New Here & AMAZED!!!!!!

[gloria p]

Hello, I am new here to this forum.

I couldn't help but resist to join the forum and share how the Love & Respect book and principles have changed my marriage and really opened my eyes to a deeper appreciation of God's Word. Truly, His word will not return void!

2 yrs ago, I completely surrendered my life to Christ. Prior to becoming a Christian, I was a devout Mormon for almost 20 yrs. My husband, ( we have been married for 17 yrs) was not happy , to put it lightly. Our marriage has spiraled, and as of this summer, we have been seperated. ( about 4 months)

My husband came to me over a month ago, and told me he didn't love me and wanted a divorce. His choices and behaviors were clearly showing me he was angry at me and didn't want much to do with me or our marriage.

A few weeks back, I was in a bookstore browsing books for christmas gifts.
There was one copy of the Love & Respect book on the bottom shelf, along with the Communication book Emerson has written. No other books. I picked it up, and honestly I just tossed it back, seeing it was yet "another" marriage book , and thinking my marriage was pretty much over, didn't see the point.
Well, God did see the "point". I was deeply impressed to purchase that book, and even though I resisted, I did purchase it.

I brought it home, and began to read and all I can say is WOW. I immediately sensed this was not just another book on marriage. Based on scripture, I felt as if my eyes were opened literally, ( kind of like the expierence I had reading the bible for the first time) and scales began to drop.

I immediately began to implement the principles Emerson laid out....

THat very day I started with the Respect Test.....I told my husband that I respected him for working so hard to provide for the family.

Each day I would say something simple and sincere.

Within a few days, my husband began to do things he has not done in years....like wash the dishes, and help out with the kids!

I continued to read the Love & respect book, and implement as much as I could. I realized that my husband's deep need and desire was to be respected, and I not knowing this was the case, had not been doing so!

I apologized to him for not respecting him thru the years. He looked at me like I was "nuts". :)

A few days ago came a HUGE break thru......

For the first time in over 4 months my husband hugged me!!!

Then , he called me a sweet term of endearment I had not heard him call me since we were dating!!! I about passed out.

The real clincher came when he asked me if he could "court me" ( essentialy a chance to win back my heart) I had to ask him to repeat that because I could not believe what I was hearing!!!

The man who wanted to divorce me a few months back, and told me he didn't love me and here he was hugging me and telling me he loved me and wanted to win me back!

This is nothing short of a miracle!

I had been praying so much, asking the Lord to heal our marriage, and to redeem the years the locusts have stolen.

I believe He has used Emmerson's book to do just that -- as I began to respect my husband and treat him the way God's word tells me I should, I immediately began to see big changes.

God truly is faithful, and even though we are still not completely "together" ( still seperated) I am hopeful for the first time in a long long time.

Praise God for His word, for truly as we obey He truly does work things out for our good and for His glory.

In Christ,
Gloria

[firemanswife]

Thank you for posting Gloria!

Your post is very encouraging to the rest of us who are doing our best to follow God's commands and respect our husbands. Please continue to post and keep us updated on the progress in your marriage!!

I will be praying for you!

[gloria p]

I will be praying for you![/QUOTE]
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Thank you so much for taking time to pray for me and my marriage!!!
I also would like to ask for prayers for my husband's salvation.
God is able, and I am encouraged ~
gloria

[firemanswife]

Gloria, I will also be praying for your husband's salvation. That is where I am at right now. My husband is not saved. It is so hard to know that God is the answer but also know they have to come to that conclusion on their own. (with lots of prayer and the Holy Spirit!)

Praying without ceasing!

~Cyndi

[gloria p]

Gloria, I will also be praying for your husband's salvation. That is where I am at right now. My husband is not saved. It is so hard to know that God is the answer but also know they have to come to that conclusion on their own. (with lots of prayer and the Holy Spirit!)

Praying without ceasing!

~Cyndi

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Cyndi ~

Thank you so much for agreeing in prayer with me for our husband's salvation!

Reminds me of the passage in Matt. 18:19

" again I say to you that if two of you agree on earth concerning anything that they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven."

God bless,
gloria

[Corwin999]

Praise the Lord and all He does!

This is a powerful testimony to how the Lord works, and also that we have to open ourselves to the Lord's leading. For His own reasons, he generally doesn't override our own desires, but works within them. Thus, we need to desire His will above all things.

It's also a powerful testimony to how putting Godly things into practice can have immediate and practical results. Faith without works is dead; an approved workman is not ashamed!

[lostlove]

Gloria- your post is a refreshing post. I am so pleased to hear that your marriage is being restored. God does his best work when we listen and follow his instructions.

Keep being a blessing to your husband, and he will continue to draw nearer to you.

Thank you Lord for all you are doing in our lives. Thank you for bringing hope and reconcilliation to Gloria in this time. I know your timing is perfect, please help us with the patience needed on our part.

[gloria p]

Thank you Lord for all you are doing in our lives. Thank you for bringing hope and reconcilliation to Gloria in this time. I know your timing is perfect, please help us with the patience needed on our part.

AMEN! Thank you for joining me in praising the Lord above for what He is doing in our lives. I am especially grateful for what He is doing in my marriage. I am hopeful.

In christ,
gloria