Divorce

Does marriage hold a deeper meaning beyond a legal contract? Is lifelong commitment still relevant in a changing world? Few questions touch us at our core. On this Collection Page, we will explore the significance of marriage in the eyes of Christ. We will uncover the hidden consequences of divorce, what I call the remorse of divorce. We will discover the power of Love and Respect principles, and of those who said, "Had I known then what I know now about Love and Respect, I would not have divorced."

Articles

“Help! Forget Respect—What If I Don’t Even Love My Husband?”

In Ephesians 5:33, husbands are commanded to love their wives, and wives are commanded to respect their husbands. One obvious question that I often receive concerning this is, “Why aren’t wives commanded to love their husbands?” The answer I always share is that God is not in the business of commanding us to do things that we naturally do on our own. Put simply, women love to love. And in a marriage between a goodwilled wife and a goodwilled husband, she doesn’t need a biblical command to love her husband unconditionally—she does it already!

“Help! Forget Respect—What If I Don’t Even Love My Husband?”

Marriage

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How a Husband Can Lose His Wife’s Heart and Then the Marriage

In the classic Charles Dickens tale A Christmas Carol, Ebenezer Scrooge needs encounters with three ghosts—those of Christmas past, of Christmas present, and of Christmas future—so as to be able to step out of his shoes for a moment and see how his horrid actions and attitude are affecting those around him in negative ways that he can’t see otherwise.

How a Husband Can Lose His Wife’s Heart and Then the Marriage

Marriage

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When 'What About My Needs?' Leads to a Broken Marriage

A wife wrote to me: "When I began reading Love & Respect, I could not get past the ‘What about my needs?’ question and never even made it to the chapter where this is addressed. "Years later, her husband leaves. She says, "I pulled out our copy of L&R. I finished it today, the day he moved out. It’s not for me to question God’s plan, but I am perplexed by why now, when it seems too late, I have read, understood, embraced, and realized how profoundly I have damaged this man I love and our union."

When 'What About My Needs?' Leads to a Broken Marriage

Marriage

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Is It Possible For a Hopeless Marriage To Turn Around When Christ Is At The Center?

I am asked all the time. “There’s no love left between us,” they say, “and we are tired of working at a loveless marriage. ”That may be how you feel, and I understand that discouragement. I get hundreds of emails with that kind of sentiment, and nearly every marriage goes through times when the love seems to be gone and one or both spouses want to give up. If this is you too, you need to know that you are not alone in this.

Is It Possible For a Hopeless Marriage To Turn Around When Christ Is At The Center?

Marriage

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God Is Still Working “Miracles” in Marriages!

God is for your marriage! Do you believe that? I mean, really believe that? It is my opinion that we can come to no other conclusion when we read how Jesus responded in Matthew 19 when the Pharisees asked Him if it was lawful for a man to divorce his wife.

God Is Still Working “Miracles” in Marriages!

Marriage

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“Help! Forget Respect—What If I Don’t Even Love My Husband?”

Marriage

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Are You Married to a Judas or a Peter?

Having spoken for more than two decades about Love and Respect and counseling couples for even longer than that, I have heard more than a few complaints from husbands and wives about their spouses, especially in emails: “This man will never love me the way you talk about! You would not believe what I have been putting up with all these years!”

Are You Married to a Judas or a Peter?

Marriage

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Divorce - Would You Abandon a Brand-New Lexus Just Because You Didn’t Know How to Work the Stick Shift?

I have either officiated or attended many weddings over the years. I bet you have been to quite a few as well. The bride is glowing, the groom is awe struck, and you couldn’t pry the smiles off their faces with a crow bar. All is perfect in their world. To the bride and groom, this day represents the culmination of years of anticipation that probably began long before they even met. Surrounded by friends and family, and in front of the God they praise for bringing them together, they joyfully dedicate their lives to each other, “till death do them part,” and launch themselves out into the world together, as both best friends and intimate companions. The adventure of a lifetime has begun!

Divorce - Would You Abandon a Brand-New Lexus Just Because You Didn’t Know How to Work the Stick Shift?

Marriage

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