Love and Respect Husband + Logo Mug
Are you a husband who just can’t reflect without your coffee but needs a new mug? This one is marked for you! Wives…this is a great respectful gift for your husband. They are finally here, mugs from Love and Respect! Whether you are engaging a Love and Respect product, like the 52 week devotional, and need your coffee to reflect; or you are a wife looking for a gift for your husband. Anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, weddings, or just because, this mug will look great both in the cupboard and in his hand.
Love & Respect Coffee Cup
The Husband Mug
Timeless Ceramic Mugs
Experience a hint of nostalgia with our traditional ceramic custom diner mugs, reminiscent of simpler times. These 11 oz. ceramic mugs boast a sturdy build, glossy exterior, slight top and bottom flare, and a thick curved grip for easy handling. They make a perfect addition to your mug collection, adding a touch of charm to your daily coffee or tea enjoyment. Let these timeless mugs transport you to cherished memories as you sip your favorite beverages in comfort and style.
Spark Conversations on Marriage, Family, and Faith!
Immerse yourself in captivating conversations about marriage, family, and faith as you sip from our engaging ceramic diner mugs. These mugs are not just ordinary drinkware; they serve as excellent conversation starters among neighbors and friends. Elevate your small group experience by adding these fun and interactive items to the mix. Let the mugs ignite engaging discussions and create lasting memories as you bond over shared experiences and heartfelt conversations.
Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
About Love & RespectProduct Quotes
God’s commands are not burdensome, but are given to us to spare us from more pain. Why would God command you to do something that doesn’t work?
Recognize your different gifts--how each of you (Pink and Blue) functions according to God’s perfect design.
Before hitting send, ask yourself, "Have I listened carefully and understand the exact issue on the table?"
Though the end can be worthy (to be loved and respected), when each uses unholy means (unloving and disrespectful words and actions), it will not achieve those ends. We must treat others as we expect them to treat us. To deny this makes us arrogant or fools, or both.
If you want your wife to express appreciation for your attempts to be loving, you must use thankful words when she tries to speak or act respectfully.
There is a discrepancy between who we want to be and see ourselves to be and how we actually sound in voice and writing. But with self-reflection and honesty, we can turn the corner and improve our communication. We need only evaluate what we are about to communicate.
Be quick to listen and understand and you have a much better chance of being understood.
Avoid like the plague trying to punish each other as a means of “motivation.” Christ-followers instinctively know that this destroys any opportunity to act out of reverence for Christ. In all marital issues, love and reverence for Christ must be our primary motivation.
A marriage relationship will be energized when couples learn how to motivate each other God’s way.
A parent needs to feel respected, especially during conflicts...A child need to feel loved, especially during disputes.
Marriage is a test of how you unconditionally love and respect your spouse as you obey, honor, and please the Lord.
God’s commands are there to help us, not to hinder us or hold us back as male and female.
Words of love from a husband are like good medicine that brings life to the marriage.
Life is too short to fuss and fret over trivial irritations.
As you pray together, you will truly learn to love and respect together.
When you come home after you have been apart, the first few moments of reconnecting will set the tone for the rest of the evening.
A woman needs love like she needs air to breathe. A man needs respect like he needs air to breathe.
Clarifying is what you do before you step on your mate’s air hose and deflate his or her spirit. For example, you are having a typical conversation, but you can tell there is a misunderstanding. One of you isn’t being clear or isn’t hearing correctly. Then and there you clarify the misunderstanding before your spouse’s spirit deflates. You lovingly or respectfully clarify matters so that your spouse will not feel unloved or disrespected. The reason you take pains to clarify a seemingly small matter is to prevent the situation from becoming a love and respect issue that needs decoding. Clarifying is what you do to stay off the Crazy Cycle and keep positive, energetic feelings flowing between the two of you, to keep yourselves on the Energizing Cycle.
One thing to remember in this culture is if we say something complimentary towards one gender, we aren’t saying something against the other.
Men are solution oriented, they love to solve problems. They want to be helpful.
Will we decide how we see God based on our circumstances, or will we see our circumstances in light of how we view God?
This is the Rewarded Cycle: His love blesses regardless of her respect and her respect blesses regardless of his love.
There is power and freedom that comes in understanding that no one can cause you to react in a certain way. It is your choice.
We have discovered that as women motivate their man God’s way, men are energized to love them better. It doesn’t matter if your marriage is good or seems like there is no hope. We have seen God move in powerful ways even when things looked hopeless.
We have different vulnerabilities. We can pass judgment on one another all day long or we can say God made us different and that’s ok.
You both forgive for one simple but profound reason: because you know Christ has forgiven you!
When a husband chooses to do or say something loving, and that includes saying, ‘I’m sorry for coming across in an unloving way,’ he energizes his wife. When a wife decides to express herself respectfully, and that includes apologizing for her disrespectful attitude, she energizes her husband.
Suppressing negative feelings is not loving, respectful or very wise. Speak up tactfully.
Your husband knows you value his friendship when you tell him you like him and you show it (he knows you love him, but he often wonders if you really like him).
When a wife insists that her husband earn her respect, she puts him in a lose-lose situation.
Our research shows that couples who pray together are more apt to reap all kinds of benefits, including better and more frequent communication, going on “dates” more frequently and having sex more frequently.
Your spouse deserves the truth from you. Do your best to tell it with love and respect.
When the wife flatly says her husband will have to earn her respect before she gives him any, she leaves the husband in a lose-lose situation. Now he is responsible for both love and respect in the relationship. He must unconditionally love his wife and earn her respect.
[Husbands] the most powerful weapons you have are your ears. Just listen to your wife, and she is much more likely to feel understood.
Since it is easy to focus on the negative, focus on your mate’s good qualities and express thanks with positive words of Love or Respect.
Knowing my spouse will not be able to love or respect me perfectly, I commit to having a forgiving spirit so that I may never speak hatefully or contemptuously.
Responding to offensive words or actions with your own offensive words and actions is damaging and unproductive.
Here is the secret to marriage that every couple seeks and yet few find: Unconditional respect is as powerful for him as unconditional love is for her. It’s the secret that will help you achieve a brand new level of intimacy.
Thank God for His forgiveness of your mistakes. In trying to be a loving man or a respectful woman, we blow it. Owning up to mistakes is never easy, but it is always the way to move forward. Take good care not to accuse your spouse of mistakes as you pray. Also, pray about any forgiving to be done in the family, any forgiveness that needs to be asked. Children may need forgiveness (and what about Mom and Dad?). “There is no one on earth who does what is right all the time and never makes a mistake.” (Ecclesiastes 7:20)
When we speak before we think, we widen the chances the other person(s) will be notably hurt, frustrated, confused, angry, fearful, or offended by something we’ve communicated.
To build a lasting legacy, use proven wisdom that you glean from the Lord.
To stay the course in speaking words of Love and Respect, keep your heart in Scripture, trusting in and talking about His promises to help you.
Although the Crazy Cycle is not what God intends for any marriage, all couples get on it at times from one degree to another.
When a wife asks, “Do you love me?” She is not trying to put her husband on the spot. She is simply looking for reassurance.
Above all trust God when the “whys” of life threaten to overwhelm you.
Just because you may feel unloved or disrespected does not mean your spouse is sending that message.
As a husband, if you can grasp that you don’t always have to solve your wife’s problems, you will take a giant step toward showing her empathy and understanding.
You’re the only person in the world who can meet your spouse’s deepest need for love and respect. After all, you alone are married to your spouse.
Truth will carry its own weight if delivered respectfully and lovingly.
We send each other messages in “code” based on gender, even though we don’t intend to. What I say is not what you hear, and what you think you heard is not what I meant at all.
The key to motivating another person is meeting their deepest need, especially during conflict.
So I encourage every husband and wife to commit to the Jesus Way of Talking. Instead of allowing the stress of the situation to control you, you can say to yourself, “Because I love the Lord and I know that He rewards every good word, I am going to be truthful even if my spouse is not. I will also be uplifting, forgiving, thankful and scriptural in my speech because my ultimate goal is to please the Lord. Whatever my spouse’s weaknesses or bad habits might be, I will not let them cause me to sin with my lips.”
Wives, to energize your husband do an activity with him, shoulder-to-shoulder, without talking.
Unconditional respect, like unconditional love, is all about how one sounds (tone of voice and word choice) and appears (facial expressions and physical actions).
Being friendly to her man is one of the most effective things a woman can do to strengthen her marriage.
When you’re truly Christ-centered, instead of child-centered, you will be a more effective parent in the long run.
A most significant point of this book is this: If what we think is true, kind, necessary, and clear, we need to have the courage to hit send. This isn’t about refraining from speaking; this is about speaking.
Through Jesus and Peter, God set forth His standard for living in the unconditional dimension: choose to be loving even when the other person is not; do what is right regardless of the treatment you receive. I believe this standard applies directly to marriage. A husband who speaks lovingly to his disrespectful wife will be rewarded; and a wife who speaks respectfully to her unloving, not-worthy-of-respect husband will be rewarded. Whether you are husband or wife, the reward is what can keep you going in the midst of the craziness: knowing that God commends you, knowing that you have found his favor for your words and actions.
No one can really practice Love and Respect unless he or she does it as unto Jesus Christ.
Stay the course regardless of the child’s respect and obedience. This is the Family Rewarded Cycle: a parents love unto Christ regardless of the child.
Your marriage is really a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and reverence for your Lord.
We might say that every negative action in the family has an equal and opposite negative reaction.
When there is confusion, I try to refrain from attacking another for not listening carefully (which may not be the case). Instead, I take a run at communicating again, but more clearly.
We blame people for the bad things we do, but take credit for the good things we do.
You have to become proactive, rather than just trying to stop the reactive.
Research shows that 70% of the couples who were extremely unhappy in their marriage, but hung in there and worked through the tough time, identified themselves as being very happy five years later.
His love motivates her respect. Her respect motivates his love.
Thank the Lord for the goodwill each of you has toward the other. Ask Him for strength to give each other the benefit of the doubt during moments when someone’s goodwill seems to be lacking. “He who seeks good finds goodwill, but evil comes to him who searches for it.” (Proverbs 11:27)
A wife has one driving need--to feel loved. When that need is met she is happy. A husband has one driving need--to feel respected. When that need is met he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love and Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily and biblically.
We get on the Crazy Cycle because without love a wife reacts without respect, and without respect a husband reacts without love.
As mature men, we need to take leadership and put this out on the table. We must acknowledge our feelings- we need to feel respected. However, as we do this we must acknowledge our wife’s feelings- she needs to feel loved!
God designed the woman to love. He’s not going to command her to agape her husband when He created her to do that in the first place. God is not into redundancy.
When a husband feels disrespected, it is especially hard to love his wife. When a wife feels unloved, it is especially hard to respect her husband.
[Husbands] as the church places her burdens on Christ, so a woman needs to place her burdens on her husband. When she shares with you, don’t assume she is asking you to solve the problem. Ask your wife, “Do you want a solution or a listening ear?”
To not forgive is to shoot yourself in the foot and put extra gas in the Crazy Cycle.
Women give a report to build rapport. Men bond through shoulder-to-shoulder activities without talking.
Troubles over sex and money do not cause a marriage to go under. The lack of love and respect during conflict cause the marriage to go under.
It’s so easy to dismiss our spouse as childish because we don’t have the same vulnerabilities they do.
Don’t conclude that your spouse is wrong when he/she is seeking to do the right and righteous thing.
No matter how difficult your spouse may be at the moment, your spouse does not have control over your reaction; you do. You may be experiencing disappointment, frustration, or anger, but you always have a choice.