We greatly appreciate the vulnerability and honesty of countless couples who write to us not only sharing their pain in marriage but also the victory in overcoming obstacles. One such couple is Bernhard and Vikki Langer.
Bernhard Langer is a Professional Golfer and two time winner of the Masters, winner of the 2010 and 2014 Senior British Open and the 2010 Senior U.S. Open. He was known as one of the world’s best golfers throughout the 80s and 90s.
Bernhard and his wife, Vikki, experienced many challenges in their marriage. Cultural differences (he is German and she is American) along with his extensive travel schedule took a toll on their marriage.
Several years ago they were at the point of giving up. Then everything changed for them when PGA Tour chaplain, Larry Moody, gave Bernhard the Love & Respect book. Watch what he has to say about the Crazy Cycle and how this powerful biblical message impacted his marriage.
Most Marriages Struggle in the Same Areas
Bernhard said he and Vikki realized that most marriages struggle in the same areas, so they shared the Love & Respect book with other couples. They also got the Love & Respect DVD study and began leading several small groups.
Other marriages started to change just like theirs did. Langer raves, “There’s nothing that can improve a marriage better or faster than this concept. The couple makes a few small changes and the marriage changes in a heartbeat.”
Principle Driven Not Problem Focused
Bernard and Vikki discovered that Love and Respect is principle driven, not problem focused. That means whatever issues you may face in your marriage can be addressed using the principles of unconditional love and unconditional respect. For example, you can confront any issue lovingly and respectfully rather than with contempt and harshness. Doing so will energize your marriage!
What changes do you need to make in your marriage? Begin today by choosing one thing you will commit to change. Share this with a trusted friend who will hold you accountable.
Then watch your marriage change!