Amor y Respeto - Cuaderno De Trabajo: Videoconferencia
LIBRO DE EJERCICIOS PARA EL DVD EN ESPAÑOL Este es un libro de ejercicios que viene adjunto con el set de “Amor y Respeto” donde se presentan todas las Escrituras que el Dr. Eggerichs utiliza, así como actividades interactivas para los participantes. Por favor ordene uno por persona.
Amor y Respeto
Cuarderno De Trabajo: Videoconferencia
LIBRO DE EJERCICIOS PARA EL DVD EN ESPAÑOL
Este es un libro de ejercicios que viene adjunto con el set de “Amor y Respeto” donde se presentan todas las Escrituras que el Dr. Eggerichs utiliza, así como actividades interactivas para los participantes. Por favor ordene uno por persona.
Spanish DVD Workbook
This is the companion workbook to the Spanish Love and Respect DVDs, providing all the Scriptures Dr. Eggerichs uses, as well as fill-in-the-blanks for interactive participation. Please order one per person.
Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
About Love & RespectProduct Quotes
In the ultimate sense you marriage has nothing to do with your spouse. It has everything to do with your relationship with Jesus Christ.
Since it is easy to focus on the negative, focus on your mate’s good qualities and express thanks with positive words of Love or Respect.
A husband may deserve contempt, but that doesn’t win him any more than harshness and anger wins the heart of a woman.
Your husband knows you appreciate his desire to protect and provide when you praise his commitment to provide for you. You empathize when he reveals his male mindset about position, status, or rank at work.
How we react to a situation reveals more about us than about the other person.
We blame people for the bad things we do, but take credit for the good things we do.
Words of Love or Respect must uplift your spouse, edifying- never manipulating him or her.
“Respect is a man’s deepest value. I have had numerous men tell me, ‘I would rather live with a wife who respected me but did not love me than live with a wife who loved me but did not respect me.’ These men are not saying that they are indifferent to love. They know they need love, but they need to feel respected even more than they need to feel loved.“
The woman absolutely needs love, and the man absolutely needs respect. It’s as simple- and as difficult- as that.
Don’t label each other as bad because you differ on how you solve your troubles.
His love motivates her respect. Her respect motivates his love.
Trusting and obeying God’s Word because we love and reverence God never, ever makes us a hypocrite! When the alarm goes off in the morning, we get up, even when we don’t feel like it getting up. Because we do what we don’t feel like doing, does that make us hypocrites? No, it’s a sign we are responsible people. Showing respectful behavior when we don’t “feel respectful” is evidence of maturity.
As strong and powerful as marriage bonds can become, our deepest dependency must be on the Lord, not another human being.
If we subscribe to the belief that because we are equal we are the same, then we’re going to expect our spouse to respond the way we do.
As a husband, if you can grasp that you don’t always have to solve your wife’s problems, you will take a giant step toward showing her empathy and understanding.
A most significant point of this book is this: If what we think is true, kind, necessary, and clear, we need to have the courage to hit send. This isn’t about refraining from speaking; this is about speaking.
It is crucial for a husband and wife to see that neither one is wrong, but both of them are very different--in body function, outlook and perspective.
The Crazy Cycle is, indeed “the evil of folly and the foolishness of madness” (Ecclesiastes 7:25)
A major step toward a happy marriage is accepting differences and working them out with love and respect.
Here is the secret to marriage that every couple seeks and yet few find: Unconditional respect is as powerful for him as unconditional love is for her. It’s the secret that will help you achieve a brand new level of intimacy.
Your wife feels you are open with her when you discuss financial concerns, possible job changes or ideas for your future.
To get offended is easy, but to forgive is within your power as you walk in His steps.
No matter how difficult your spouse may be at the moment, your spouse does not have control over your reaction; you do. You may be experiencing disappointment, frustration, or anger, but you always have a choice.
This is the Rewarded Cycle: His love blesses regardless of her respect and her respect blesses regardless of his love.
Marriage is a test of how you unconditionally love and respect your spouse as you obey, honor, and please the Lord.
There is a plan to parent God’s way, even when our children may seek to go their own way at time. The secret is to follow this plan regardless. When you do, I believe you succeed in His eyes.
Pink and Blue perceptions not only affect seeing, they affect hearing as well. Women hear with pink hearing aids and men hear with blue hearing aids. Even more important to understand as you and your spouse seek to gain better communication, you can hear the very same words, but each of you will hear different messages.
Both Judas and Peter denied Jesus Christ, but there is a huge difference between a Judas and a Peter.
He will feel appreciated when you recognize his problem-solving approach as his male brand of empathy.
Each of you must focus on what God is calling you to do toward your spouse. Do not focus on what you think God is calling your spouse to do toward you.
We all need love and respect equally. But, during conflict our felt needs are as different as pink is from blue.
Do not live by the standards of Hollywood; trust what God says in His Holy Word.
Wives, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your husband not only back to you, but to God. Husbands, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your wife not only back to you, but to God. (1 Corinthians 7:16)
A wife has one driving need--to feel loved. When that need is met she is happy. A husband has one driving need--to feel respected. When that need is met he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love and Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily and biblically.
When one of you makes a mistake, control any anger you may feel and trust God completely, no matter what happens.
Unconditional respect means we confront their wrongdoings respectfully. We do not become uncivil because they are. Who they fail to be does not determine who we will be.
If husbands and wives are to understand the Love and Respect Connection, they must realize that they communicate in code. And the problem is, they don’t know how to decipher the messages they send to one another.
Thank the Lord for the goodwill each of you has toward the other. Ask Him for strength to give each other the benefit of the doubt during moments when someone’s goodwill seems to be lacking. “He who seeks good finds goodwill, but evil comes to him who searches for it.” (Proverbs 11:27)
When we feel crippling discouragement by the sinful choices and outcomes of our kids, we must not let this permanently deter us from parenting God’s way.
Mutual submission is the only way to live fairly together with mutual authority.
A parent needs to feel respected, especially during conflicts...A child need to feel loved, especially during disputes.
[Women], your self-love cannot be derived from your husband’s love. It can affect it, but it does not determine it.
You speak lovingly or respectfully no matter how your spouse may speak to you in return. Your spouse is not the reason--good or bad--why you speak unconditional words of love or respect. God is the reason, and as you depend on Him, you will become increasingly able to speak lovingly and respectfully to your spouse.
Will we decide how we see God based on our circumstances, or will we see our circumstances in light of how we view God?
You may believe that the careless, unloving or disrespectful words you speak are because your spouse is causing you to speak this way, but Jesus says that it is coming out of your heart.
You both forgive for one simple but profound reason: because you know Christ has forgiven you!
It’s true that women have intuition and that men should listen to them. It’s also true that women have blind spots and need the insight of their husbands.
Clearly, in the marriage, in the family and in the household, when you speak words of blessing, you are speaking to the Lord, and for this you will be rewarded.
When a wife insists that her husband earn her respect, she puts him in a lose-lose situation.
“Living happily ever after” means knowing how to deal with the imperfect parts of life.
The moment we cry to Him for help, He is already pleased. He gives us strength to love our children.
Your position in Christ is what counts, not your less-than-perfect performance.
To not forgive is to shoot yourself in the foot and put extra gas in the Crazy Cycle.
The key to motivating another person is meeting their deepest need, especially during conflict.
There is power and freedom that comes in understanding that no one can cause you to react in a certain way. It is your choice.
When a wife feels unloved, it can be such a shock to her heart that she is oblivious to her disrespectful reactions toward her husband, though any man watching could see it plainly.
God’s commands are there to help us, not to hinder us or hold us back as male and female.
Our research shows that couples who pray together are more apt to reap all kinds of benefits, including better and more frequent communication, going on “dates” more frequently and having sex more frequently.
We have discovered that as women motivate their man God’s way, men are energized to love them better. It doesn’t matter if your marriage is good or seems like there is no hope. We have seen God move in powerful ways even when things looked hopeless.
When you relinquish an offense, you need to send that offense somewhere. So follow Jesus’ example and release it to your heavenly Father.
I had often asked God to compensate for my mistakes, but in return had I thought He would give me perfect children?
When a husband chooses to do or say something loving, and that includes saying, ‘I’m sorry for coming across in an unloving way,’ he energizes his wife. When a wife decides to express herself respectfully, and that includes apologizing for her disrespectful attitude, she energizes her husband.
Marriage is a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and your reverence for Jesus Christ.
Marital researchers agree that a huge percentage of communication problems between husband and wife are due not to what is said but to how it is said – the attitude and tone of voice.
We can all have moments of anger, but this does not mean we have to lose control and sin.
Men are solution oriented, they love to solve problems. They want to be helpful.
Be quick to listen and understand and you have a much better chance of being understood.
We get on the Crazy Cycle because without love a wife reacts without respect, and without respect a husband reacts without love.
God is not trying to trick you or mess with you. Trust that He wants to reveal Himself to you just as much as He wants to reveal Himself to the world.
Never give up. If you want to have a strong marriage, you need to accept temporary setbacks as part of the game.
The Crazy Cycle is, indeed, “the evil of folly and the foolishness of madness” (Ecclesiastes 7:25).
When you’re truly Christ-centered, instead of child-centered, you will be a more effective parent in the long run.
Recognize your different gifts--how each of you (Pink and Blue) functions according to God’s perfect design.
Wives, to energize your husband do an activity with him, shoulder-to-shoulder, without talking.
Self-interest should never come ahead of your spouse’s interests.
We might say that every negative action in the family has an equal and opposite negative reaction.
Do you understand that God feels compassion for you, no matter what you have done or what your circumstances may be?
A woman needs love like she needs air to breathe. A man needs respect like he needs air to breathe.
At the very bottom of things, in every case and in every conversation, you can do your marriage a huge favor by assuming she is seeking to feel loved or he is seeking to feel respected and give your spouse some grace!
Unconditional respect, like unconditional love, is all about how one sounds (tone of voice and word choice) and appears (facial expressions and physical actions).
Always remember that Pink and Blue have different wiring, different preferences. Assume your spouse has goodwill toward you, no matter what. Both of you can be right, while being different.
Avoid like the plague trying to punish each other as a means of “motivation.” Christ-followers instinctively know that this destroys any opportunity to act out of reverence for Christ. In all marital issues, love and reverence for Christ must be our primary motivation.
When Jesus said “turn the other cheek,” He wasn’t saying to be passive wimps. He was teaching that physically people can control you but if you turn and give the other cheek, suddenly you’re in control and you’re making the choices.
Parenting is a faith venture. As we parent “unto Christ” we reap God’s reward, “knowing that whatever good anyone does, he will receive the same from the Lord” (Eph. 6:8 NKJV)
A man has a natural, inborn desire to go out and “conquer” the challenges of his world – to work and achieve.
Focus on the positive in the midst of the negative, and the Energizing Cycle will keep right on humming.