Help before I can't take it anymore

[ehansen]

It has been almost a year since I found out my husband was having an emotional affair. He said months ago, it was over. Things were ok for awhile, now he is back to being distant and not resposive. There have been issues throughout this year. I cannot get the affair out of my heart. It is out of my head but not out of my heart. I hurt sometimes. say I love you at least three times a day. He texts it at least twice. I am just afriad he is playing a game as he has grown distant again. He is not interested in being intimate with me which has developed over the past 3 monhs. He says he's just depressed. He just started prozac,I hate it. And sometimes think of getting out. We did therapy for 9 months. I don't know what to do but he is not happy and I feel responsible. Can anyone help?

[suelittle29]

If your husband is truly depressed, and if his doctor put him on prozac, I imagine that he is.... then you cannot fault him for his "depressed" behaviour...

Depression is an ILLNESS... sadly, it negatively affects those around him.. especially you. (or I)

After calling Focus on the Family one day, they sent me the book "Unmasking Male Depression".. by Archibald D. Hart... it is written for men who are suffering from depression, but it was a real eye opener for me...

Chapter 14 is for wives... but the whole book is a must read if your husband is depressed.

Remember: Depression is an illness... you would never think to leave your husband because he was suffering from Cancer or Diabetes, or High Blood Pressure... so don't consider leaving him because he is suffering from depression

I'm not saying it will be easy... but if I had known my husband was suffering from depression earlier, our Maximum Crazy Cycles could've/would've been avoided.... If only I had known....

Please, READ THE BOOK... If I knew you, I would lend you my copy... but I can vouch that it is worth Every Penny...

also, a secular book called "Depression Fallout the impact of Depression on Couples and what you can do to preserve the bond" by Anne Sheffield... also good, but gives no real answers on what you can do to "preserve the bond"

If you need someone to chat with, I'm on facebook "Susan Trotman Little"