Male and Female Communication — Love and Respect Podcast Ep. 034

Emerson and Jonathan respond to an inquiry and talk about why the key to a successful marriage is, in fact, not communication.

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02:00—Take three: Emerson reviews last week’s episode.

07:24—Hey, single people (and everyone else on the planet)—listen up!

What Do Parents And Children Need?

Parents need to be treated with honor and respect.

Exodus 20:12“Honor your father and your mother.”

Leviticus 19:3“Each of you must respect your mother and father.”

Matthew 15:4“Honor your father and your mother.”

Hebrews 12:9“We had earthly fathers to discipline us, and we respected them.”

Children need to be treated with love and compassion.

Titus 2:3,4 — “Older women likewise…encourage the young women…to love their children.”

Psalm 103:13“Just as a father has compassion on his children, so the LORD has compassion on those who fear Him.”

Proverbs 3:12“For whom the LORD loves He reproves, even as a father corrects the son in whom he delights.”

Luke 15:20“So he got up and came to his father. But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and felt compassion for him, and ran and embraced him and kissed him.”

Isaiah 49:15“Can a woman forget her nursing child and have no compassion on the son of her womb? Even these may forget, but I will not forget you.”

My Husband Isn’t Who I Want Him to Be – Part 2

Should a Wife Lower Her Expectations?

Years ago I read on the side of a coffee mug, “Want to be happy with me? Lower your expectations.”

We laugh since we interpret the comments on the side of the mug as lame excuse-making. Those of us who are “normal” insist that the expectations placed on another person are appropriate, and this individual is demanding license to be selfish and excused from responsible living.

But could there be some truth here? Do we to need to lower our expectations?

Do some wives possess unrealistic expectations, and would they be far happier given they were lowered?

My Husband Isn’t Who I Want Him to Be – Part 1

In Jo Berry’s book, Beloved Unbeliever, she shares,

Diane confessed…she mentally put down her husband. She mocked his ideas and his reactions or responses and secretly made fun of his opinions…

“One day, when she visited him at his office, she was struck by the tremendous respect his co-workers, his secretary, and his boss showed him. She shared how she got a knot in her stomach when she heard a man who is older and more experienced than her husband say, ‘Yes, sir’, to him. And she was both frightened and ashamed when she saw how his young secretary looked up to and admired him…  

“When I got to the car, I started crying… The thing that disturbed me most is that I was judging him not because of his actions or because he isn’t a good husband, but because he wasn’t what I wanted him to be…” (p.48).

How revealing.

Her Deciphering

As she recognizes the good qualities and actions of her husband in the context of his work environment, she deciphers her unwarranted judgmentalism.

What was the basis of her judgment? “He wasn’t what I wanted him to be.”

The #1 Paradox When Parenting God’s Way

In the Bible, there is a plan to parent God’s way.

When we parent His way, we succeed in His eyes.

As a parent, I know you wish to succeed His way!

Would you receive commendation?

I believe you seek inspiration and information on how to parent God’s way.

I salute you.

I applaud you.

I admire you.

But in order to better ourselves, we need to recognize an important parenting paradox:

Parenting God’s way has nothing to do with the kids!

Is this a contradiction? Oxymoron? Absurdity?

This seemingly absurd statement proves true upon further investigation. God has His standard for parents, and it has nothing to do with the children.

Tuesday Night is Coming, So Who Decides About Sexual Intimacy? — Love and Respect Podcast Ep. 033

“But if you should marry…such will have trouble in this life…” (1 Corinthians 7:28). Scripture teaches there will be trouble in marriage. Get ready for it!

In this week’s episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss preferences and needs around the issue of sexual intimacy in the context of marriage.

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00:47—Bathing suits and wool hats.

02:19—Reviewing last week’s episode and the impact of seeking a child’s forgiveness.

05:12—Tuesday night is coming—a personal and biblical perspective.

09:40—My way or your way? The answer is yes.