince Lombardi Approach to Marriage: Mastering the Fundamentals

At the beginning of every new football season, Vince Lombardi would lift up the focal object of their game and exclaim, “Gentlemen, this is a football.” The point he was making to his team was simple: start with the basics. If they are to find success on the field, then the fundamentals of their game must be mastered and maintained.

Keep Your Finger on the Pulse of Your Marriage

The Vince Lombardi Approach to Marriage: Mastering the Fundamentals

Understanding Your Motivation in Your Marriage, Part 2: Moving Forward

Understanding Your Motivation in Your Marriage, Part 2: Moving Forward

Part 1 showed us how blaming the spouse and negative profiling do not heal a marriage. It does not solve the problem. What should you do with a disrespectful wife? How do you handle an unloving husband? I have learned that spouses who move forward to heal the marriage do not habitually and negatively profile.

Understanding Your Motivation in Your Marriage, Part 1: Naming and Blaming

Understanding Your Motivation in Your Marriage, Part 1: Naming and Blaming

What if a wife thinks she is respectful, but her husband says she is disrespectful? What if a husband thinks he is loving, but his wife says he isn’t loving? What then? What should a wife do when she sees herself holding up her end of the bargain, but he feels she’s mistaken? What should a husband do when he sees himself as doing his part, but she feels he is misguided?

The Crazy Cycle: Why We Negatively React

The Crazy Cycle: Why We Negatively React

As I have shared in my book, Love & Respect, my wife, Sarah, and I learned that we speak different languages. While we had a good marriage, we still struggled with irritation, anger, and plenty of hurt feelings. Often we just couldn’t communicate, but we didn’t know why. A lot of the time it seemed that indeed we were speaking different languages, but we had no idea what to do about it. It was frustrating—and embarrassing. After all, I was a pastor and should have had the answer to something like this!

A Beginner’s Guide To Understanding Your Spouse’s Needs [Video]

A Beginner’s Guide To Understanding Your Spouse’s Needs [Video]

A wife complains to her husband saying, "I feel fat and ugly, and I have nothing to wear!” The next day at the Christian bookstore, his eyes catch the book, Dieting for the Christian Woman. The subtitle is, “Post-holiday Menus.” Viewing the diet book more as a cookbook, he buys it. When he gives her the book at home, she goes ballistic. He thinks he’s just witnessed a rocket launch at Cape Canaveral.