Marriage

Keep Your Finger on the Pulse of Your Marriage

A Husband's Temptations Can Result in the Wife Feeling Like a Failure

A Husband's Temptations Can Result in the Wife Feeling Like a Failure

As one wife said, "Women don’t have a vulnerability when it comes to sexual matters like male nudity, but they do have a concern about the vulnerability that their husbands have in this area with regard to pornography or the sexually seductive female.

Who We Are To God And Who God Is To Us In Marriage?

Who We Are To God And Who God Is To Us In Marriage?

Realizing we are "saints" in God's view regardless of our failures in marriage (Ephesians 1:1-14). As believers, we must understand that in God’s eyes, we are saints, holy and blameless, regardless of any marital struggles we may face.

Keep Your Finger on the Pulse of Your Marriage

Keep Your Finger on the Pulse of Your Marriage

Marriage is a journey filled with highs and lows, moments of joy, and periods of conflict. It's essential to keep your finger on the pulse of your marriage, being aware of your own emotions and those of your spouse. This awareness can help you navigate through challenging times with grace and understanding.

The Vince Lombardi Approach to Marriage: Mastering the Fundamentals

The Vince Lombardi Approach to Marriage: Mastering the Fundamentals

At the beginning of every new football season, Vince Lombardi would lift up the focal object of their game and exclaim, “Gentlemen, this is a football.” The point he was making to his team was simple: start with the basics. If they are to find success on the field, then the fundamentals of their game must be mastered and maintained.

When the Energizing Cycle Doesn’t Work

When the Energizing Cycle Doesn’t Work

When it comes to faithfully and unconditionally applying love and respect in your marriage, what do most people say their worst fear is? For a husband, it’s that he learns to show love in the way that should touch his wife at her core but then she still shows him contempt. In response to his goodwilled attempts to be close, open, understanding, peacemaking, loyal, and esteeming (see C.O.U.P.L.E. from my book Love & Respect), she remains disrespectful.

The Vince Lombardi Approach to Marriage: Mastering the Fundamentals

When the Energizing Cycle Doesn’t Work

Is He Lacking Empathy or Displaying His Complete Faith in Christ?

Is He Lacking Empathy or Displaying His Complete Faith in Christ?

Eighty-three-old Michelle informed her husband Bill, a man of strong faith in Christ, that she might have ovarian cancer. His immediate response was, “Well, you’ve lived longer than most people have lived.” Stunned, hurt, and angered by his comment, she turned to him and boldly expressed, "Bill, you can do better than that.” He then said, having recognized how that sounded, “I’m so sorry, sweetie, for how that came out. I would be absolutely devastated if you died.”

Eleven Ways a Husband and Wife Can Show Love and Respect to Each Other

Eleven Ways a Husband and Wife Can Show Love and Respect to Each Other

In summing up the New Testament’s greatest treatise on marriage (Ephesians 5:21-33), Paul makes clear to the husband that in all things, no matter the conflict or situation, he is to be intentional about loving his wife unconditionally. Love is the way to her heart, and what she most needs to feel from him.

Don’t Be “Bullheaded” Like My Dad Admitted About Him and Mom

Don’t Be “Bullheaded” Like My Dad Admitted About Him and Mom

"Hi Grandma,Wish I could be sending you a lovely big present for your 80th Birthday..." I included the entire letter here, because I wanted to share how the first thing that struck me when I read it was my dad’s positive personality shining through, a personality that did not come out much at all as I was growing up.

C.O.U.P.L.E.—The Key to Both Motivating and De-motivating Your Wife in C.H.A.I.R.S.

C.O.U.P.L.E.—The Key to Both Motivating and De-motivating Your Wife in C.H.A.I.R.S.

Is there a connection between C.O.U.P.L.E. and C.H.A.I.R.S.?In my book Love & Respect, I supply the acronym C.O.U.P.L.E. as a way for a husband to spell love to his wife, as well as C.H.A.I.R.S., intended to help a wife spell respect to her husband. Why love for her?